Marriage Unmasked
Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone.
Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where certified marriage and life coaches, Adam and Cara Nitz, share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage.
We want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other.
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Episodes
76 episodes
What Does "Your Body Belongs to Each Other" Even Mean?
What does it really mean when the Bible says your body does not belong to you alone, but also to your spouse?For a lot of couples, this passage has either been misunderstood, weaponized, or reduced down to obligation and duty. God’s hear...
Is Your Spouse a Bully?
It's so painful. "He keeps saying things that really cut me to the heart!" "Her harsh criticism regularly shuts me down."When one spouse’s reactions, criticism, anger, or emotional intensity seems to dominate the relationship, the ...
Is It Time for a Separation?
Marriage can seem exhausting when there is constant tension, repeated hurt, and painful disconnection. It can leave you asking, is it time for a separation? In this episode, we step into that space with you, without shame or pressur...
When Date Night Just Isn't Fun Anymore
It’s supposed to be fun and connecting! So why does date night fall apart, get tense, painful or awkward?A lot of couples try to use date night as a quick fix, hoping a nice dinner or a night out will solve what’s been building underneat...
These 7 Red Flags Mean Your Marriage is in Trouble
Are you ignoring any tell-tale signs that your marriage is in trouble? In this episode, we’re talking about 7 red flags that often show up long before things collapse. Each one is an important sign that something deeper needs attent...
Navigating a Sexless Marriage
For some, it feels like rejection, for others, pressure and for most couples it comes with confusion, shame, or resentment that’s been building for a long time. This isn’t just a “his issue” or a “her issue.” A sexless marriage will...
Mastering the Hard Moments in Marriage
The hard moments can make or break a marriage over time. It's those moments when conversations get tense, you feel triggered, the times you want to shut down, defend, or react. And in those moments, it’s not the situation that does ...
3 Ways You're Emasculating Your Husband
This is a tough topic, but a very real one for so many couples.In this episode, we’re not here to blame or shame women or excuse men. We’re slowing things down enough to look underneath the surface. What's really happening here? When wiv...
Nice Guys Don't Make Great Husbands
This may surprise you, but being a “nice guy” isn’t the same as being a good husband.The kind of "nice" we're talking about often avoids conflict, suppresses true feelings, and tries to keep the peace at all costs. On the surface, that c...
You're Married to an 8-year-old: Understanding Emotional Immaturity
What if your marriage conflict isn’t just about what’s happening right now, but about a younger version of you showing up beneath the surface? In this episode, we talk about how emotional immaturity and the unhealed, younger parts o...
The #1 Responsibility of a Husband in Marriage
What does a man bring to a marriage that makes it safe, steady, and alive?In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we talk about the number one responsibility a husband carries that shapes everything else: strength. The kind...
The #1 Responsibility of a Wife in Marriage
Believe it or not, a wife’s superpower isn’t in serving well, exercising control, productivity, or even communication skills. In this episode, we explore the incredible power and influence of a wife who relaxes into her God-given f...
6 Reasons Husbands Stop Showing Love to Their Wives
A man doesn’t usually just stop loving his wife. More often, something inside him slowly shuts down. When a man feels like his efforts don’t matter, like respect is tied to performance, or when he opens up, it isn’t safe, he can begin to withdr...
What To Do When They Keep Hurting You
Your spouse keeps saying, "I'm sorry." But then they hurt you the same way again. Trust is ruined, over and over. At some point this has to stop. But how?It's incredibly painful when this cycle keeps happening, not because either of you ...
Commitment in Your Marriage is Making You Miserable
When commitment starts to feel like misery, something deeper is usually going on. In this episode, we talk about a kind of marriage commitment many Christians carry: staying faithful, showing up physically, doing the “right” things,...
6 Reasons Wives Lose Respect for Their Husbands
When a wife's respect for her husband disappears, both people are hurting.In this episode, we’re naming 6 Reasons behind her loss of respect. This is not a blame-filled conversation. It’s an honest, compassionate look at why wives...
When a Good Woman Is Tearing Down Her Husband
She's not trying to tear him down.She’s trying to survive her own pain.And he’s not shutting down because he doesn’t care,he’s shutting down because her criticism is hitting a wound he needs to heal.In this episode of ...
11 Things Healthy Married Couples Do
Healthy marriages don't just happen. It isn't about personality, or “finding the right person.”They’re built through small, repeatable choices that create safety, closeness, and momentum over time.In this episode, we’re talking ab...
When Trust is Broken
What happens when trust is broken in a marriage and nothing feels the same anymore?You’re still married. You still live under the same roof. But something essential has fractured. Whether its infidelity, lies, secrecy or other behaviors ...
Best of Marriage Unmasked: How to Rebuild Attraction in a Marriage that Hurts
This episode continues to be our most listened-to conversation, so we're bringing it back for those who missed it, and those who need a refresh. What do you do when you're not attracted to your spouse anymore? <...
Pursuing Pleasure Can Change Everything in Marriage
Marriage isn't just to "make you holy." It's also designed for pleasure. Too often, marriage becomes about responsibilities, routines, and keeping peace rather than cultivating joy. We learn to manage pain but when do we intentionally pursue pl...
When You Don't Want to Touch Each Other
What happens when physical closeness no longer feels natural or even welcome? When hugs feel forced. Kisses fade. And the space between you grows quieter and heavier than either of you ever expected?In this episode, we talk honestly abou...
How to Overcome a Victim Mindset in Marriage
"I'm blamed for everything." "Nothing I ever do is good enough." "I'm the only one trying." When marriage gets painful it feels like survival mode and the thoughts and stories we repeat in our heads can cause us to feel stuck and ho...
What's Normal and What's a Red Flag in Marriage?
Every marriage has tension. Every couple has conflict. But many couples wonder is this "normal" or a "red flag?"In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we talk honestly about the difference between normal marital challenges and true red fl...
5 Things Women Need from Their Husbands
Many wives carry a quiet ache in their marriage over needs that go unmet and hopes that go unrealized. And many husbands want to love their wives well and meet those needs, but feel confused, overwhelmed, or discouraged trying to do just that.<...