Becoming One
"Becoming One" with Dr. Matt Townsend is your go-to podcast for cultivating lasting love and stronger connections in your relationships. As one of the leading experts in the field of human relations & development, Dr. Matt Townsend blends humor, and real-life practical skills & solutions to inspire healthier, more fulfilling relationships with yourself, your partner, and your higher power.
Episodes
21 episodes
The ONLY Relationship Advice You'll Ever Need (In 6 Minutes)
If you only ever listen to one more podcast on relationships, let it be this one. This 6 minute episode contains what I believe to be the most transformative piece of relationship advice possible. After 25 years, meeting with 5000+ ...
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5:55
How to Break Toxic Communication Habits Before They Break You (& Your Kid's Future Relationships)
Toxic communication doesn’t just hurt your relationship—it teaches your kids how love is supposed to sound. Every argument, shutdown, or harsh word becomes part of the script they’ll carry into their own relationships.In this episode, yo...
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22:55
Why He 'Turns It On' for Everyone Else—But Doesn’t Try With You
In this episode, I’ll unpack why so many men can "turn it on" in public but, seemingly shut down at home, especially with the person they love most. We'll talk about emotional fatigue, unspoken expectations, and what’s really going on under the...
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8:33
How to Regain Your Voice in a Relationship
Recently someone sent me this question..."My partner is super strong-willed and confident. I admire that about them, but over time I’ve found myself just going along with things to avoid conflict. Now I don’t even know what I want...
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13:25
My Husband Doesn't Help Around the House (& Gets Mad When I Ask)
Are you tired of being met with anger from your partner, when you try to vocalize that you'd like more help? If so you're not alone. This is an extremely common problem I see with my clients. In this video, I coach a member of my Becoming One w...
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16:54
How to Get An Avoidant Partner to Stop Shutting Down During Conflict
If you have an avoidant husband/wife, who shuts down, withdraws, or runs away during conflict, then this episode is for you. Today, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekly group coaching program on this very topic.If you want to get ...
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16:05
How to Get Your Partner to Stop 'Fixing' and Start Validating Your Feelings
Does your partner always try to "fix" your problems, leaving you feeling unheard, & invalidated? In this episode, I coach a former engineer Jorge, on what he can do to solve this, be a better listener, and help his wife feel validated and t...
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My Husband Runs Away From Conflict... What Can I Do?
What if my partner runs away during conflict? In this episode, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekly group coaching program on one of my most frequently asked questions. If you’re dealing with this, and want to learn from me, ...
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4 Communication Ruts That Are Killing Your Relationship
Communication can make or break a relationship—but most couples don’t realize the small habits that are slowly tearing them apart. The truth is, we all fall into communication ruts that create distance, resentment, and frustration. But the good...
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I Hate My Mother In-Law
Struggling with a difficult mother-in-law? You’re not alone. Many couples face tension, conflict, and stress when dealing with in-laws, which can put a serious strain on their marriage. In this episode, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekl...
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9:27
My Husband Can’t Communicate Without Getting Defensive
If you struggle to communicate with your husband or wife, due to one or both of you getting defensive, you are not alone. Today, I chat with a caller live and explore effective strategies to foster open dialogue and reduce defensiveness in rela...
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15:33
Dr. John Gottman Shares the Secrets to a Happy & Lasting Marriage (Based on 40+ Years of Research)
I was fortunate to interview Dr. John Gottman, the world's #1 marriage/relationship expert. John has spent 40+ years studying what makes relationships last—and what causes them to fail, and today, he's sharing the research backed strategies hap...
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34:25
I Coached 5,000+ Struggling Couples—These 5 Habits Make or Break A Marriage
I’ve coached 5,000+ struggling couples over the past 25 years, and I’ve found there are 5 habits that separate happy, thriving relationships from those that are falling apart. In my latest video, I’m breaking down the 5 things happy couples do ...
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41:45
4 Game-Changing Marriage Rules You’ll Wish You Knew Sooner
Marriage is hard—no one hands you a rulebook when you say 'I do.' But what if you had a guide to avoid common pitfalls and build a thriving relationship? In this episode, Dr. Matt's diving into 4 Game-Changing Marriage Rules You’ll Wish You ...
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27:34
5 Keys to Fall Back In Love With Your Partner In 2025
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? In this episode, we uncover the 5 Keys to Fall Back In Love With Your Partner in 2025. Dr. Matt shares practical tools to help you and your partner rebuild connection and create a relatio...
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37:27
Why You and Your Partner Can’t Stop Fighting (and How to Stop the Cycle)
Tired of endless arguments in your marriage? In today's episode, I break down 4 common communication mistakes I’ve seen couples make in my 25+ years as a marriage coach—and share real, actionable tips to fix each one. Listen now and start turni...
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16:43
5 Steps to a Happier Holiday Season
For many of us, the holiday season brings a whirlwind of unmet expectations, family drama, financial strain, and burnout. But it doesn’t have to be that way!In this episode, we’ll explore five practical steps to help you create an...
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38:56
3 Keys to Resolve Marriage Conflict Fast
Are conflicts creating distance in your marriage? In this episode, we dive into 3 Principles to Resolve Marriage Conflict Fast. Whether you're dealing with recurring arguments or an unexpected blow-up, these principles will help you el...
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38:17
These 4 Simple Questions Transform Relationships
In today's episode, Matt discusses 4 questions we should ask ourselves, to make sure we're bringing our very best self to our most important relationships. LINKS MENTIONED DURING THE EPISODE:Learn more about my "Becoming On...
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5 Beliefs That Are Killing Your Relationship
In this episode, I share 5 beliefs that are killing your relationship, that I've gathered from 25 years of coaching thousands of couples.Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Dh_Jtp1anXQLINKS MENTIONED DURING THE E...
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My #1 Piece of Marriage Advice For Every Stage
In this episode of "The Becoming One Podcast", I share my best piece of advice for every stage of marriage, that I've gathered from 25 years of coaching thousands of couples.Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qEMGFPPLWK...
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