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Heal Yourself Podcast
A podcast diving into all aspects of healing; from the latest in functional medicine, to nurturing your relationship with yourself, and even transforming your money story, we're here to empower you with the knowledge and tools to create lasting change.
Heal Yourself Podcast
Episode 45: The Power of Questioning Everything
Questioning everything could be your most powerful path to healing. Join hosts Denise and Kira as they explore how maintaining a growth mindset transforms not just what you know, but who you become.
The journey begins with their personal stories of breaking free from rigid thinking. Both hosts share how they moved beyond limiting religious beliefs without abandoning their spiritual foundations. This same questioning approach revolutionized Kira's health journey when conventional medicine offered no solutions to her ongoing symptoms. Their experiences reveal how curiosity opens doors that remain firmly shut when we cling to "the way things have always been."
What makes this conversation truly transformative is their exploration of question quality. There's a profound difference between asking "Why does this always happen to me?" versus "What patterns keep showing up in my life?" One keeps you stuck; the other propels you forward. The hosts provide practical guidance on crafting questions that illuminate your healing path, whether regarding health, relationships, or discovering your soul's purpose.
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Welcome to the Heal Yourself Podcast, where we dive deep into all things healing. I'm Denise, a speech and language pathologist and a self-love coach for adults and teens.
Speaker 2:And I'm Kira, a traditional naturopath and functional nutritionist, and we're here to guide you through the transformative process of healing your body, mind and soul From the latest in functional medicine, of healing your body, mind and soul, from the latest in functional medicine to nurturing your relationship with yourself, healing trauma and even transforming your money story.
Speaker 1:we're here to empower you with the knowledge and tools to create lasting change.
Speaker 2:So, whether you're looking to heal physically, emotionally or spiritually, join us as we explore the many paths to wholeness and wellness.
Speaker 1:Welcome to another episode. Today you have both of us, kira and Denise, and we are talking all about learning and being open, having a growth mindset to learn, and you know there's so much in the world to learn, so that's what we're talking about today.
Speaker 2:So much to learn. But I think there is so much to learn, there is so much to learn and I think there's a difference between just learning, being open and questioning things, cause I I feel like that's you know, you guys know by now Denise and I leave each other WhatsApp messages all the time and then sometimes it's like oh, this is an idea for a podcast, you left me the message for this, but I'm like all right, take it away. But I think part of it came from questioning, which you and I had this conversation yesterday. I think questioning is good and for some reason, people don't like to do that. There's like fear around. I don't want to question that. What if it changes my beliefs? What if I question it?
Speaker 1:and it's wrong, and that is Well, because that's what we were raised I mean, not everybody, but a lot of the people were raised to be complacent, not to question authority, not to question religious leaders, not to question higher people than you or whatever Doctors exactly. Don't question like someone who is. And I mean I have to, like you know. I mean I think because I remember my students and that's maybe this is how the topic came out and I left you this message is, you know, because you know, now I do see my private clients, um, at home and I have the littles and I have, you know, the teenagers, and with my students, who tend to be like you know, who are older than six years old, when they're two and a half and three, like we're doing mindfulness a little bit different.
Speaker 1:But, uh, I do a lot of mindfulness with my students and I notice, especially with the kids on the spectrum, they need that grounding in order to have a successful session right, or even if we're having a session and they just start like getting so distracted, you know we bring back with and then we bring back with, either you know, deep breathing or any of the mindfulness stretching exercises that I do with them but that just opens them up to and I do that with my in-person kiddos too that I see at school, and I started to notice in myself that the more open-minded I am and questioning and like asking questions and being curious about things, I am more open to learning.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so like you can talk about something, because I do have the religious experience that you and I share that maybe we can kind of like go back and forth about, because for the longest time I would just think like, oh, my religion is the religion and like, if you're not going to mass and you know, getting communion, what's gonna happen to you? Like that's what I used to think and I was like nothing, nothing is going to happen to them. They have their own faith. You know what I mean. So it's like so that that really opened my eyes to being open to accepting other religions, other spiritual beliefs as well, instead of being so rigid.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Well, I mean, I can obviously chat on that and I want to tie it into health too and I'll come back to that. But yeah, I mean, you and I grew up Catholic and it was the same thing. It's like I went to church every week. If you miss mass, you had to go to confession. And then there's the whole purgatory thing. And well, if I miss and I don't go to confession, or if I don't tell the priest something, am I adding a day, Am I adding a month to purgatory? What does that look like? And it's almost like I viewed other religions as not bad, but it's like, oh, they have their beliefs, so therefore this happens to them. They don't fit into our box, which is weird, Cause then it would be like well, then there's multiple gods who were like here's the rules for you and here's the rules for you.
