You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is the podcast for high-achieving women who’ve been told they’re too much — too intense, too emotional, too ambitious — and are done contorting themselves to fit into relationships that silence their truth.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, a certified somatic trauma-informed relationship coach and former people-pleaser turned powerhouse, this show is your space to unravel the deep, hidden patterns that keep strong women stuck in cycles of self-abandonment — whether with a partner, a parent, a boss, or even a best friend.
This isn't just about trauma recovery or dating advice. It's about breaking free from the belief that you have to shrink to be loved, prove to be chosen, or tolerate dysfunction just to stay connected.
If you’ve built a life that looks good on the outside but feels misaligned inside — if you're exhausted from holding it all together, yet silently wondering why real connection still feels out of reach — you’re not broken.
You’re just ready for the truth.
Each episode combines raw storytelling, nervous system-based tools, and radically honest conversations to help you stop performing for love and start leading from a place of deep self-trust and radical boundaries.
Because you're not too much — you're just done accepting too little.
It’s time to reclaim your voice. Reinvent your relationships. And remember the power that’s been yours all along.
Episodes
64 episodes
64: Grieving What Could Have Been - The Breakup That Broke Me Open
There’s grief in death - but there’s also grief in the life you pictured that didn’t happen.In this raw and deeply personal episode, Darla Ridilla shares what it really looks like to grieve the invisible losses - the breakup that shatter...
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Episode 64
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27:52
63: When the Unthinkable Happens - Grief, Motherhood & the Search for Hope With Eryn Elder
This is the grief we don’t talk about - the kind that breaks your body, shatters your identity, and forces you to rebuild from nothing. In this opening episode of our new series, The Cost of Carrying It All, we explore what it means to...
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Episode 63
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51:47
62: Messy, Beautiful, and Real - Healing and Emotional Resilience Through Art with Susan Day
Sometimes words just aren’t enough. You can analyze, journal, and talk through your pain—but your body still remembers what your mind is trying to forget.In this episode, Darla sits down with Mindful Arts Therapist Susan Day, who’s redef...
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Episode 62
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47:13
61: Beyond Numbing - Learning to Feel Instead of Escape
We all have our go-to escapes—food, wine, shopping, scrolling—when life feels overwhelming. But here’s the hard truth: most of what we call coping is really numbing. It silences the emotions we’ve never been taught to process and leaves us stuc...
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Episode 61
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29:16
60: From Emotional Eating to Emotional Freedom With Jillian Scott
If you’ve ever found yourself standing in front of the fridge when you weren’t even hungry, reaching for food to calm the storm of emotions inside, this conversation is for you.In the first episode of Healing Beyond Words: Food, Art, and...
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Episode 60
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1:03:35
59: The Power of Knowing: Breaking Free from the Model and Redefining Connection with Amy Vasterling
What if the root of our anxiety, people-pleasing, and unhealthy relationship patterns isn’t personal weakness—but a deeper cultural conditioning that keeps us trapped in hierarchy and control?In Part 3 of the Radical Truth in Relatio...
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Episode 59
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1:00:01
58: From Fear to Freedom: The Power of Speaking Your Truth
In this raw and unfiltered solo episode—part two of the series Radical Truth in Relationships: From Straight Talk to Lasting Connection—Darla Ridilla opens up about the cost of silence and the radical freedom that comes from telling th...
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57: Breaking Free - Straight Talk, Dark Nights & The Prison We Build Ourselves With Sandra Valks
What if the prison keeping you stuck… was built by you?In this powerful opening episode of our new Radical Truth in Relationships series, I sit down with Sandra J. Valks—veteran financial advisor turned Confidence Coach and Quee...
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Episode 57
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1:01:44
56: You Can’t Heal What You Keep Hiding: Real Talk on Men, Intimacy, and Emotional Safety With Liz Beachy
Let’s get brutally honest: most men were never taught how to feel.They were taught to perform. Provide. Power through. But not to feel.In this unfiltered episode, Liz Beachy joins me for a raw conversation about how emotional supp...
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Episode 56
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1:02:52
55: Finding Myself First: Single on Purpose and the Power of Wholeness
This solo episode of You Have the Power builds on my conversation with Katherine Kimball about raising standards in dating — and takes the next step: realizing that the most important relationship I can ever commit to is the one I have...
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Episode 55
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33:59
54: From Scarcity to Standards - My Personal Shift in Dating and Self-Trust With Katherine Kimball
What happens when you stop chasing love and start choosing yourself?In this powerful kickoff to the Radical Relationship Recovery: Rebuilding from the Inside Out series, I sit down with Katherine Kimball—my former counsel...
