Teen Whisperer | Understanding Teen Girl Mental Health
This is THE podcast for mums of girls.
Whether your daughter is a tween, teen or young woman, and you want to understand what the friggidy frigg is really going on beneath the tricky behaviour, the big emotions, and the screen she won't put down, this is the podcast for you.
Here's the truth nobody else is saying. Girls are not small boys. They run on a completely different biological operating system, a 28-day cycle instead of a 24-hour one. Different hormones, different stress responses, different energy, different needs, week by week, month by month. And almost every parenting tool, every expert strategy, every piece of advice you've ever been handed? Built on male biology. Handed to you as if it would work the same way for her.
It doesn't. And that is why nothing has worked.
Too often we're told it's "just" hormones, or she's too sensitive, or she needs to put the phone down. But what if I told you the phone isn't the problem, it's a message from a nervous system that isn't getting what it was designed to need? These are natural responses to an unnatural world. And when you understand them, you can stop reacting with frustration and start responding with insight.
Every week, Health Play Specialist and mum Rach Friedli brings you the biology, the tools, and the honest conversation that should have happened years ago. The nervous system science behind her behaviour. The truth about what tech is actually doing in her body. The Whole Body Reset tools that give her something better to reach for, because we can't talk it out of our girls. But we can give their nervous systems somewhere better to go.
Shocked. Inspired. Eyes wide open. That's what I want for you.
Because so much of what we've been told about parenting girls is wrong, wrapped up in control, pressure and guilt. The world isn't set up for our girls. But there is a different way. A way that starts with understanding her body, her cycle, and the world she's actually living in.
Let's make this a revolution, one episode at a time, so our girls grow up feeling seen, safe and capable. And we can stop parenting from fear and start parenting from insight
Episodes
84 episodes
Parenting Teen Girls & Phone Anxiety | Why Limits Alone Don't Work
You've set the limits. She went straight back. Here's what's really happening: nervous system regulation, not willpower. This episode reveals what your daughter's nervous system craves when she reaches for her phone, why...
Teen Girls Anxiety: Why Nothing Has Worked And What Actually Does
Teen girls anxiety and overwhelm often resist "traditional" strategies, here's why. In this episode, discover why almost all mental health tools were built on male biology. What you'll learn: The 28-d...
The Most Powerful Parenting Tool for Girls' Mental Health You Didn't Know You Had
Understanding girls' mental health and teenage behaviour starts with one of the most powerful but often overlooked tools: co-regulation. In this episode, we explore how your presence and nervous system act as a behavioural message to your daugh...
Looking After Yourself as a Mum of a Girl: Understanding Stress and Body Signals
This episode is a heartfelt message to every mum working her way through the day to day life of parenting teen girls and supporting their mental health. We explore the behavioural messages your body sends when you're running on empty and how su...
What Counts as Movement When She Won't Leave Her Room - Parenting Teen Girls
Movement plays a crucial role in girls' mental health, especially when your teen daughter is struggling to leave her room. In this episode, we explore how to recognise what truly counts as movement when traditional activities like w...
Her Body Knows What to Do: Understanding how Stress Shows Up in Teen Girls
If you find yourself asking your teen daughter how her day was, only to get a short or blank response, you're not alone. This episode dives deep into what stress actually is and exploring why traditional talking doesn't help reduce ...
The Freeze Rule: Supporting Girls' Mental Health Through Connection and Safety
If you've ever found yourself hesitating outside your teenage daughter's door, unsure of how to support her silent withdrawal, this episode is crafted with you in mind. Dive deep into understanding girls' mental health and teenage b...
Staying Calm When She's Dysregulated: Supporting Girls' Mental Health and Behaviour
In this episode, we dive deep into girls mental health and how it affects teen behaviour, especially when daughters become emotionally dysregulated. We focus on parenting support strategies that empower mums to maintain calm and regulation even...
Understanding Your Daughter’s Emotional State: Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn
In this episode, I delve into understanding girls' mental health through identifying the emotional states that your daughter might be experiencing: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Many parents struggle to decode teenage behaviour an...