Speaker 1:I know, I know, and that's why you and I I mean I know you've been questioning and being curious way before me I still had a rigid mindset for a while, but yeah, I feel like just asking questions and being curious is just allowing us to be more accepting. It's not just also learning more things, but being more accepting. But yeah, like I swear I used to think I promise I mean like, because you know how in the catholic church they teach that you know the um, the, the communion is really, really important, right, and and I'm like, but but the communion is not in every religion. So to me, I was like, so if someone does not get communion, like that means that their religion is fake, their religion is false and they're not going to be saved.
Speaker 1:You know, and, and that was like it's such a rigid mindset, yeah and um, but yeah, now I accept all religions, spiritualities and or beliefs or whatever, and and to each their own, or maybe in the past, like, oh, this person is atheist, there was so much around that but it's like, but that's just their beliefs and that's okay. You know what I mean. So that's being open to just with everything I would love to talk about. You know health and maybe like so we did mention questioning doctors because a lot I'm sure you have seen that a lot oh yeah, your clients, right, you know, either you know they want to question or they don't want to question, and then they just keep taking the medication, yeah, or assume like, okay, he told me everything on my labs looks fine, so therefore it's fine, and that I mean for our listeners.
Speaker 2:I have a feeling a lot have dealt with health issues and so this is a common one. And honestly, it's where I really did start to question things like, yes, I was the annoying kid that would be like, but why? But why? Cause? I questioned back then and I think I stopped a bit. But then when I dealt with all of my health issues and I was basically being told like it's in your head or oh, it's just IBS, you can take this for it and maybe that'll help, or get on some birth control, and nothing was helping me because I was doing everything they suggested. It's like this isn't, this doesn't feel right, and so that's when the questions began of what else could be going on. Why don't they know everything? Why isn't this helping me? How am I different from other people if they're getting relief and I'm not? And so it just starts to spiral and that's what we want.
Speaker 2:But I will also say there's a delicate balance here, because I used to tell my students when I was teaching question everything. I legit. That was one of the things I would tell them every year. If you take away nothing from what I have taught you, question everything. Question why you're being taught this, it's you know what I mean. So there's a balance between asking an outside source, but there's also you have to look within and ask these questions, and I hope that makes sense with what I'm saying. So, like you know, cause sometimes people will come to me and they're like here's my list of 25 questions. I'm like that's great, we're going to talk through this. But you also have to look inside and ask yourself some of these questions.
Speaker 1:You can't just seek external right, right, and I I completely agree with you. Yes, so do seek the outside, but also, ultimately, at the end of the day, you do have your all of the answers, and sometimes I mean correct me if I'm wrong, kira. I'm sure it's happened with you before. Uh, someone can give you an advice or tell you to do something, whether it's business related, health related or whatever, and then you're like but that doesn't my, my intuition doesn't tell me. You know, like, it tells me differently.
Speaker 1:Listen to that, right, I know that we've experienced that in business, right, where someone would tell us to do this strategy.
