You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is the podcast for high-achieving women who’ve been told they’re too much — too intense, too emotional, too ambitious — and are done contorting themselves to fit into relationships that silence their truth.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, a certified somatic trauma-informed relationship coach and former people-pleaser turned powerhouse, this show is your space to unravel the deep, hidden patterns that keep strong women stuck in cycles of self-abandonment — whether with a partner, a parent, a boss, or even a best friend.
This isn't just about trauma recovery or dating advice. It's about breaking free from the belief that you have to shrink to be loved, prove to be chosen, or tolerate dysfunction just to stay connected.
If you’ve built a life that looks good on the outside but feels misaligned inside — if you're exhausted from holding it all together, yet silently wondering why real connection still feels out of reach — you’re not broken.
You’re just ready for the truth.
Each episode combines raw storytelling, nervous system-based tools, and radically honest conversations to help you stop performing for love and start leading from a place of deep self-trust and radical boundaries.
Because you're not too much — you're just done accepting too little.
It’s time to reclaim your voice. Reinvent your relationships. And remember the power that’s been yours all along.
You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
37: Talk About It Later: Healing Relationship Communication with Raffi Bilek
In this powerful final episode of the “Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse” series, host Darla Ridilla is joined by therapist, author, and couples counselor Raffi Bilek for a deep and insightful conversation about healing through healthy communication. With over a decade of experience helping couples reconnect and recover from hurt, Raffi shares practical tools and compassionate wisdom from his book The Couples Communication Handbook.
Together, Darla and Raffi explore:
- Why small disagreements escalate—and how to stop them before they do
- The myth of "never going to bed angry"
- How to use timeouts as a relationship-saving strategy
- What to do when your partner refuses to take space
- Navigating triggers, emotional flooding, and C-PTSD in real-life conflict
- How empathy, validation, and "I statements" can transform the way we communicate
- Dating again after abuse: building trust and green-flag communication
Whether you're in a relationship, healing from one, or preparing for a healthier future, this episode will empower you with real, human strategies for reclaiming your voice—and your peace.
🔗 Learn more about Raffi and grab his book at thecommunicationbook.com
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