163 How Planning & Mindset Shifts Create Real Results - Samhita’s Story

I want to share Samhita’s story with you because I think it speaks to specific mindset shifts she made that took her from stuck at zero lbs lost to finally getting some traction and then releasing 11lbs. 

We talk about:

• how she first had to get honest with yourself and overcome her challenge of giving up without seeing the scale go down. 
• how she was able to feel proud despite the lack of scale results bc of her efforts and who she’s being and the decisions she’s making. 
• how she’s making weight loss enjoyable on her terms.
• and why she let go of deadlines and started measuring input metrics and how that effected her weight loss

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Transcript

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Speaker: [00:00:00] Thank you. Welcome Samhita. Thank you so much for coming to the podcast. First, why don't you just tell me a little bit about before you reached out to me, before we started working together, what did that look like for you? 

Speaker 2: Yeah, so I will say I, um, have always exercised. I've always. I watched what I ate always.

Speaker 2: I would say like I've been trying to lose weight for as long as I can remember and there's probably periods of my time when like it wasn't hundred percent of my focus and I was like, fine. And then like, but I would say I can, as far as I can remember, every New Year's I had a resolution to lose weight.

Speaker 2: I can't remember a time when goal or wasn't one of my intentions. And so, and I would say sometimes I have been successful sometimes. I wasn't successful, but I, I was never able to correlate my weight loss with the actions I did. So any time before I started working with you, I, when I would lose weight, it would just be because like a period of when I was really busy or I was like, so had so much other things [00:01:00] going on, or like I was going to the gym, but I was pretty, I would say like.

Speaker 2: Stable, like my grief, fluctuated maybe between the same 15 pounds or so. So I actually found you on Spotify through your podcast, which is so just a really full circle moment for me. So your podcast came up as like suggested for you. It was really random. I just started listening to your episodes and then I think what prompted me to reach out to you because your podcast was the first time I felt like anybody ever told me that.

Speaker 2: Welcoming hunger is a necessary part of losing weight. I may be paraphrasing here, and I remember I binge listened to like a lot of the episodes of like share with my friends and everything and like I felt like your approach is. Um, very calm and soft, but it also is very direct and matter of fact, and I, I really respond well to like a balance of both.

Speaker 2: So I've never been someone who like can, like, goes through those boot classes at you. Like I don't respond well to that, but I do respond well. I'm very like, respond well to like coaching and like direction [00:02:00] and I take well those things and, but specifically I remember what standing out to me was like.

Speaker 2: You spoke about hunger in a very positive way. A lot of the things I had tried to do was in a way to like not be hungry. The whole weight loss world sells you this thing where you know, when you, you can lose weight when without ever feeling hunger. And I realized like that's just not, if you have see like big goals, that's just not realistic part of the process.

Speaker 2: There's a between like slight hunger and like starvation. And I very specifically remember there was one episode where you were like, you feel it for maybe a week or maybe two weeks and away. And like that really clicked in my head. And I think what, by the time I come to you, I was, I wit end, but I felt like I tried everything at the time.

Speaker 2: And like, I think like even within the first six to 12 months of working with you, I still kept trying every single thing. And like, your coaching wasn't for me like a. I came to like one four sessions and then I was changed. It took a lot, lot of [00:03:00] repeated time to like reinforce and change up these things.

Speaker: Mm-hmm. 

Speaker 2: Yeah. Mm-hmm. 

Speaker: Yeah, no, I appreciate you saying that because everybody comes in at like different stages and different, with different mentality and different history and so it's not a kind of like, oh, just follow these three steps in three weeks and then you're gonna be here. Like, there's just no guarantees in that way.

Speaker: So that's why I always wanna just be very honest about that, is. People have all different experiences and results, and that's why I like to bring so many different types of clients on the podcast because people that might be listening be like, oh, maybe I am a little bit more like this, or more like that.

Speaker: And it's all okay. It's all fine. It doesn't, it just means that we have our own paths to take. 