Speaker 1:It's like wait a minute, but this strategy is not working for us. Well, the strategy is not working for us because we are two different humans having a different experience, and that person giving the strategy. So, yes, learn, absolutely be open, ask the questions. However, ultimately, consult with your inner guide, which is you know you, your inner self, your inner world, and see how it feels, and not just also take um, you know, like I mean, you can be reading a book and like I don't agree with this, and that's okay, right, and that's fine. You can agree with some things, you can be listening to a podcast and learning some things and be like, oh, I'm going to learn this stuff. And that I mean the, the. The purpose of this episode today is just constantly being having an open mindset, a growth mindset, constantly wanting to grow, constantly wanting to be the better version of yourself, evolving, your soul coming, you know, remembering your soul's mission, versus constantly being rigid. And especially right now, there's so much noise out. You know whether it's the social media noise, it's the news noise, the.
Speaker 1:I mean I, you can get news from anywhere now, I swear like even on the phone, like, like you know those, like, whatever it's like I don't want to get this, and so that's that's what I feel like it's really, really important to just, you know, being open and growing, versus kind of like plateauing and giving up and be like you know, that's it, I did this. Or, or you know, I'm 70, I'm, I'm, you know, 65. That's it for me. What does that mean? Like when people say that you know what I mean, like oh, it's too late for me to change. It's like, yeah, yeah, especially especially the older generation, right, like you know, yeah.
Speaker 2:Like one thing that you said that just jumped out at me too is when we're asking questions, I wish oh, I keep I'm racking my brain as I'm sitting here of like what is the quote? But one of my business mentors had a really good quote and I'm going to butcher this, but it was something around like the quality of. I think that was it. The quality of your questions determines the quality of your life, so it's also again, this is where the internal versus external comes in. There are times for external questions, but if you keep asking what supplement is going to help with this, or what lab should I run, or I'm trying to think of stuff outside health, because that's where my mind goes, guys, but what quality should I be drinking?
Speaker 1:What trend should I be following?
Speaker 2:Versus something more high quality of why is my body showing me these symptoms? What is my body asking for that I'm not giving it? Why don't I feel safe? Why is that creating some issues? How am I choosing to suppress something Like? There's so many other questions you could ask in your life. Right, this doesn't have to be health related, but it does go back to. Are you asking high quality questions If not, start to change those, because that's going to allow for more of that growth mindset too.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and I love that you mentioned that exactly Like, why am I being triggered or activated by this, right? Why am I, why is my body tensing like this when, when this happens, or I'm, when I'm around this person or whatever? So, yeah, no, I'm really happy that you mentioned this, because it is the quality of the questions that you ask, and also being patient with the answer, because sometimes we do ask and we meditate and answers don't come and like what's wrong with me, there's nothing wrong with you. The answers that you need will definitely come.
Speaker 1:Um, but also like, maybe just because, like just being self-aware of the openness, right, that's what we're trying to kind of like, you know, wake up in you. It's like constantly, you know, being self-aware of being open, asking the questions, asking, changing the quality of the questions you ask and in pursuit of constantly, because we're constantly wanting to become the better version of ourselves, right? So that's that's how your questions, you know, want to be geared toward, right, whether it's health, it's business, it's's finances, family relationships, whatever it is, what is the question that I want to ask that is going to lead me to becoming the better version?
Speaker 2:of myself, and I also think you could look at it as where in my life do I have the biggest struggle? Is it in relationships? Is it in finance? Is it in my health? Is it in spirituality, something else, whatever? Where is that struggle? Right, take note of what's going on in your life and then, when you have that struggle, okay now. Where is there a closed mindset? Where's their growth mindset? How can I start to ask those better questions instead of why am I always broke? Why does this always happen to me? Those aren't helpful questions. You're not going to get anywhere with them. So what? You know what within me is causing me to stay in this space? Or you know like there are so many ways you could take this. I can't give you guys a ton of questions, but if you can get to the point of, okay, this is a struggle in my life, start asking questions and keep digging into it.
Speaker 1:I mean we are giving you a lot of examples of questions, because when you were talking I started writing down another question what patterns keep showing up? This is beautiful, right. What patterns keep showing up in my life? Uh, that keep repeating. What experiences keep showing up in my life, right? So if you look at those, you you know those questions will start really revealing the answers. Right, because you know you're questioning as well.
Speaker 2:And it's like what you've said in the past and I'm sure we've both said it, but it's like if things keep showing up in your life similar relationships, similar patterns, circumstances, whatever you're going to have to start, those are lessons that you have not learned from yet.