Regulation Before Behaviour: Transforming Parenting for Girls' Mental Health
When your daughter is dysregulated, traditional parenting methods like consequences, logic, and talking often don’t work, not because you’re doing it wrong, but because her nervous system isn’t available for any of it. In this episo...
When No One Understands Your Daughter's Mental Health
Understanding teen behaviour and girls' mental health is crucial for mums who feel misunderstood when supporting their daughters. In this episode, I explore why your daughter might mask her struggles at school and express them at home, revealin...
When You're Trying Not to Fall Apart: Supporting Girls' Mental Health and Mother-Daughter Relationships
Apologies for the sound on this episodeIn this episode, I dive deeply into the challenges of supporting girls' mental health, especially for mothers working their way through the difficulties of the mother-daughter relationship during ad...
What Freeze Actually Looks Like in Girls and Why We Often Miss It: Understanding Girls' Mental Health
If you believe anxiety in girls only looks like panic and restlessness, think again. In this episode, I explore an often overlooked aspect of girls' mental health: the freeze response. When your daughter can't get out of bed, refuse...
It's Not Just Hormones: Understanding Girls' Mental Health Through Their Nervous System
Your daughter slams the door, stops eating, or withdraws to her room for hours. Everyone tells you it’s just hormones, but what if the root cause is her nervous system influencing girls' mental health and adolescent behaviour? This ...
What's Behind The Behaviour: Understanding Girls' Mental Health When They Are in Freeze
If your daughter's behaviour feels confusing, unpredictable, or out of character, and you're constantly wondering, "Why is she like this?" this episode offers a transformative reframe that changes everything. Behaviour isn't random; it's a powe...
Why Encouragement Backfires: Understanding Freeze Response in Girls' Mental Health
If your daughter often shuts down when you offer encouragement, withdraws when things get difficult, or loses motivation under pressure, this episode is essential listening for you. I explore the ins and outs of girls' mental health...
Why Phone Battles Miss What's Really Going On: Understanding Girls' Mental Health and Behaviour
If screens are the biggest fight in your house and conversations about phones end in shutdown or silence, this episode is for you. I dive deep into girls mental health and adolescent behaviour to uncover why phone battles often miss...
Reset Routines That Actually Work: Supporting Girls' Mental Health Through Parenting
If your teen rolls her eyes, says “yeah yeah,” or shuts down the moment you try to help, this episode on girls' mental health and adolescent behaviour is for you.We’re not talking about forcing her to do things. Instead, we explore real...
Supporting Parenting: New Year, Same Struggles? How Change Really Happens.
January can make it feel like everything should be different: new routines, new energy, new rules and yet your daughter is still avoiding work, shutting down, or pushing back. If you’re standing there wondering, “Why isn’t this changing? What a...
Parenting Support: What You Got Right This Year (Even If It Doesn't Feel Like It)
If you’re ending this year feeling tired, emotional, and quietly wondering whether you’ve messed it all up as a mum, this episode is for you. It includes parenting support and ways to improve your mother/daughter relationship.Not to fix...
Mother Daughter Relationship: Why Mirroring Matters (And Why This Time Of Year Is So Hard).
Does Christmas leave you feeling like you’re failing in your relationship with your daughter, even though you’re doing everything?The planning.The organising.The emotional holding.The carrying of everyone else’s needs.
Parenting Support: A Moment to Pause and Breathe
A short, calming pause designed as parenting support to improve your mother daughter relationshipIn just 7 minutes, this gentle recording supports you to relax your body, settle your thoughts, and find a moment of calm in your day.
When Screens Steal the Season: Understanding Teenage Behaviour & Girls Mental Health
Holidays are meant to feel lighter… so why does it sometimes feel like your daughter has disappeared into her phone and you’re left snapping, worrying, and wondering where you went wrong?In this episode of The Teen Whisperer, we’re talk...
The Reset Your Teen Really Needs: Play
This episode of the Teen Whisperer Podcast dives deep into girls' mental health and adolescent behaviour, offering essential parenting support to mothers navigating the complex mother-daughter relationship. Discover how behavioural messages fro...