Speaker 2: Yeah, like I feel like if you've been trying to lose weight for years, you have to really unwire your brain and really shift how you look at that. And it's taken me a couple years to do that. Being not so tied to like, I need to lose 10 pounds by Christmas.

Speaker 2: I feel like that is [00:04:00] actually one of the worst goals you set for yourself because you, you are now associating success by whether you're down 10 pounds by a certain date and with weight loss, like that is not the metric. You should be Turing and it's so much more about the inputs that you're doing and like, so like I.

Speaker 2: When I, and it's interesting because when I stopped giving myself a deadline to lose weight, I somehow would actually ended up working faster for me. And I actually was somehow getting there quicker than I was ever before. And so I, uh, I, you know, like through our sessions, like I feel like every time I walked away with like one new like, nugget of learning of like, okay, like today I've learned like.

Speaker 2: There was months and months I worked with you where I didn't see changes on the scale. However, I didn't realize how much of those like brain chemistry was compounding because when it finally clicked, it just kept like boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, [00:05:00] is how I would describe it. Yeah, yeah, 

Speaker 3: yeah. 

Speaker: So how would you say, like, how would you describe your relationship with food now compared to what it was?

Speaker 2: Food for me, food used to be as a, when I was stressed I would, or when I was, um, when I was at like a free work dinner or like a buffet, like, oh my gosh, like I had this like very much a scarcity mindset around food and that has shifted so much. I have adopted such an abundant mindset and when I look at someone who looks at food for emotional dependency, I generally like, I'm like.

Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be that way. Like I, I never thought I could change my relationship with food, but now it's like, it's there. I'm not saying like I, I, because I really enjoy going back to eat and going out to dinner and like enjoying eating good food. I'm taking a baking class right now. Right. But it's not the center of my like universe.

Speaker 2: Like it is something that is like an addition. I used to think like what was holding me back, losing weight was like going out to eat [00:06:00] or like drinking. But when I'm actually out and at dinner, I'm consuming a lot less food because I'm getting so much pleasure pumping me in the environment and all of the stuff.

Speaker 2: And so now I look at food. I hate when people say like, food is fuel. I mean, yes it is, but for me, like food is like, it's enjoyable, but there's, I look at it as abundance. So like I can eat three pieces and then like, okay, I'll come back. It's still there tomorrow. And I'm also like a lot more forgiving to myself.

Speaker 2: It's funny because I eat dessert, I would say almost every day now. Like in, in some way, shape or form, like in, in a small piece here or there. But allowing myself the freedom to have a little bit every day has been. Almost like preventing me from like overeating, if that makes sense. And I never thought I could be in that mindset ever in my life.

Speaker 2: I do set myself for success. I don't like surround myself with like, but it's, I used to not even be allowed or like I would never allowed, I have it in the house and now like I just have it in my house and then it just like sits there for like days and days and I'm like, oh, okay. And it's almost like [00:07:00] this counterintuitive where it's like, because it's there, it doesn't feel it scares me anymore.

Speaker 2: So my relationship with has really become very, I would say like I feel like there's always going be more food to try. Like that was a big mindset shift, if you want. Yeah. 

Speaker: Yeah. I think that's so important for people to hear because I think it can be hard to, if you've had a lot of food noise and you've been, you know, restricting and then overindulging, it can be hard to imagine.

Speaker: That that can change for you. You, you kind of think like, I'm not one of those people, like I'm one of those people who can't stop at three bites. Like that's not possible for me. I'm not one of those people that can go to a restaurant and like opt out of drinking or having dessert. And so for you, what I'm hearing is there's been a real identity shift and you deciding, no, I do want to be that kind of person.

Speaker: Even though maybe you weren't entirely in belief at the time, you started to take action despite that belief. And then [00:08:00] that belief grew over time. And now you just are that person. But you've always been somebody who's really good at visualizing who they wanted to be. Even if you weren't a hundred percent sure that you that was gonna happen, you always had a vision.

