You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is for women who are done asking why emotionally unavailable men keep showing up — and are finally ready to change the way they relate.
This isn’t a podcast about fixing yourself or dissecting your past.
It’s for the woman who has outgrown the old patterns and is tired of repeating the same dynamic with different men. The chemistry is there. The potential is there. And yet… the consistency, depth, and emotional presence never fully arrive.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic, trauma-informed Relationship and Self-Leadership Coach, this podcast is rooted in the Magnetic Connections Pathway — Presence, Agency, and Empowerment — the embodied shift that changes who you attract and what you tolerate.
Here, we name the moments most women minimize: when your jaw tightens because he didn’t follow up after the date and you tell yourself not to make a big deal out of it, when you soften your voice before asking for consistency so you don’t seem “too much,” when you swallow your disappointment and say you’re fine because you don’t want to lose the connection.
That’s not maturity. That’s self-abandonment dressed up as patience.
Emotionally unavailable men aren’t the problem — they’re the feedback. They show up when you’re still over-functioning in connection: waiting longer than you want for a text back, explaining away inconsistency, accepting vague plans, or telling yourself “this is just how dating is now” instead of naming what you actually need.
Each episode names what most women are taught to tolerate — inconsistency, silence, mixed signals — and challenges you to stop managing relationships that require you to disappear, so you can lead from self-trust, clear standards, and agency that doesn’t ask permission.
This isn’t about becoming harder or more guarded.
It’s about becoming unavailable for anything that requires self-betrayal.
Because you’re not asking for too much.
You’ve just been accepting too little.
And that ends here.
You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
22: Victim Blaming
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This episode addresses the harmful practice of blaming survivors for their experiences or reactions to abuse, particularly in cases of narcissistic abuse. Key points include:
- Definition of Victim Blaming: This occurs when someone shares an abusive experience, and the other person blames them for their reaction or for tolerating the behavior.
- Narcissists' Tactics: Narcissists often target strong, successful women, slowly eroding their confidence and boundaries over time, like a river wearing down a rock.
- Challenges with Therapy: Therapists who lack personal experience with trauma or narcissistic abuse may fail to understand its complexities. This can lead to harmful responses, such as blaming the survivor or dictating their choices, which can retraumatize them.
- Social Isolation: Friends and family may only see the narcissist's public persona and doubt the survivor's account of abuse. This disbelief compounds the survivor's sense of isolation and harm.
- Importance of Support: Survivors, especially those who lived with their abuser, need validation and support. Blaming them only deepens their trauma.
- Historical Silencing: Historically, women were denied the power to share their truths. Reclaiming their voice and telling their story is crucial for healing.
- Therapeutic Manipulation: In joint counseling, narcissists may manipulate the therapist, further harming the survivor.
The episode emphasizes the importance of believing and supporting survivors to aid their healing and empower them to reclaim their truth and power.
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