Marriage Unmasked
Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone.
Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where certified marriage and life coaches, Adam and Cara Nitz, share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage.
We want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other.
Find your next step with our online marriage course, support groups, coaching and so many other helpful marriage resources at our website: https://www.thewayforlove.com/
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Episodes
91 episodes
Is Your Spouse Manipulating You?
Manipulation in marriage isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it looks like guilt, pressure, withdrawal, emotional intensity, playing the victim, or making your spouse feel responsible for your emotions. So often underneath manipulative behavior, th...
Is Your Husband the Problem? 4 Questions to Ask to Know for Sure
Ever thought, “My husband is really the problem in this relationship”? Maybe he’s passive, distant, defensive, controlling, or just not showing up the way you need him to. What if the problem on the surface is actually poin...
4 Things Your Wife Is Probably Afraid to Say to You
What if your wife's greatest need right now is just the freedom to finally tell you what’s been weighing on her heart? Could it be that your wife has wanted to say something for years but kept quiet, because she’s not sure how you’l...
How to Reignite the Spark in a Marriage That's Hurting
What if you love each other, but you don’t feel it anymore? Does it seem like the attraction has faded, affection feels forced, or the spark that used to be there naturally now seems impossible to find? Yes, you...
You Don't Need Another Date Night, You Need This First
Date night, question cards, couple’s games…they can help your marriage, but they can’t bring true transformation. Deeper, lasting intimacy grows through honest conversations, emotional safety, and the courage to address what’s happen...
Don't Change For Your Spouse
So many spouses try to change out of fear. They fear conflict, rejection, disappointment, or losing the relationship. Fear might change your behavior for a little while, but it won't truly transform your heart or your marriage. In the end behav...
Best of Marriage Unmasked: When You Don't Like Your Spouse
What do you do when you realize you just don’t like your spouse right now?You still love them. You’re still committed. It's just that what they say and do rubs you the wrong way. You feel disconnected, irritated, maybe even repulse...
How to Get Off the Dysfunctional Marriage Rollercoaster
You're up. You're down. You're good. You're not. Marriage can seem like a never-ending roller coaster of dysfunction that keeps you dizzy and sick. One minute you're connected, the next you're not. One of you criticizes. The other w...
True or False: You Can Pray Away Trauma
Can prayer heal trauma? Absolutely. But maybe not in the way you’ve been told.In this episode, we talk through what trauma is, what happens inside your brain and nervous system when you’ve been wounded, and why so many well-meaning Chris...
How Hormones Impacted Our Marriage Disconnection
What if some of the conflict in your marriage isn’t just about communication?What if the emotional distance, irritability, defensiveness, or lack of connection isn’t simply a relationship problem?In this episode, we’re talking abo...
4 Reasons Your Spouse Gets So Defensive
It’s crazy-making when you’re trying to have a conversation with your spouse and they instantly put their walls up. You bring up a concern, ask a question, or try to address an issue and you’re met with excuses, blame, anger, or shutdown. Why d...
20 Lessons We've Learned From 20 Years of Marriage
Today is our 20th Anniversary! Twenty years of marriage has taught us a lot.In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re sharing 20 of the biggest lessons we’ve learned along the way. Things we wish we had understood earlier. Things that ...
Our Story Part 2: How We Healed 15 Years of Marriage Pain
Last week, we shared the first part of our story and the pain and struggles we experienced in our marriage. But that’s not where the story ends.In this episode, we’re sharing what happened next and the inner healing journey God led us th...
Our Story Part 1: 15 Years of Marriage Pain: Disconnection, Resentment, and Survival.
In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re sharing our own story. Not the polished version or the highlight reel. The real story.For the first 15 years of our marriage, we experienced pain, disconnection, resentment, loneliness, misunde...
Was Getting Married Young a Mistake?
In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about getting married young, emotional maturity, expectations, pressure, identity, and the ways two people can deeply love each other and still struggle because they simply didn’t know themse...
What Does "Your Body Belongs to Each Other" Even Mean?
What does it really mean when the Bible says your body does not belong to you alone, but also to your spouse?For a lot of couples, this passage has either been misunderstood, weaponized, or reduced down to obligation and duty. God’s hear...
Is Your Spouse a Bully?
It's so painful. "He keeps saying things that really cut me to the heart!" "Her harsh criticism regularly shuts me down."When one spouse’s reactions, criticism, anger, or emotional intensity seems to dominate the relationship, the ...
Is It Time for a Separation?
Marriage can seem exhausting when there is constant tension, repeated hurt, and painful disconnection. It can leave you asking, is it time for a separation? In this episode, we step into that space with you, without shame or pressur...
When Date Night Just Isn't Fun Anymore
It’s supposed to be fun and connecting! So why does date night fall apart, get tense, painful or awkward?A lot of couples try to use date night as a quick fix, hoping a nice dinner or a night out will solve what’s been building underneat...
These 7 Red Flags Mean Your Marriage is in Trouble
Are you ignoring any tell-tale signs that your marriage is in trouble? In this episode, we’re talking about 7 red flags that often show up long before things collapse. Each one is an important sign that something deeper needs attent...
Navigating a Sexless Marriage
For some, it feels like rejection, for others, pressure and for most couples it comes with confusion, shame, or resentment that’s been building for a long time. This isn’t just a “his issue” or a “her issue.” A sexless marriage will...
Mastering the Hard Moments in Marriage
The hard moments can make or break a marriage over time. It's those moments when conversations get tense, you feel triggered, the times you want to shut down, defend, or react. And in those moments, it’s not the situation that does ...
3 Ways You're Emasculating Your Husband
This is a tough topic, but a very real one for so many couples.In this episode, we’re not here to blame or shame women or excuse men. We’re slowing things down enough to look underneath the surface. What's really happening here? When wiv...
Nice Guys Don't Make Great Husbands
This may surprise you, but being a “nice guy” isn’t the same as being a good husband.The kind of "nice" we're talking about often avoids conflict, suppresses true feelings, and tries to keep the peace at all costs. On the surface, that c...
You're Married to an 8-year-old: Understanding Emotional Immaturity
What if your marriage conflict isn’t just about what’s happening right now, but about a younger version of you showing up beneath the surface? In this episode, we talk about how emotional immaturity and the unhealed, younger parts o...