Speaker 2: No, I agree. When you said identity shift like that is what you need to do. So I have a planner actually bought the business write beta co. I was gonna talk about that too. It's like in my diary, I would write in there like, I'm someone who eats salads every day for lunch. I'm someone who walks 10,000 steps every, I just made a list of like, I imagined what this person that I'm trying to be would be like, and in my head she ate salads.

Speaker 2: She walked 10,000 steps, she'd wake train three days a week. She really enjoyed choosing the healthier options. I made up this character in my head of like all these traits, and I didn't start doing it day one, but every day I would try to be 1% closer to that person. A year later, that's just who I am. Now, when I go out to go out to eat, I'll like, [00:09:00] like I'll choose the salad and like I'll choose the, I average eight to 10,000 steps every day.

Speaker 2: It's funny how when you create that identity for yourself and then you start taking small actions towards it, I really think that is what. In my weight loss. It's like creating this identity and then like the belief came along where it's like, oh, I can do this. And then it happens. Yeah. 

Speaker: That's amazing. So tell me a little bit about, 'cause I know planning and tracking was a big part of the system that you set up for yourself and you bought a planner company and we can put a link to that in the show notes so that people can check that out.

Speaker: So tell me about what that system, like, how it supported you in terms of practical steps that might give somebody an idea of what to do. 

Speaker 2: Yeah, I found through working with you that like. My superpower is really planning. When I have an idea of like what's coming up, I'm much better at making decisions versus like decisions that fly.

Speaker 2: I don't like to [00:10:00] overplan because I'm never someone who looks at the menu of a restaurant and I don't think I like, for some reason that has always been like a, I've had resisted that because I think there's a lot of excitement coming to the restaurant and like seeing what's on the menu. Right. But I do know that if I'm going out to eat, I will like decide ahead of time.

Speaker 2: Am I gonna have a drink or am I gonna have one or two drinks? I will decide if I'm gonna have, like, am I gonna just get a couple sides or if I, I, I'll like think about very loosely planned, okay, what do I have happening? And before, when I first started doing it, I physically had to write it down in my diary being like, what am I thinking about the next day?

Speaker 2: Like. I'll have this and then, and then eventually it just became very natural in my head, thinking head. And then eventually, as my routines have built, I kind of naturally just gear towards certain habits, right? But I've never been someone who can eat the same foods every single day. So those like meal prep things, I've tried that and they've never worked because I really enjoy variety and excitement.

Speaker 2: And I found that like loosely. My day, I [00:11:00] have dinner plans tomorrow, so I probably have a lighter lunch. I probably can skip out on this and then I can enjoy dinner. And like, just even having that like 32nd conversation in my brain helped me with going through the day. Now, in terms of tracking and stuff, I am a very much a visual person.

Speaker 2: So I, um, when I first started to like build habits and then what's what I like about this? Planner is that planner. There's like monthly habit trackers, there's like quarterly goals, monthly goals, all this different stuff. And I would like pick a couple different things, whether it is like in, um, this month I wanna eat 15 salads, and that is average is about three a week, three, four a week.

Speaker 2: Right. And so every time I would eat salad, I literally would. I want to walk, um, 50,000 steps and then I would like have a little tracker and like physically I would do it. And that gave me so much of a domine effect because then it like gave me this domino effect to keep going. I think the way I approached and what worked for me is what could I add to my [00:12:00] day to aid in my, instead of being like.

Speaker 2: I'm not eating sweet. I'm only eating sweets times this month. That would like actually make me more anxious. But then if I talked about all the good things I'm doing, adding like salads or like, you know, four days this week I'm going to eat, I, I don't know, I didn't realize this and I've been fasting, but like, I basically eat like a brunch and then with a very late lunch, I eat about two meals a day.

