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Bonding
Welcome to Bonding – a kinky podcast hosted by me, Sarah Butcher – AKA Sub in the City. I am a BDSM Coach, Kink Educator, Sex-Positive Therapist, and proudly collared submissive with over a decade of experience on the BDSM Scene. I’m on a mission to bring BDSM into the 21st Century and empower curious kinksters like yourselves to consciously explore what BDSM means to you. In this podcast, you’ll hear me talk about all things kink – so whether you’re new to the scene, or you’re a long-standing member of the community, welcome Kinksters, I’m looking forward to bonding with you.
Episodes
24 episodes
The Sacred Healing Power of Kink
Happy New Year, kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and this one is a JUICY one! 💦I’ve recently been reflecting on the work that I do, both as a Humanistic Integrative Therapist and Kink Coach and Educator, and feeling fa...
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Season 2
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Episode 16
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11:45
Curious about Impact Play?
Greetings, fellow kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and today’s special focus is on impact play. In this jam-packed podcast, we dive deep into the art of impact - uncovering the science behind why we enjoy pain-based pleasure,...
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Season 2
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Episode 15
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20:27
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Kinky Confessions from our Halloween Underworld
Blood Lust Confessions - Halloween Cocktails & Kink! 🎙️Join us for a deliciously tantalizing episode as I dive into the wildest confessions from Blood Lust, our latest Halloween cocktail and kink event! This episode, ...
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Season 2
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Episode 14
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20:40
Slave vs Service Sub: Exploring the Differences in BDSM
In this episode of Bonding, I dive into the nuanced differences between slave and service submission within the BDSM dynamic. I answer a listener's question about the two terms, discussing how each reflects varying degrees of power exc...
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Season 2
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Episode 13
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13:55
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What NOT to say when chatting someone up
Spooky season has begun and I'm back in your earbuds with another episode of Bonding. This week I talk to you about etiquette - the do's and don'ts when you're chatting up potential kinky partners. I discuss how to initiate conversations with l...
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Season 2
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Episode 12
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19:33
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Dom and Sub Mystery Questions
Sarah and Carlos ask each other three mystery questions . The result? A glorious episode of memory sharing, confessions, gratitude and love. Tune in to this bonus episode of Bonding to hear more from Sarah and her Dom/fiancé Carlos....
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Season 2
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Episode 11
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32:06
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PSA Lack of experience is NOT a red flag. Top tips for vetting a partner
Just with any dating process, determining whether someone is right for you, or has the potential to develop something with you takes time and awareness.Within the world of kink, vetting is a very common part of dating and sociali...
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Season 2
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Episode 10
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16:22
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Creativity & Kink: Your Inner Child Loves Kink!
BDSM and kink is all about PLAY! However the censorship of BDSM within mainstream media feeds into this societal misconception that adulting is hard, and boring, and serious. That adults are not allowed to PLAY! It is said that ...
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Season 2
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Episode 9
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12:09
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Bratting vs Topping from the bottom: How to get what you want from your Dom whilst remaining in surrender.
Do you identify as a BRAT? Do you love to test your Dom and take control? Or do you wish you could surrender more? In this episode I break down the difference between bratting and ‘topping from the bottom’ as well as giving all sub...
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Season 2
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Episode 8
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16:17
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Tapping into your intuition: How to spot red flags, set boundaries from a place of alignment rather than fear.
Today I'm sharing some top tips on tapping into your intuition to help you spot red flags, identify your boundaries, and most importantly, uphold these boundaries.Our intuition is our gut feeling, that sense that we can’t always tell wha...
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Season 2
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Episode 7
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15:48
Ask Me and My Dom Anything: Part 2
In this episode, Carlos and I are back on the couch answering your kinky questions again. We talk about all things communication, playfulness, sex parties and libido.Want to learn more about these topics? Head to
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Season 2
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Episode 6
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24:05
Kink Magik: Releasing shame through eroticising the taboo
In this episode, I share with you the ways in which BDSM & Kink can allow us to welcome in our shadows. Whether it be limiting beliefs, insecurities, fears or shame, I explain how eroticising these feelings helps us take back control and em...
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Season 2
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Episode 5
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17:18
BDSM is NOT what it says on the tin: Looking beyond the myths & stereotypes of BDSM & Kink
BDSM – an acronym that can sound incredibly intimidating. In this quick and dirty episode, I talk about the barriers to entry that come with the term BDSM, define what kink actually is, and explore what it truly means to explor...
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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12:23
All About Collars: Symbolism, Practicality and Style
In this episode, I discuss BDSM collars, their meaning, and why we use them. I also touch on the collars I wear, and how you can start to consider using a collar that feels aligned to you in your power play dynamic. In this episode, I t...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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23:45
Ask me and my Dom anything!
In this episode, I am joined by my Dom/fiance as we answer some of your questions about our D/s dynamic and kink in general. We go into topics such as navigating your kinkiness in dating, long-distance must-dos, coming out about your kink...
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Season 2
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Episode 2
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41:26
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My Kink Journey: Mistakes, mishaps and insights that led me to become a Kink Educator AND find the love of my life!
Welcome back to season 2 of Bonding! In this episode, I open up about my own kink journey, where it began, some of the mishaps and learnings along the way, and give you some of my biggest insights I wish I knew in my early days. I also share ho...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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32:57
Kink, Intimacy & Connection: What TF is Conscious Kink and how to practice it
What TF is Conscious Kink? This term “conscious” has become a bit of a buzzword in the spiritual and sexual wellness spaces, but it’s not as intimidating as it sounds! In this episode, I debunk the idea that Kink can’t be conscious, and explain...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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8:49
Boredom, Confidence & Stuckness: Signs you've hit a plateau on your kink journey
Have you been feeling stuck recently? Perhaps your kinky play sessions are not quite hitting the spot or you're feeling uninspired and not sure where to go next? In this episode, I discuss some common roadblocks in BDSM & Kink and how to na...
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Season 1
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Episode 7
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13:22
Long Distance BDSM: Tips for keeping the kink alive
How do you keep things fresh when you’re in a long-distance D/s dynamic? BDSM requires commitment and consistency which means LD dynamics can be difficult to navigate at first. Whether you’re fully LD or you need some tips for when you’re ap...
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Season 1
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Episode 6
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10:48
Pain, Power Exchange and Safewords Debunked!
Isn’t BDSM meant to be painful? Isn’t the risk all part of the fun? …yes and no. There are so many misconceptions around BDSM and how it should be experienced. In this episode, I debunk some common stereotypes and talk about my own experiences ...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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12:24
BDSM, Sex Parties & Monogamy
Do monogamy and kink really go together? Isn’t playing with others an inevitable part of BDSM? What about kink parties? I get a lot of questions about feeling apart of the kink community when you are in a monogamous D/s dynamic or simply want t...
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Season 1
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Episode 4
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12:02
Sub Space, is it worth the hype?
What is Sub Space? Have you ever felt it? And how do we get there? In this episode, I am diving into the sought-after state known as Sub Space, discussing the pros and cons, what it might look like for you, and how to navigate it. Not everyone ...
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Season 1
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Episode 3
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16:59
Consistency within Kink & re-framing 24/7 D/s dynamics
How do we fit our kinky lifestyles around our vanilla responsibilities and commitments? The concept of the 24/7 Dominant/submissive dynamic sounds super decadent and inspiring, but also unattainable and unsustainable for many of us with other p...
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Season 1
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Episode 2
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14:46
