Marriage Unmasked
Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone.
Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where Adam and Cara Nitz share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage.
We want you to know that you are NOT alone in your struggles, we've been there too. We've worked through plenty of highs and lows in our 18 years of marriage.
Every Tuesday you can expect real life, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your everyday marriage.
We want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other.
We also offer an online marriage course and so many other helpful marriage resources at our website: https://www.thewayforlove.com/
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Episodes
30 episodes
The Abandonment Wound in Marriage
In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re exposing the abandonment wound, where it starts, how it silently drives your reactions, and why it shows up so often in hurting marriages.Whether you cling tighter, get controll...
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Season 1
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Episode 29
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24:29
When You Feel Like You're "Not Enough" in Your Marriage
Have you ever looked at your marriage and thought, “If I were prettier… stronger… sexier… more patient… maybe my spouse would love me better”?You’re not alone.In this episode we break down the lie so many spouses...
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Season 1
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Episode 28
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24:57
Unhealthy Ways to Apologize
Not all apologies are created equal. In this episode we’re unmasking the kinds of apologies that do more harm than good. From defensive “sorrys” to guilt-tripping or emotionally manipulative ones, we explore why these surface-...
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Season 1
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Episode 27
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22:40
Men Supporting Men: Why It’s Crucial to Your Marriage
In this powerful episode, we explore a topic that doesn’t get enough airtime: the importance of men supporting men, especially in the context of marriage.Marriage thrives when a man is surrounded by other men who speak truth, offer encou...
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Season 1
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Episode 26
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24:51
When You Are the One Holding Your Marriage Together
You're the One Holding the Marriage Together If you’re the one initiating the conversations, doing the emotional work, and trying to keep the marriage from unraveling, this episode is for you.In today’s honest and compassiona...
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Season 1
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Episode 25
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29:50
Grieving the Marriage You Wanted
Marriage can be so disappointing! Especially when the marriage you hoped for is not the marriage you're in. You had beautiful dreams. You envisioned a future with laughter, connection, health and safety but now it's missing...
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Season 1
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Episode 24
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24:33
The Conflict Method That Saved Our Marriage
Are you stuck in the same fight over and over in your marriage?Do your arguments leave you feeling exhausted, confused and isolated?We’ve been there and it’s so hard! In today’s episode we talk through the difference b...
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Season 1
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Episode 23
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30:05
Unmasking Codependency: The Hidden Struggle in Marriages
Is it love or is it codependency? In this eye-opening episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re uncovering a struggle most couples face but few recognize: codependency.We’ll peel back the layers to explore:What codependenc...
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Season 1
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Episode 22
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23:48
Do You Love Your Kids More Than Your Spouse?
This episode tackles a sensitive but important question many couples avoid: Do you love your kids more than your spouse?We’re pulling back the curtain on what happens when the marriage takes a backseat to parenting. While the lo...
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Season 1
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Episode 21
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25:50
Too Tired For Sex
Let’s be honest—when you're juggling work, kids, and the emotional weight of a strained marriage, sex can feel like the last thing on your mind. In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the deeper reasons behind feeling “too tired for se...
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Season 1
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Episode 20
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27:48
Where's Your Marriage Headed?
In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re asking a vital question: Where is your marriage headed? Without a clear vision, it's easy for marriage to drift — pulled by busy schedules, distractions, and unspoken disappointmen...
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Season 1
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Episode 19
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23:38
Quietly Quitting Your Marriage
Have you ever felt like you're still in your marriage—but your heart has quietly left the room? In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers of what it means to quietly quit in marriage. From emotional detachment to silent resentment...
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Season 1
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Episode 18
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21:55
How to Create Safety in Your Marriage
In today’s episode, we’re talking about one of the most foundational needs in marriage: safety. If you're feeling closed off from each other, afraid to share your heart, or unsure how your spouse will respond to your vulnerability—this c...
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Season 1
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Episode 17
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25:15
Twisted Submission in Marriage
Submission. It’s one of the most misunderstood—and misused—words in Christian marriage.Submission in marriage was never meant to silence, control, or strip a wife of her worth. But somewhere along the way, the beauty of bibli...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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24:44
Faith, Shame, and Sex: What the Church Taught Us
In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re diving into the complex relationship between religious teaching, shame and sex. God intended sex to be a beautiful gift for a husband and wife to enjoy in marriage. However, many ...
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Season 1
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Episode 15
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29:38
The Dark Side of Being Married to a "Nice Guy"
Being married to a “nice guy” sounds like a dream—until it’s not. In this episode, we’re pulling back the mask on what it’s really like to be married to a man who avoids conflict, prioritizes peace over connection, and leaves you fe...
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Season 1
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Episode 14
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29:52
Getting Out of a Critical Marriage
Criticism can slowly erode a marriage, turning a once-loving relationship into a battleground of hurt and defensiveness. In this episode, we’re unpacking how criticism affects a marriage, why it happens, and how to shift the dynamic...
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Season 1
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Episode 13
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26:00
Did I Marry the Right Person? Facing Doubts in Marriage.
Have you ever found yourself wondering, "Did I marry the right person?" You're not alone. Doubts in marriage can feel unsettling, but they don’t have to define your relationship. In this episode, we’ll unpack why these thoughts may surface and ...
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Season 1
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Episode 12
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23:13
Victim Energy vs. Empowered Love. Change the Atmosphere in Your Marriage
In this episode, we're diving into a crucial topic: victim energy in marriage. If you've ever felt stuck, unheard, or helpless in your relationship, this conversation is for you. We're breaking down what victim energy looks like, ho...
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Season 1
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Episode 11
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28:50
Why Masculine and Feminine Energy is Vital in Marriage
In marriage the dynamic between masculine gifts and feminine gifts becomes incredibly important. They play on each other and build on each other. If the dynamic is off, the relationship suffers.Understanding the masculine and feminine dy...
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Season 1
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Episode 10
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24:40
Sex Stereotypes In Marriage
Sexual intimacy is a wonderful gift from God that we get to enjoy in marriage. He has so much good for us in this gift! Unfortunately, couples often struggle to communicate about their sexual relationship and that can cause hurt and disconnecti...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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24:21
When My Spouse Won't Change
It's so frustrating when you come to your marriage hoping for your spouse to change to meet your needs or expectations. You work on helping them change or even demanding those changes and nothing seems to happen. What do you do with that? ...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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33:52
Is Love Enough to Make a Marriage Work?
You find your spouse, decide they're “the one” and then happily ever after…right? Is love what makes a marriage work? In this episode, we’re unmasking the truth about what really holds a marriage together. We’ll dive into the core e...
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Season 1
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Episode 7
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24:01
How To Have More Intimacy When You Feel Emotionally Unsafe
Emotional safety is vital to the marriage relationship. If you can't feel safe to open your heart to each other, your relationship either stays surface level or you both end up defensive and disconnected. Either way that's painful.When ...
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Season 1
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Episode 6
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29:59
When a Husband is Clueless in His Marriage.
Ever experience this? The husband thinks everything's fine. Nothing seems broken, no need to fix it. Meanwhile the wife is feeling disconnected, alone and unheard and it's getting serious. That's a painful and all-to-common dynamic in marriage....
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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24:36