Speaker 2: And that works for me, for my, my body type that works for my weight loss. Everyday I hit that goal, I would like take it off my planner and my mind, and it felt really good. And I focused so much on those inputs because then when the scale wasn't moving, I could go back and see if I was actually like, 

Speaker: yeah, and you have the data, right?

Speaker: You can see, you can give yourself credit for, well, I may not be seeing it on the scale, but like for two weeks solid, I did exactly what I said I was going to do and I'm showing up. And so if that feels good and then it can be like, oh, okay, well. What do I wanna do now? Do I wanna continue doing that for two [00:13:00] weeks, even though I didn't see the scale go down or I, or is there an opportunity for me to amp it up somehow?

Speaker: How, or you look and you're like, oh, okay, this totally makes sense because I thought I did it 90%. I actually did it 40%. Right. And we just that. Yeah. So good. So what did you find challenging along the way for you? 

Speaker 2: Um, I think one of the things that was challenging is like. I tied so much of my success to the scale and I will be like, oh my gosh.

Speaker 2: I worked, I did three days of being hundred percent strict, and the scale hasn't moved four days, a hundred percent strict. I remember very specifically in, in September, I think it was August or September, I literally told myself whether the scale is moving or not, I'm gonna just keep doing this every single day.

Speaker 2: I had to commute so consistent, like I'm talking about, like no cheating, nothing for seven days straight. For me to see the scale move. I [00:14:00] wish I could go back and say, tell myself if I had known two years ago that like, Hey, you were just strict for seven days to scale the group, because I found it very challenging where I would stick to something for three days scale.

Speaker 2: Okay, why am I even doing this? This is so hard, and I would give up very quickly. It's funny because, so now I'm like 11 pounds down and. I'm five feet tall, so 11 pounds on me is like 20 pounds on, so I'm tolerant. You can definitely tell a difference. I don't even remember all the work that I put into get here.

Speaker 2: It's really weird how our brain remembers. I don't look back and being like. Oh, in October I was like really like working harder. Like in, in August I was like so much like, it's funny because I can't remember, it just, I feel like one day I woke up and I was like, 11, count down. But like, it's funny, but you're doing the work it, it's like when is it happening?

Speaker 2: When is it happening? And then like kind of just happened. So I think that was something I struggled with is like, I felt like I was putting so much effort in and then I wasn't seeing any results. And I think with like weight loss. [00:15:00] So much of the effort that I was putting in was shifting my brain. That's why it took me a long time for it.

Speaker 2: Now I feel like I'm in a rates and repeat mode, and like the next 10 pounds will be feel a lot less. Challenging, but I think like in the beginning you are just expecting like, you know, I did all of this exercise. And then because you wait, the scale can fluctuate for so many different reasons. 

Speaker: And that kind of goes back to that piece that we were talking about earlier where it's, it takes a while for that identity to shift.

Speaker: Yeah. 'cause first you're just trying different things and you can do it, you can do the tactics, you can, you know, be strict as you described for three days, but your identity has not changed. Whatsoever. Yeah. And so then you just go back to your old ways and you kind of stay in that loop, versus if you are able to start shifting your identity, you're able to be more consistent.

Speaker: And you also mentioned looking at more of the inputs versus the scale number and shift your focus to that. [00:16:00] And then you start seeing, oh, okay, maybe I want to, this is the identity that I wanna step into. And then it just becomes easier and easier. 

Speaker 2: Yeah. Like for example, this week, today's Thursday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, like old me would be like, oh, the dinner, I have a dinner tonight.

Speaker 2: And I would be like, oh my gosh, this one dinner is gonna completely derail my progress. And like, it's not like I'm gonna have a fabulous dinner. I'm not, I know I'm not gonna over like, I would try each, I used to like put so much heavy weight on like these one to two, to three events that happen in the week.

Speaker 2: And I would think needs as what as holding you back. Really, it's like what's happening 80% of the time outside of this. So it is really like, what was I doing for the last three days? Was I exercising? Was I eating healthy and I was I having vegetables? Like all this different stuff and that matters. And now if you're going out to dinner five days a week, that's a different matter.

