You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is for women who are done asking why emotionally unavailable men keep showing up — and are finally ready to change the way they relate.
This isn’t a podcast about fixing yourself or dissecting your past.
It’s for the woman who has outgrown the old patterns and is tired of repeating the same dynamic with different men. The chemistry is there. The potential is there. And yet… the consistency, depth, and emotional presence never fully arrive.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic, trauma-informed Relationship and Self-Leadership Coach, this podcast is rooted in the Magnetic Connections Pathway — Presence, Agency, and Empowerment — the embodied shift that changes who you attract and what you tolerate.
Here, we name the moments most women minimize: when your jaw tightens because he didn’t follow up after the date and you tell yourself not to make a big deal out of it, when you soften your voice before asking for consistency so you don’t seem “too much,” when you swallow your disappointment and say you’re fine because you don’t want to lose the connection.
That’s not maturity. That’s self-abandonment dressed up as patience.
Emotionally unavailable men aren’t the problem — they’re the feedback. They show up when you’re still over-functioning in connection: waiting longer than you want for a text back, explaining away inconsistency, accepting vague plans, or telling yourself “this is just how dating is now” instead of naming what you actually need.
Each episode names what most women are taught to tolerate — inconsistency, silence, mixed signals — and challenges you to stop managing relationships that require you to disappear, so you can lead from self-trust, clear standards, and agency that doesn’t ask permission.
This isn’t about becoming harder or more guarded.
It’s about becoming unavailable for anything that requires self-betrayal.
Because you’re not asking for too much.
You’ve just been accepting too little.
And that ends here.
You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
21: Permission to Grieve
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In this heartfelt episode, I open up about navigating the end of a relationship that ended suddenly and unexpectedly just before the holidays. Without the usual progression of a relationship fading over time, the recovery has been uniquely challenging. I share my journey of giving myself permission to grieve—allowing space for my feelings while setting a date to start moving forward.
Grief is messy, healing is imperfect, and that’s okay. Taking time alone for self-reflection has been a powerful tool for me, and I encourage you to honor your own grief while recognizing the value of setting boundaries around it. Breakups, while painful, can also be opportunities for incredible growth and positive change.
I discuss my decision to no longer give second chances in relationships where the underlying reasons for the breakup remain unresolved. This clarity has strengthened my resolve to date with intention, to see past relationships not as failures but as lessons, and to focus on helping other women navigate their relationships.
Healing is a journey, and small changes add up to transformative ones over time. It’s never too late to begin loving yourself, to seek healthy relationships, and to gain clarity on what you truly want. Let this episode inspire you to give yourself grace, honor your feelings, and keep striving for the love and life you deserve.
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