You Have the Power - The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse
You Have the Power: The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse is a bold and empowering podcast for high-performing women who are done settling. Hosted by Darla Ridilla—a certified somatic trauma-informed coach, relationship expert, and survivor of narcissistic abuse—this show cuts through the noise to help you stop attracting the wrong partners and start creating the relationships you truly deserve.
If you’re successful on the outside but feel stuck, unseen, or disconnected in your relationships, this podcast is your wake-up call. You’ll hear raw personal stories, practical tools, and unfiltered conversations that help you break unhealthy patterns, reconnect to your intuition, and heal at the nervous system level. Each episode is a truth-telling space to help you uncover the real reasons behind your relationship struggles and guide you toward embodied self-worth and emotional freedom.
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You Have the Power - The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse
22: Victim Blaming
This episode addresses the harmful practice of blaming survivors for their experiences or reactions to abuse, particularly in cases of narcissistic abuse. Key points include:
- Definition of Victim Blaming: This occurs when someone shares an abusive experience, and the other person blames them for their reaction or for tolerating the behavior.
- Narcissists' Tactics: Narcissists often target strong, successful women, slowly eroding their confidence and boundaries over time, like a river wearing down a rock.
- Challenges with Therapy: Therapists who lack personal experience with trauma or narcissistic abuse may fail to understand its complexities. This can lead to harmful responses, such as blaming the survivor or dictating their choices, which can retraumatize them.
- Social Isolation: Friends and family may only see the narcissist's public persona and doubt the survivor's account of abuse. This disbelief compounds the survivor's sense of isolation and harm.
- Importance of Support: Survivors, especially those who lived with their abuser, need validation and support. Blaming them only deepens their trauma.
- Historical Silencing: Historically, women were denied the power to share their truths. Reclaiming their voice and telling their story is crucial for healing.
- Therapeutic Manipulation: In joint counseling, narcissists may manipulate the therapist, further harming the survivor.
The episode emphasizes the importance of believing and supporting survivors to aid their healing and empower them to reclaim their truth and power.
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