Speaker 2: But like if you're going on one to two times a week, it's not. Yeah. [00:17:00] And I remember you telling me like, the version of you now tomorrow needs to be different than the version you, you before. And like, that was something that really like sunk into my head. It's like, if you really wanna see change, you can't keep doing the same thing.

Speaker 2: It needs something different. And then I would ask myself almost every day, I was like, is this different than the version yesterday? Like, am I making different decisions and expecting this like different, like you can't, and I think that's like a, it's like a tough pill to swallow sometimes. You've been doing all this, then you keep getting frustrated.

Speaker 2: Yeah. 

Speaker: Yeah. I remember that exact moment too, because I remember it seemed to really resonate with you. It just landed because I, because I said from obviously from a place of love that you know, if you want a different result, you will have to change into a different person to create a different result.

Speaker: And I think you just, and then that's when you really started to see. 

Speaker 2: And it was because to me it was like I would had to like take [00:18:00] a second and like be honest with myself. It's a decision that you make and you decide you're gonna be different than your actual, 

Speaker 3: yeah. Yeah. Okay. So good. Okay. What are you most proud of 

Speaker 2: to not give up and stick with it?

Speaker 2: I had many opportunities to, um, stop working with you and like, in fact, I was laid off a year ago and like I decided to continue my sessions with you. I'm glad that I did not give up. That feels like a lot more of a sense of accomplishment to me and makes me really proud of that. 

Speaker: Is there anything that you learned about yourself that you didn't know or that maybe you forgot that you remembered?

Speaker 2: I think a lot of it when it comes to like learning about myself is being honest with myself and like it's sometimes it's, um, funny because. I think you're doing a lot of things, or you think you're like working your hardest, but you are not really being [00:19:00] honest with yourself. Yeah. I would say that is one thing, like being honest, and I would say another big thing is I have full a hundred percent autonomy and control over what I consume and how I spend my time.

Speaker 2: Nobody's like. Holding me hostage and like forcing me to eat burgers completely my free will so I can be in any situation and I get to decide how I wanna feel. And you know what's funny is like when you're trying to implement change into your life, you have to like show your brain that it's possible one time.

Speaker 2: And then when it, even when I stuck with it for seven days and like I had this like. Oh, I am capable of losing weight. I just have to do it for seven days. And I, I learned that about myself, is that, it's interesting how my body releases weight. It's like I will lose like two pounds and then I'll just stay at that weight for like two weeks, almost sometimes three weeks, and then I'll like drop another three pounds or two and a half pounds.

Speaker 2: Like it just like it's in, if it [00:20:00] comes out in chunks and like I didn't know that's how my body was with weight loss. I feel like you see people that are like. I lose pound a week and like that has not away our time. It averages out. But that's something I learned by myself. But then I also learned that it's not sustainable for me to be a hundred percent thinking about fat loss every single day.

Speaker 2: It's going to come in like waves and it's, I was easy on myself. It's like, you know what? You lost 10 and a half times and you didn't, you just stayed. And now I'm like even more motivated to like jump back in. A dial on a stove, right? You're like hot, high, medium, low. And I was like on low simmering and now I'm back on high.

Speaker 2: And I think what I have realized is because I have built so many good systems in my life, my baseline has shifted. So even though in the last few weeks I was just like more sedentary and like not as active. I didn't have to drastically change. I just had to like be more consistent and like go back which couple things.

Speaker 2: I'm like, already I'm like the machine is humming but I [00:21:00] really did learn like it is, my body does not release weight like right away. It like likes to hold onto it and then it releases chunks. Yeah. 

Speaker: Yeah. And that's good to hear because I think most people are like that. It's, we kind of have this idea that it's going to be very linear.

