You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection is for women who are done asking why emotionally unavailable men keep showing up — and are finally ready to change the way they relate.
This isn’t a podcast about fixing yourself or dissecting your past.
It’s for the woman who has outgrown the old patterns and is tired of repeating the same dynamic with different men. The chemistry is there. The potential is there. And yet… the consistency, depth, and emotional presence never fully arrive.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic, trauma-informed Relationship and Self-Leadership Coach, this podcast is rooted in the Magnetic Connections Pathway — Presence, Agency, and Empowerment — the embodied shift that changes who you attract and what you tolerate.
Here, we name the moments most women minimize: when your jaw tightens because he didn’t follow up after the date and you tell yourself not to make a big deal out of it, when you soften your voice before asking for consistency so you don’t seem “too much,” when you swallow your disappointment and say you’re fine because you don’t want to lose the connection.
That’s not maturity. That’s self-abandonment dressed up as patience.
Emotionally unavailable men aren’t the problem — they’re the feedback. They show up when you’re still over-functioning in connection: waiting longer than you want for a text back, explaining away inconsistency, accepting vague plans, or telling yourself “this is just how dating is now” instead of naming what you actually need.
Each episode names what most women are taught to tolerate — inconsistency, silence, mixed signals — and challenges you to stop managing relationships that require you to disappear, so you can lead from self-trust, clear standards, and agency that doesn’t ask permission.
This isn’t about becoming harder or more guarded.
It’s about becoming unavailable for anything that requires self-betrayal.
Because you’re not asking for too much.
You’ve just been accepting too little.
And that ends here.
You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
76: Discernment vs. Desire - Why Red Flags Get Negotiated
Women don’t ignore red flags.
They negotiate with them.
They explain them away.
They minimize what doesn’t feel right.
They tell themselves it’s not that bad, he just needs time, maybe they’re asking for too much.
And the cost of that negotiation is exhaustion.
In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between discernment and desire — and why so many women keep finding themselves in relationships with emotionally unavailable men.
This is not a conversation about fixing men.
And it’s not about blaming yourself either.
It’s about getting honest about the patterns you’ve been rationalizing, the standards you’ve been negotiating, and the moments your body already knew the truth long before your mind caught up.
We’re breaking down what emotional unavailability actually looks like in real life — not silence, not slowness, not “men just being men” — but inconsistency, avoidance, defensiveness, lack of accountability, and disappearing when things get uncomfortable.
We’re also talking about the difference between emotionally unavailable men and emotionally willing men, and the part you play in discerning that early, before you over-invest, over-give, or abandon yourself for connection.
And because Valentine’s Day has a way of exposing the gap between what you want and what you’re actually experiencing, this episode goes straight into the quiet frustration so many women feel this time of year — whether you’re single, dating, or partnered — and why it’s not the holiday that hurts, it’s the pattern.
Inside this episode, I’m also announcing my brand new masterclass, 3 Keys to Magnetizing Emotionally Available Men, created for the woman who is done choosing potential over reality and ready to relate differently — starting with herself.
If this episode hits, it’s probably because you already know something needs to change.
This is where that shift begins.
Connect with Darla Ridilla:
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