You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is the space for high-achieving women who are done shrinking, diluting, or managing themselves to be more “acceptable” in relationships. This is for the woman who’s been called too intense, too emotional, too ambitious — yet knows her depth is her power.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic, trauma-informed relationship coach, this podcast brings you back to your truth, your agency, and your magnetic presence. After years of contorting herself to maintain connection, Darla chose a different path — and now she helps women step into relationships that feel aligned, steady, and real.
Here, we name the patterns strong women rarely say out loud: the quiet moments you override your own knowing, the tightening in your body when you hold back your truth, the pressure to keep the peace while disconnecting from yourself in the process.
If your life looks successful but something still feels out of sync, you’re not broken.
You’re simply ready for a more aligned way of relating.
Each episode blends grounded storytelling, somatic intelligence, and radically honest conversations that help you stop performing for love — and start leading with self-trust, clarity, and magnetic connection.
You’ll learn how to move from holding it all together on your own into aligned boundaries, how to stop walking on eggshells, and how to feel that unmistakable, full-body resonance in the relationships that matter most.
Because you’re not asking for too much — you’ve just been accepting too little.
This is your invitation to reclaim your voice, shift the old patterns, and return to the power that’s been yours all along… so you can create connection that feels like truth, freedom, and home.
You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
22: Victim Blaming
This episode addresses the harmful practice of blaming survivors for their experiences or reactions to abuse, particularly in cases of narcissistic abuse. Key points include:
- Definition of Victim Blaming: This occurs when someone shares an abusive experience, and the other person blames them for their reaction or for tolerating the behavior.
- Narcissists' Tactics: Narcissists often target strong, successful women, slowly eroding their confidence and boundaries over time, like a river wearing down a rock.
- Challenges with Therapy: Therapists who lack personal experience with trauma or narcissistic abuse may fail to understand its complexities. This can lead to harmful responses, such as blaming the survivor or dictating their choices, which can retraumatize them.
- Social Isolation: Friends and family may only see the narcissist's public persona and doubt the survivor's account of abuse. This disbelief compounds the survivor's sense of isolation and harm.
- Importance of Support: Survivors, especially those who lived with their abuser, need validation and support. Blaming them only deepens their trauma.
- Historical Silencing: Historically, women were denied the power to share their truths. Reclaiming their voice and telling their story is crucial for healing.
- Therapeutic Manipulation: In joint counseling, narcissists may manipulate the therapist, further harming the survivor.
The episode emphasizes the importance of believing and supporting survivors to aid their healing and empower them to reclaim their truth and power.
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