Speaker: Yeah, but we have to remember we're not machines and our bodies just don't operate like that. So we have to detach from that linear thinking. And remember, we're an organic, being an animal and most people it's their exactly as you described. But when what? We get discouraged 'cause we don't see that number going down.

Speaker: Yeah. So then we think nothing is happening where there's lots happening. You just don't quit before you get to see it. And for you it was like that seven days was a magic number. For some people, right. Or longer or three weeks depending. And then, yeah, we can make changes. But the important part for you is like you're, you don't say, well, three weeks, screw it and start overeating again.

Speaker: Yes, right? That has not happened and won't happen. 'cause now your [00:22:00] baseline is new, your identity is shifted and your baseline is so much better. 

Speaker 2: But part of that is really detaching yourself to that outcome. And so I told myself whether I lose weight or not lose weight, this is the person I've decided I want.

Speaker 2: I don't want to be someone who doesn't have control over her food, who allows her craving to control her, who doesn't have good eating habits. And I think the key word here is this. I decided, and the second word is like my new identity that became separate from the outcome of weight loss. I'm very proud of myself to be that because there's this level of like when you, level of accomplishment, when you like make the decisions.

Speaker 2: And it's funny because. I, I've gone like, I can think back to like specific dinners I've gone to where I didn't order any alcohol. I just ordered a salad and had some grilled chicken with it. And like, um, I walk away thinking, remembering how much fun that dinner was and then also like how proud I am that I made.

Speaker 2: So [00:23:00] I think in that open is like so dialed in and like locked in into my goal. But whether I see a result of the big scale moving or not, I don't care. I'm still gonna keep trying. Yeah. 

Speaker: Yeah. So I hope everyone, what they take away from that is how, how your goal, you said I was locked into my goal. So how your goal brought you forward into a new identity before the goal was achieved.

Speaker: You're like, okay, this is how I operate in the world. I, this is who I wanna be. I don't wanna be somebody who is at the mercy of food. I wanna be in control. I wanna be healthy. I wanna be somebody who moves my body regularly. So that goal, yeah, really I feel like it, like pulled that identity out of you.

Speaker: That's what goals are for, regardless of whether we hit the goal or not. The goal is to inspire that identity for you that you get to live into. 

Speaker 2: No, a hundred percent. And I think taking action despite seeing results comes from such a place of certainty and confidence in [00:24:00] yourself, whether you know that it's going to work out or not, but still taking action and putting in the effort is so important to getting closer because otherwise you're just gonna be stuck in the spiral of trying, but not really trying and things like that.

Speaker 2: Yeah. 

Speaker: If you look back now, how do you think you were thinking about things or maybe like, you can think of an example of where you weren't seeing the results, but you were able to take action despite not seeing the results. 

Speaker 2: You know, the scale goes up or the scale hasn't moved. And then I like, I'm still making the choice of whether I'm going out to eat, of what, what I'm gonna do.

Speaker 2: But one advice I would give myself is whatever you're doing has to be. Like it won't be enjoyable all the time, but it has to be enjoyable. So I feel like for so many years I would do workouts that I didn't like. I would eat foods that I didn't like. If you really wanna infuse change into your life, can't [00:25:00] hate it.

Speaker 2: Talk about that from a working out standpoint is like, I don't really like doing like high intensity exercise because I don't like to sweat. I don't, it's gonna, like, my hair wash takes me like an hour. It's like a whole process. So I don't like to do it. And that's why I don't really enjoy like hiking, like, not that I don't like to hike, but I like so much maintenance out.

Speaker 2: I really enjoy like incline walking on a treadmill or walking outside. Then I like, I don't, like doesn't, I don't feel like I get super dirty and I can consistently do it. I also think that like when you're really trying to start something new and like with food, there's so many health foods that people recommend that I forced myself for yours to like, and I'm just ended up with wasting the food because I didn't really like it.