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Episode 54
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1:08:24
53: Awakening Your Power: The Stories, the Summit, and the Sisterhood with Amy and Nancy Harrington (The Passionistas)
In this powerful conversation, I sit down with sisters Amy and Nancy Harrington — former Hollywood insiders turned founders of The Passionistas Project — to talk about awakening, empowerment, and the transformative power of women’s sto...
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Episode 53
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52:28
52: From Recovery to Radical Truth: The New Era of You Have the Power
One year ago, I started this podcast to talk about trauma, narcissistic abuse, and the long road to recovery. But what I didn’t know was how much I would change along the way.This episode marks a turning point — not just in the show’s ti...
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Episode 52
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34:33
51: Parenting Differently: From Triggered to Trusting with Debbie Simmons
Part 2 of Breaking the Cycle: Generational Trauma & Emotional InheritanceWhat if your child’s meltdown was actually a mirror? What if every outburst, every triggered reaction, was pointing you back to your own healing?I...
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Episode 51
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50: Your Trauma Backpack is Full — and It’s Not Even Yours
You didn’t choose the chaos, the shame, or the silence — but you’re still carrying it.In this powerful first episode of Breaking the Cycle: Generational Trauma & Emotional Inheritance, Darla Ridilla exposes the truth about w...
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Episode 50
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33:44
49: Unveiling the Truth: Overcoming Sexual Abuse and Finding Your Voice With Beth Brunk
In this powerful episode, part 4 of the Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse series, I welcome Beth Brunk, a woman who has triumphed over unimaginable pain and betrayal. Raised in a strict fellowship, Beth faced years of se...
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Episode 49
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52:49
48: Reclaiming Your Body, Your Boundaries, Your Power
In Part 3 of my Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse series, I open up about one of the hardest truths: forgiveness is not always owed to our abusers.In this raw, unfiltered episode, I share why I choose not to forgi...
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Episode 48
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22:31
47: Owning Your Story, Reclaiming Your Power: Breaking the Chains of Sexual Abuse with Ada Lloyd
What happens when the people who were supposed to protect you... didn’t? When silence and denial caused as much damage as the abuse itself?In this deeply moving episode, Darla sits down with The Emotional Chain Breaker herself, ...
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Episode 47
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1:09:50
46: The Truth They Told Me to Bury - My Story of Abuse, Betrayal, and Reclamation
This is the episode I was never supposed to record.In Part 1 of Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse, Darla Ridilla shares her raw, unfiltered story—from childhood abuse to adult violation, from being silenced by the...
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Episode 46
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31:52
45: The Body Never Lies: Trauma-Informed Yoga for Nervous System Healing with Rachel Posner
You’ve pushed through. You’ve achieved. You’ve held it together for everyone else. But underneath the surface, your body has been keeping score—and it’s tired. In today’s episode of You Have the Power, Darla sits down with yoga therapi...
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Episode 45
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53:46
44: Choosing Rest Over Hustle - A Revolutionary Act of Self Trust
In this solo episode, Darla Ridilla continues her powerful series The Body Remembers by exploring what it truly means to choose rest over hustle—and why, for trauma survivors, that choice can feel revolutionary.Darla shares real...
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Episode 44
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20:29
43: Why Butterflies Are Sometimes Warnings, Not Love With Corissa Stepp
This is Part 2 of The Body Remembers: Somatics & Trauma Recovery, a special series exploring the intersection of trauma, the nervous system, and healing.In today’s episode, I’m joined by Corissa Stepp, Holistic Trauma Recove...
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Episode 43
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42: How Trauma Lives in the Body & the Path Back to Yourself
Welcome to the kickoff of my powerful 4-part series, The Body Remembers: Somatics & Trauma Recovery. In this solo episode, I dive deep into an introduction to somatic healing—what it is, how trauma lives in the body, and how reconn...
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Episode 42
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26:32
41: Creating the Higher Self After Abuse With Stephany Ann
In this powerful episode of Breaking the Silence – Healing from Domestic Abuse, we welcome internationally recognized speaker, author, and transformation mentor Stephany Ann.Formerly a high-level domestic violence advocat...
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Episode 41
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1:11:15
40: Why We Stay: Understanding Trauma Bonds and the Nervous System
Why do so many people stay in abusive relationships—even when they're hurting?In this powerful solo episode, Darla Ridilla shares personal reflections and hard-won insights to unpack the emotional, psychological, and neurological reasons...
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Episode 40
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