Speaker 1:Yes, so figure it out Exactly. And I mean it still happens to you and me. There's still lessons that we have not learned, and but this is where you know, and I mean I've noticed a lot of growth in myself by when I started asking those questions and I started looking within. Instead of, like you know, this happened, I'm going to blame and point fingers, you know, instead of just like, why is this happening right now?
Speaker 1:Like hmm, you know like what's inside of me, what's what's happening in my body, you know? And yesterday I had an amazing tarot reading session and as we were going through the reading, um, you know, she picked up some patterns and she guided me through it. I was like she picked up some patterns and she guided me through it. I was like where do you feel it in your body? And then what is it? And I like the answers were just coming out without me thinking about it. So I understand that I did this process with somebody, but that doesn't mean that I can't do it by myself.
Speaker 1:So it's also important to, when you do get the emotions, ask about the emotions. Yeah, where do I feel the anger in my body? Or where do I feel the happiness? Even the happiness doesn't have to be just the positive, negative emotions. Give me the positive emotions, right. So I know that we focus too much on the negative. I get it, but because we want to heal that part, right, we want to integrate and accept it, I also want to say, though I mean we can, we can also ask about positive emotions.
Speaker 1:Sorry, there was a lag Um I know what happens, Like I don't know what happened.
Speaker 2:We're going to see that blipped for you guys. Um, but you said something there too, and I think this can be important of. Sometimes we view healing as like our own journey, and it is right. We're unique individuals, but there is nothing wrong with having a healing buddy. You know, like Denise is my healing buddy when I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm trying to ask myself questions here. Or is this my intuition, or is this fear? I mean, I asked you something yesterday and I asked you something today and you give me some of those questions that I can then ask myself that maybe I wasn't thinking about. So I don't want you guys to feel like, oh, this healing journey is completely on my own. Yes, it's your responsibility, but you can have those healing buddies people to bounce ideas off of. I would just encourage you to make sure that they are in a similar exploratory phase as you, because if you partner up with someone who's like I don't know, your life sucks or everything you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Like everything happens for you, I just, oh my gosh, I feel so bad, like we don't want to get into that. You want someone who is going to pose some of those questions to you where it is creating more of a growth mindset.
Speaker 1:And may I also add, like, and also don't be discouraged, the right person will definitely you'll, you'll, you'll find the right person, your healing buddy. But also, like I did notice that, like I do have some friends that when I talk to them, they constantly want to give you advice or the tips. It's like, well, I'm not looking for that. So you know, and I love these people, but then I just know what to talk to them about, whereas with you, kira, like Kira is also my healing buddy Absolutely, and and I love that we also ask each other questions versus you know, or it could be.
Speaker 1:It's appearing to me this way is this coming from this or from that? You know what I mean, but there's constantly questions among both of us. But I wasn't like that because I was the person. I mean. You know, arabs do that they immediately want to give you tips and advice. So that's how I grew up and it's like. Now it's like, no, thank you, I don't, you know. I ask if, when someone's complaining to me and blah, blah, blah, talking my ear off, I'm like do you want me to give you advice or you just want to vent? Yeah, and if they're venting, then they're venting, and if they want advice, then I know that they want advice and I give them advice. So yeah.
Speaker 1:I think that's important. It is, it's very important, but it's really. And then also to find like I mean, I do find healers and I work with healers that I encounter in my life like next week, I have a a session with a healer. I don't know what we're gonna do, though either cord cutting or whatever, or reiki but I'm constantly also like connecting with people, that just that I meet and I'm like I love your energy and I want to work with you.
Speaker 2:So and I want to see what else there is to explore, and that's the thing. So if I look back, I mean probably even five years ago, but definitely 10 years ago. If you said something like Reiki or tarot cards, I would have probably even five years ago, but definitely 10 years ago. If you said something like Reiki or tarot cards, I would have jumped back Like that would not have felt you know what I mean. It would have felt like, oh my gosh, this is witchcraft.
