Relational Alchemy
Relational Alchemy is a podcast about the relationship patterns we live out — and how those patterns hold the key to our deepest healing. Hosted by relationship coach and somatic practitioner Lindsey Bourne, this podcast explores attachment styles, nervous system healing, emotional triggers, subconscious beliefs, and the protective strategies we develop in response to early relational wounds.
Each week, through personal reflections, conversations with practitioners, and stories of transformation, we examine how patterns like anxious attachment, avoidance, people-pleasing, codependency, shutdown, and self-abandonment show up in our relationships — and how they can be softened, understood, and transformed.
Rooted in trauma-informed, somatic, and attachment-based perspectives, Relational Alchemy offers a grounded, compassionate approach to relational healing. This podcast is for anyone longing for deeper self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and relationships that feel grounded, secure, and meaningful — with themselves and with others.
Episodes
10 episodes
A Client Story: How to Turn Relationship Triggers Into Healing
Have you ever done all the work, read all the books, understood your attachment style, and then gotten into a relationship and found yourself right back in the same patterns?That's where Lizzy was when she found me. Painfully self-aware,...
Grief as a Portal: Movement, Identity, & Coming Back to Yourself with Helen Phelan
What if the grief you've been carrying in your head could only be released through your body?What if the relationship that collapsed was actually the thing that brought you back to yourself?What if reinvention isn't something you ...
How To Actually Heal Through Relationships
What if the very thing you want to fix about your partner is actually the thing you're meant to heal in yourself?What if the urge to control, fix, or chase reassurance from your partner isn't about them at all?Wha...
The Phase of Relationships Nobody Talks About (But We All Need to Know About)
What if the fighting, the triggering, and the distance you're feeling in your relationship aren't signs that something is wrong, but signs that something important is trying to surface?In this solo episode, I'm diving deep into one of th...
How Astrology Reveals Your Relationship Patterns
What if astrology wasn’t about predicting your future… but about understanding how you relate?In this episode, I’m joined by astrologer and one of my closest friends, Isa Nakazawa, to explore astrology as a deeply relational lan...
Transforming the Shame Triangle with Jessica Fern and David Cooley
In this episode we explore:What the shame triangle is and how it shapes the way people experience themselves and their relationships The difference between the inner critic, the shame part, and the protective escape st...
Healing Your Nervous System So Love Stops Feeling Like Survival
In this episode we explore:The difference between regulating your nervous system and actually healing it How attachment wounds drive anxiety, control, and conflict in relationships Why triggers are invita...
From Performance to Presence: How Relationship Patterns Shape Your Work Life
In this episode we explore:• Why your relationship patterns don’t disappear when you walk into work • The difference between internal authority and outsourcing validation • How triggers at work mirror childhood a...
Common Patterns In Relationships & How to Alchemize Them for Your Highest Growth
In this episode we explore:• Why surface conflicts are never the real issue• The shared wound underneath couples fights• How survival mode shapes attraction patterns• Projection and inner child triggers in relationship...