Marriage Unmasked
Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone.
Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where certified marriage and life coaches, Adam and Cara Nitz, share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage.
We want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other.
Find your next step with our online marriage course, support groups, coaching and so many other helpful marriage resources at our website: https://www.thewayforlove.com/
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Episodes
60 episodes
When a Good Woman Is Tearing Down Her Husband
She's not trying to tear him down.She’s trying to survive her own pain.And he’s not shutting down because he doesn’t care,he’s shutting down because her criticism is hitting a wound he needs to heal.In this episode of ...
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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31:09
11 Things Healthy Married Couples Do
Healthy marriages don't just happen. It isn't about personality, or “finding the right person.”They’re built through small, repeatable choices that create safety, closeness, and momentum over time.In this episode, we’re talking ab...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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26:46
When Trust is Broken
What happens when trust is broken in a marriage and nothing feels the same anymore?You’re still married. You still live under the same roof. But something essential has fractured. Whether its infidelity, lies, secrecy or other behaviors ...
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Season 2
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Episode 2
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26:33
Best of Marriage Unmasked: How to Rebuild Attraction in a Marriage that Hurts
This episode continues to be our most listened-to conversation, so we're bringing it back for those who missed it, and those who need a refresh. What do you do when you're not attracted to your spouse anymore? <...
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21:24
Pursuing Pleasure Can Change Everything in Marriage
Marriage isn't just to "make you holy." It's also designed for pleasure. Too often, marriage becomes about responsibilities, routines, and keeping peace rather than cultivating joy. We learn to manage pain but when do we intentionally pursue pl...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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32:53
When You Don't Want to Touch Each Other
What happens when physical closeness no longer feels natural or even welcome? When hugs feel forced. Kisses fade. And the space between you grows quieter and heavier than either of you ever expected?In this episode, we talk honestly abou...
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Season 1
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Episode 54
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28:03
How to Overcome a Victim Mindset in Marriage
"I'm blamed for everything." "Nothing I ever do is good enough." "I'm the only one trying." When marriage gets painful it feels like survival mode and the thoughts and stories we repeat in our heads can cause us to feel stuck and ho...
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Season 1
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Episode 53
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24:00
What's Normal and What's a Red Flag in Marriage?
Every marriage has tension. Every couple has conflict. But many couples wonder is this "normal" or a "red flag?"In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we talk honestly about the difference between normal marital challenges and true red fl...
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Season 1
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Episode 52
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30:05
5 Things Women Need from Their Husbands
Many wives carry a quiet ache in their marriage over needs that go unmet and hopes that go unrealized. And many husbands want to love their wives well and meet those needs, but feel confused, overwhelmed, or discouraged trying to do just that.<...
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Season 1
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Episode 51
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27:46
5 Things Men Need From Their Wives
Many husbands walk through marriage carrying unspoken needs, and too often, their wives are left confused, wondering why he pulls back, shuts down, or says he's “fine” while something deeper is going on underneath.In this episode, we unm...
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Season 1
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Episode 50
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31:02
Do Opposites Really Attract?
Why do our differences feel magnetic in dating, but maddening in marriage?Have you ever had thoughts like, "Why are we so different? This shouldn't be this hard." "I feel unseen, misunderstood, and exhausted by our differences." Or "Mayb...
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Season 1
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Episode 49
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26:09
The Top 5 Ways to Validate Your Spouse and Create Safety in Your Marriage
Have you ever had a simple conversation suddenly turn into defensiveness, shutting down, walking away, or a full-blown argument?Maybe you've been feeling unheard or unseen for a long time or maybe your spouse says you’re “too sensitive" ...
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Season 1
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Episode 48
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24:29
Setting Boundaries with In-laws Without Causing More Conflict
You love your family. You want peace, but every time your in-laws overstep, you feel that knot in your stomach tighten.You start wondering, "How do I honor parents without betraying my spouse? How do we draw lines without a blow up?"...
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Season 1
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Episode 47
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28:28
We Waited for Marriage, Why is Sex Still So Hard?
You did the “right” thing. You waited. You honored God, you went into marriage believing that obedience would lead to awesome intimacy. But now, after months or years, you’re realizing that sex can still be complicated, confusing, or even painf...
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Season 1
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Episode 46
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32:48
The Top 7 Things That Cause Disconnection in Your Marriage
Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought, “How did we get here?” You’re in the same house, but it feels like you’re miles apart. You reconnect for a moment only to have it fall apart all over again. Chronic disconnection is inc...
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Season 1
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Episode 45
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29:20
When You Don't Like Your Spouse
What do you do when you realize you just don’t like your spouse right now?You still love them. You’re still committed. It's just that what they say and do rubs you the wrong way. You feel disconnected, irritated, maybe even repulse...
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Season 1
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Episode 44
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23:07
Has Your Spouse Become an Idol?
You're bending over backwards trying to "keep the peace" “do whatever it takes to make her happy,” or "trying to beg or control him so he gives you the love you crave."But when your sense of worth, peace, or identity rises and falls base...
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Season 1
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Episode 43
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17:15
When Compromise Seems Impossible
What do you do if your spouse refuses to budge? It can be incredibly aggravating when compromise seems impossible.In this episode of Marriage Unmasked we dig into why your spouse might be digging their heels in and refusing to compromise...
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Season 1
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Episode 42
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18:21
5 Conflict Lessons That Changed Our Marriage
Conflict can either break you down or bring you closer. In this episode, we share five powerful lessons we’ve learned through the struggles, arguments, and tensions in our own marriage. These lessons have reshaped the way we approac...
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Season 1
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Episode 41
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21:30
How To Navigate Overwhelm When Both Spouses Work
The weight of managing the home can feel like an endless cycle of stress, frustration, and burnout. One person often feels like they’re carrying more than their share, while the other may feel underappreciated or misunderstood. Lear...
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Season 1
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Episode 40
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24:28
For the Men: 7 Truths When It Seems Like You're "Not Enough"
Do you have what it takes or not? Every man knows the sting of wondering if he’s measuring up in his marriage. Maybe you’ve felt the pressure of your wife’s expectations, the weight of your own failures, or the constant nagging voice that says,...
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Season 1
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Episode 39
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10:37
Boundaries Are Biblical
Have you ever felt like the more you give in your marriage, the less you’re respected or valued? Maybe you’ve been told that being a "good husband" or “good wife” means saying yes no matter what, sacrificing your needs, and keeping ...
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Season 1
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Episode 38
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18:31
Strong Wives Need Strong Husbands: How He Can Lead Without Competing.
Many marriages today are stuck in a quiet tug-of-war, wives stepping up because they feel they have to, and husbands pulling back because they don’t know where they fit in. The result? Both end up in exhaustion, resentment, and a disconnection ...
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Season 1
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Episode 37
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22:47
When Finances Feel Like a Power Struggle
Money fights in marriage aren’t really about dollars and cents, they’re about control, trust, and fear. In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re getting to the heart of why finances can feel like a battlefield i...
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Season 1
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Episode 36
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21:47
When Your In-laws Disrespect You and Your Spouse Stays Silent
When in-laws show disrespect, and the one person you expect to protect you, your spouse, says nothing, it cuts deep.Maybe it was a comment that embarrassed you in front of everyone. Maybe it was an ongoing pattern of criticism or dismiss...
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Season 1
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Episode 35
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19:46