You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is for women who are done asking why emotionally unavailable men keep showing up — and are finally ready to change the way they relate.
This isn’t a podcast about fixing yourself or dissecting your past.
It’s for the woman who has outgrown the old patterns and is tired of repeating the same dynamic with different men. The chemistry is there. The potential is there. And yet… the consistency, depth, and emotional presence never fully arrive.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic, trauma-informed Relationship and Self-Leadership Coach, this podcast is rooted in the Magnetic Connections Pathway — Presence, Agency, and Empowerment — the embodied shift that changes who you attract and what you tolerate.
Here, we name the moments most women minimize: when your jaw tightens because he didn’t follow up after the date and you tell yourself not to make a big deal out of it, when you soften your voice before asking for consistency so you don’t seem “too much,” when you swallow your disappointment and say you’re fine because you don’t want to lose the connection.
That’s not maturity. That’s self-abandonment dressed up as patience.
Emotionally unavailable men aren’t the problem — they’re the feedback. They show up when you’re still over-functioning in connection: waiting longer than you want for a text back, explaining away inconsistency, accepting vague plans, or telling yourself “this is just how dating is now” instead of naming what you actually need.
Each episode names what most women are taught to tolerate — inconsistency, silence, mixed signals — and challenges you to stop managing relationships that require you to disappear, so you can lead from self-trust, clear standards, and agency that doesn’t ask permission.
This isn’t about becoming harder or more guarded.
It’s about becoming unavailable for anything that requires self-betrayal.
Because you’re not asking for too much.
You’ve just been accepting too little.
And that ends here.
Episodes
78: He’s Not Confused — He’s Entitled
77: Divorce Doesn’t Create the Problem — It Reveals It With Mardi Winder-Adams
76: Discernment vs. Desire - Why Red Flags Get Negotiated
75: You’re Not Being Ghosted - You’re Being Shown the Standard
74: Fear Is the Signal - Why Fear Rises Right Before Your Next Level in Relationships With Cassandra Rosa
73: Standards Aren’t the Problem, Self-Abandonment Is
72: Stop Saying “I’m Fine” - The Lie That’s Destroying Your Relationships
71: The Truth About Being the Woman Who Does It All — And Why You Don’t Have To With Amanda Bearce
70: The Weight You Feel Isn’t Guilt — It’s Truth Asking for a Voice
69: Breaking the Mom Guilt Myth - Trauma, Comparison, and the Pressure to Be “Everything” With Jaime Weatherholt
68: Breaking the System’s Spell - Whistleblowing, Childhood Trauma, and the Road Back to Yourself with Ted Neill
67: When Speaking Truth Feels Dangerous — and Why You Must Do It Anyway
66: From Obedience to Ownership: Reclaiming the Self Beyond Abuse and Indoctrination With Brooke Kekos
65: When Helping Hurts - Healing the Hidden Cost of Overgiving With Lyn Delmastro-Thomson
64: Grieving What Could Have Been - The Breakup That Broke Me Open
63: When the Unthinkable Happens - Grief, Motherhood & the Search for Hope With Eryn Elder
62: Messy, Beautiful, and Real - Healing and Emotional Resilience Through Art with Susan Day
61: Beyond Numbing - Learning to Feel Instead of Escape
60: From Emotional Eating to Emotional Freedom With Jillian Scott
59: The Power of Knowing: Breaking Free from the Model and Redefining Connection with Amy Vasterling
58: From Fear to Freedom: The Power of Speaking Your Truth
57: Breaking Free - Straight Talk, Dark Nights & The Prison We Build Ourselves With Sandra Valks
56: You Can’t Heal What You Keep Hiding: Real Talk on Men, Intimacy, and Emotional Safety With Liz Beachy
55: Finding Myself First: Single on Purpose and the Power of Wholeness
54: From Scarcity to Standards - My Personal Shift in Dating and Self-Trust With Katherine Kimball