You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is for women who are done asking why emotionally unavailable men keep showing up — and are finally ready to change the way they relate.
This isn’t a podcast about fixing yourself or dissecting your past.
It’s for the woman who has outgrown the old patterns and is tired of repeating the same dynamic with different men. The chemistry is there. The potential is there. And yet… the consistency, depth, and emotional presence never fully arrive.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic, trauma-informed Relationship and Self-Leadership Coach, this podcast is rooted in the Magnetic Connections Pathway — Presence, Agency, and Empowerment — the embodied shift that changes who you attract and what you tolerate.
Here, we name the moments most women minimize: when your jaw tightens because he didn’t follow up after the date and you tell yourself not to make a big deal out of it, when you soften your voice before asking for consistency so you don’t seem “too much,” when you swallow your disappointment and say you’re fine because you don’t want to lose the connection.
That’s not maturity. That’s self-abandonment dressed up as patience.
Emotionally unavailable men aren’t the problem — they’re the feedback. They show up when you’re still over-functioning in connection: waiting longer than you want for a text back, explaining away inconsistency, accepting vague plans, or telling yourself “this is just how dating is now” instead of naming what you actually need.
Each episode names what most women are taught to tolerate — inconsistency, silence, mixed signals — and challenges you to stop managing relationships that require you to disappear, so you can lead from self-trust, clear standards, and agency that doesn’t ask permission.
This isn’t about becoming harder or more guarded.
It’s about becoming unavailable for anything that requires self-betrayal.
Because you’re not asking for too much.
You’ve just been accepting too little.
And that ends here.
You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
36: Speaking Up Without Guilt & Navigating Triggers
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Welcome to Part 3 of a 4-part series on Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse. In this soul-stirring episode, Darla Ridilla explores what it truly means to speak up without guilt, and how to navigate the emotional and somatic triggers that come with both using your voice—or staying silent.
This isn’t just about speaking out. It’s about reclaiming power, learning what your body is telling you, and finding safety in your truth—even when others try to shut you down. Darla shares personal reflections, grounding techniques, and scripts you can use to protect your peace while standing in your power.
✨ What you’ll hear in Part 3:
- How guilt and shame block our voices (and how to move through them)
- Why your body’s reactions—tight throat, shaking hands—are valid signals, not failures
- Somatic strategies to self-regulate before and after difficult conversations
- Tools for communicating with narcissists (including how silence can be a response)
- A reminder that your boundaries are not betrayal—they are your birthright
Whether you're still in the fog or finding your way out, this episode offers the clarity and courage you’ve been looking for.
💬 Want to connect personally with Darla? Click the link in the show notes to schedule a free 15-minute connection call. She wants to hear your story—because your voice matters here.
Connect with Darla Ridilla:
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