Speaker 1:Oh, same Girl. I grew up in the church too I know, but that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:One of the things I want to say is questioning does not mean dishonoring and it doesn't mean you have to change your beliefs, right? Even though Denise and I maybe allow some of that stuff in now, you don't have to. You can still question and go back to what you believed before, but it makes you more powerful. It gives you that conviction of rather oh, I don't want to question that because I don't know what's going to happen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, but exactly it may not resonate with you, it resonates with me, like you know. I even told you yesterday that when you and I were recording, I was feeling a little down, whatever. And then, after I had my tarot, and then I went through that process and kind of something showed up and it was like whoa, like I've been staying away from it. And it showed up Like whoa, like I've been staying away from it. And it showed up like you know what I mean. So it was just I like it, I enjoy it, I enjoy Reiki, I enjoy these modalities, I enjoy going to the new moon ceremony. So the full moon ceremony, the sound, bath, breath, work.
Speaker 1:However, some people may not and they may still, you know, have their faith Absolutely. We still have ours, but you do it differently. You know what I mean, like, but what we're telling you is just be open to any modality or anything that you want, ask the quality questions and do what's resonating with you, not having to, like, impress other people. So it's like Reiki resonates with you, but you don't want to do it because your religion does not allow it.
Speaker 2:This is, you're giving your power away, right yeah and question why you have that belief then then you can go back to was this belief just passed down to me? Did somebody tell me that this was bad? How do I know that this is truth and that's what I always? How do you know that?
Speaker 1:you're gonna go to hell actually for doing reiki and tarot, because that's what I always go back to. How do you know that you're going to go to hell actually for doing Reiki and Tarot, because that's what people say, I know. Is that true Really? Have you been to hell and came back and really like told us that you know what I mean? Like some people talk about heaven and hell as if it's like you know, there's a membership and there's a key. You know what I mean? I don't know.
Speaker 1:We gave you a lot of questions. Um, just look at areas in your life. I would definitely don't look at all of them, just look at one at a time and see where you want to ask. Oh, I mean, the very first questions I started asking is what is my dharma? What is my soul's purpose? Who am I? You know, why am I here? What is my soul's mission? And um, and I kept you know asking that and asking that, and things start started appearing and appearing and appearing. So if you so if you are afraid to question or start asking questions, you don't know what to say, you can just go to what is my soul's mission? Why am I here? What is my purpose on this earth, and that doesn't need to be journaled. You can just keep asking it while you're doing the dishes and the answers will come to you, I promise.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and even if it's around health too, it's like okay, if I don't know where to start start with. What could these symptoms be showing me? And going back to what you said, what's my purpose in life? Am I supposed to go through this experience for something greater? And if so, what could that be, instead of just staying stuck in? Oh my gosh, this sucks. I'm never going to feel better. You're not going to grow in that space.
Speaker 1:No, yeah, so that's what we wanted to talk about today is just being open, growing and asking better questions and living and living the life that you, you know you were meant to live, versus, you know, making choices from that you know, because, at the end of the day, it's all about free will, it's all about the choices that you make. No one, you know, is coming and holding you by the hand. I keep saying that it's you, it's you, it's you. So sometimes we ignore the signs, sometimes we ignore the symptoms, we ignore the synchronicities. You ignore the synchronous, the synchronicities. So that's maybe this episode, hopefully, will kind of activate some of that within you. Call it out, yeah, yeah, call it out, because your life will definitely change. It will.
Speaker 2:It will Awesome. Okay, well, as always, leave us a review. You know what to do. Find us on Instagram. Do something, give us feedback.
Speaker 1:You know Miskira's going to Europe right Next week. You're leaving to Europe.
Speaker 2:I am, I'm so excited. Maybe I'll have some aha moments for upcoming podcasts. Oh, that would be awesome.
Speaker 1:And we're still working on our project, our revamping, but because it's summertime and we have a lot of things going on, but we're still working on it behind the scenes and you will be the first ones to know when it's released.
Speaker 2:Yes, you will. All right, guys, we'll see you on the next episode.