Speaker 2: And I, I'm a very much like a list person and I'm very much like strategic about meals and things like that. So I lit, legitimately, made a list of foods that I like eat. And that I consider like healthy, and I want really specific, I like spinach, but I don't really like mixed three. Truly Like what? I not like hate, but like what I would, [00:26:00] what I enjoy.

Speaker 2: So the things that I enjoy. So I enjoy spinach if I'm gonna eat a salad. I really like having. Like couscous in it because it like adds a little extra sustenance or like maybe some tortellini, like considering like quote unquote bad, but even like sprinkling in half a cup of tor is not going to like make you gain weight overnight.

Speaker 2: Right. But it's gonna give you that temporary satisfaction. And like, I love tomatoes and cucumbers like, like I literally made a list of vegetables that I really enjoy eating. I don't hate brussel scrubs, but I don't, I'm not gonna look forward to eating Brussels. I put a lot of thought and effort into this and I think that like.

Speaker 2: You have to make it enjoyable for you. And I would get very strategic, right? So if there's a dinner that's coming up that I know that I'm gonna have more fun with the person there versus a meal, I will like, not really like, you know what? I'm gonna get more enjoyment from this conversation anyway. Um, or like, yeah, like I would really ask myself like, is this really going to bring me joy?

Speaker 2: Like I got really picky with rice, sweets. Like, I don't really like Hershey [00:27:00] chocolate, so why am I eating this at Boham? I was very clear and I like still steer away from. That maybe other people, like people love to put like protein powder, green yogurt and call it ice cream or something. And I'm like, I'm not doing that.

Speaker 2: Like that doesn't sound like I, if I'm not enjoying it. And, and I've heard people tell me like, try Halo top ice cream. And I'm like, I don't really want to, like if I'm going eat ice cream, I wanna eat the real deal, but I'm also gonna eat such a small portion of it because that's gonna make me feel happy and satisfied.

Speaker 2: And this is another thing I was gonna say is the doctor told me that since the best. Really advice I got was like the food that you ate growing up is what will help you feel the most nourished. So I'm Indian and I grew up eating like a very simple Indian diet and I realized when I eat home cooked Indian food, I rarely ever overeat and I feel walk away from super satisfied.

Speaker 2: And I think what you can extrapolate from that is when you eat the foods that you enjoy [00:28:00] eating. You end up actually eating less because it brings you so much nourishment and satisfaction and then you don't end up, it's really these empty foods that are like, even like a craft mac and cheese. Like I don't think that's like a, if you eat like a legit mac and cheese, a lot, much more satisfied.

Speaker 2: B choosy about. You're eat, make it enjoyable, and then like really have an abundance mindset. We're not in food scarcity. We're not in like, what are they called? Like a post apocalyptic world where like there's no food available, but it's there. It'll be there. Yeah. 

Speaker: That's so great. Yeah, I totally agree with that.

Speaker: It is, try to make it as enjoyable as possible. Find ways to make the healthiest food. Palatable for you so that you do like it. This is not about diet, food and depriving you of all pleasure from your food. I agree. I don't adhere to the food is just fuel. It is fuel, but it's also more than that. And it also [00:29:00] is pleasure.

Speaker: But as you say, if we are. We typically bypass that pleasure because we're trying to cut the fat or artificial sweeteners or something. So then we're bypassing the pleasure anyways, and then we have this guilt around it from overeating. So I say just do away with that and just, yeah, if you're gonna have ice cream, just have the real deal and then just eat a few bites and then move on.

Speaker 2: And it's there tomorrow for you. It's not going anywhere. Yeah. Yeah. And then you're good. I really think too is like finding ways to calm your nervous system down that are not related to food has been huge. And for me that has been watercoloring and like going on a walk on the treadmill as of conditioned, my brain when I'm in moments, a level of anxiety or stress, my body now naturally breath pains.

Speaker 2: Those. 

Speaker: Well that's amazing. I'm glad you mentioned that because there can be these, um, you know, I think of them as natural pleasures. Where when we amplify those in our lives, they're also de-stressing. But that's amazing that you've [00:30:00] noticed that now instead of your brain wanting food to calm, uh, dysregulated or unbalanced nervous system, you already have changed your neuropathways so that your brain wants to do something soothing and restorative.

Speaker 2: Yeah, and that didn't happen overnight. It's taken me a time to come here. I didn't just wake up one day and it, that's why it's taken me an a year and a half. But I do feel like my belief that I'm going to, because I, my goal is to lose 37 pounds and I'm down 11, but now I actually believe that it's gonna happen.

Speaker 2: In fact, I'm so happy in how I look now. I don't even care when it happens because I know it's gonna, and it's funny when I detach myself from my timeline. I see the scale moving much more consistently. I wouldn't even say, gonna say consistent. 

Speaker: Ah, yeah. Well I love that. I mean, we can close on that. 'cause I think that really wraps up the identity piece, where it's like you already know that that's who you are and that's happening for you.

Speaker: And as you say, you're not attached to the timeline. And that's how I [00:31:00] know. Oh, for it's for sure happening. Yeah, yeah. Already. Or it's like you're living it and so long as you live it, your body will catch up. Yeah, 'cause you're doing all the things that it takes. You're not gonna be overeating, you're moving your body, you're eating really healthy, you're befriending hunger.

Speaker: All of those things are so conducive to weight loss. So yeah. Now it's just a matter of days on the calendar because you already believe it and you're from that identity. 

Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it is. It's pretty incredible. And it's like such a freedom if you ask anybody that's trying to lose weight for years. It's gonna happen for them.

Speaker 2: Like that's probably their first belief. It's like, I don't even know if it's gonna happen. And I think when you begin to believe that it's gonna, that's a huge shift because then your decisions and your actions, it's like much easier to make decisions. 

Speaker: Yes, yes. And so for you looping back. There was a point where you didn't believe, but you took action anyways and then taking the action, you build evidence and now you're like in such firm belief.

Speaker: Yeah. 'cause [00:32:00] you took the time. Yeah. So good. Okay. Is there anything else that you wanted to share or anything else that you wanted somebody to know who's listening? 

Speaker 2: Nope. I will say one of the things I, when I first started working with you, I had like a. Not like a stigma, but I kind felt like laying, coming to a coach.

Speaker 2: Some people have therapists and this and that, like, and I haven't really had, I would say, worked with like a coach for weight loss. Like I've done a personal trainer before, but this is like a very different kind of coaching. And I remember you saying, you telling me like. Why not? Like if you're Madonna, you have like, have so many different types of coach.

Speaker 2: You have, you have a personal trainer, you a therapist, life coach. Like why not? I think if someone is, they're on fence, I'll say like, if you can afford it and if you have the time for it. It is so beneficial because especially like I'm someone who responds well to like a coach and has worked really well and I think investing in shifting your mind will pay dividends for decades to know.

Speaker 2: Like this is like we hire a landscaper to help our yard, or we [00:33:00] hire like movers to help us move and those are very tangible things you see in front of you. But like managing your brain is something that has so much impact on your day-to-day life and your like level of anxiety and happiness and joy.

Speaker 2: You, um, don't realize that it's also a muscle that needs, that can be helped. Yeah. 

Speaker: Yeah, I'm, I'm so glad you said that. I a hundred percent obviously agree. Um, I also spend like a significant amount of my income on my brain coaching myself and co getting coached. And also, like a lot of our time was spent not just coaching on this, but other aspects of your life.

Speaker: Yeah. Right. So I think it's important to remember that even, um, our, even though we might have a goal of, that's our main focus of food and body. Making those internal changes. It's not just in a silo. There's other areas of your life which you get to apply this kind of work 

Speaker 2: a hundred percent. When you start achieving in one area of your life, it like starts seeping into other areas too.

Speaker: Okay. Well [00:34:00] that's awesome. Thank you so much for sharing and coming on 

Speaker 2: with me. Yes. Of.