Things That Will Help
Episodes
179 episodes
Celebrating Six Years of TTWH
Buffy and TTWH producer/editor Alex meet on the 6th birthday of Things That Will Help to reflect on six years of the podcast. They talk about the creative evolution of the podcast and their own practices, pleasure as a tool of the resistance, t...
Holy Labor Will Help
Labor doesn't have to deplete or harden us. In this episode, Buffy explores the space between arriving and striving, and invites us into the magic and beauty of the process as we aim towards a specific destination - into the magic of holy labor...
Color Will Help
When something taps Buffy on the shoulder more than once, she’s learned to listen. Lately, it’s been color. In this episode, she explores color beyond aesthetic. Color is something our bodies subtly register and respond to every day, and she re...
Moving the Bench Will Help
After a difficult week, Buffy shares a story of moving a bench a few feet so it could catch the sunlight, and what this simple shift can mean in our own lives. In a time when you are likely carrying both collective grief and personal grief, how...
Mantrika Will Help
In this episode, Buffy expands on the concept of mantra (a chant, a syllable, a steadying truth) into mantrika, which translates to “little mothers," or the worlds and phrases that we birth into existence daily. What are the words we r...
Room For the Spark Will Help
Buffy had a plan for how she would give birth: what she would wear, where she would be, how it would unfold. It was a lovely plan which did not pan out at all. This is an episode about holding our plans and ideas with a loose grip so we don't m...
Choice Will Help
Buffy begins this episode with the story of Holocaust survivor Edith Eva Eger, and the choices Eger made in the face of unimaginable trauma. While trauma and circumstance may be outside of our choice, this conversation explores the agency we ha...
Divine Order Will Help
In today’s episode of Things That Will Help, Buffy tells a story shaped by chance, luck, and the quiet intelligence of the universe. She share's the story of a dear friend about the unseen forces that moved across time and space, weavi...
Data Collection Will Help
Buffy begins with a story about an ordinary moment of tuning into a true crime podcast opened up a wider inquiry: What am I consuming, and why? How does what you are taking in—media, food, relationships, stories, habits—sha...
Small Things Will Help
In this episode, Buffy invites listeners into the power of the small. Consider this: how you complete the small tasks in your life can be a mirror for how you move through the big, life-shaping moments. What happens if you approach the small th...
Holding Will Help
In this episode, Buffy explores themes of holding. What are you holding—right now, in your hands, in your heart, in your attention? She considers the ways we hold things—grief, secrets, memories, hope—and how everything we hold benefits from br...
Rosemary Will Help
In this episode, Buffy talks about the plant rosemary as a guide and teacher. Rosemary, AKA the compass weed, the old man, is the plant of remembrance. Buffy shares what she is learning about this ancient and practical plant: its effects on the...
This Goodbye Will Help
In this episode, Buffy talks about her mom’s final days in hospice care and what has unfolded since. She shares about Vivian’s last moments, and the quiet peace that accompanied the sadness. She explores what it means to live inside the loss of...
Cliffs, Community, and Courage Will Help
In this episode Buffy shares three stories of bravery and presence: her daughter braving her first cliff jump with a hundred witnesses; her son choosing courage over conformity; and her mother, in the final stages of life, reflecting on the lig...
This Beauty Will Help
In this deeply personal and tender episode, Buffy opens her heart and shares the journey of her mom Vivian’s breast cancer—from her diagnosis a decade ago, to the present moment of making the decision to call hospice. Buffy reflects on a conver...
Circle of Willis Will Help
In this episode, Buffy introduces the Circle of Willis — a vital loop of arteries that keeps blood flowing to our brains, even when part of the path is blocked. She uses this miraculous piece of human design as a powerful metaphor: when life bl...
The What Will Help
This episode is about the rules we inherit—spoken and unspoken, cultural and familial—and how to discern whether they’re truly in service to our lives. So many of our thoughts, standards, and habits are built on default settings we didn’t consc...
Hollow Bone Will Help
What is occupying your time and energy? Do these things actively contribute to your life? And if not - how do you begin to shift course when the investment runs deep?Using the lens of the sunk cost fallacy, Buffy reflects on how challeng...
Ceremony Will Help
At any given moment, we may be experiencing a major beginning or a major ending; in this episode, Buffy explores why marking these moments matter, and how to do that. She reflects on how ritual can help us digest loss, honor change, and find ou...
Specificity Will Help
In this episode, Buffy explores the quiet power of specificity, and considers how precise, thoughtful feedback can leave a lasting mark. From Mr. Rogers’ letter-writing habits to Oprah's fourth grade teacher, Buffy shares stories that illustrat...
This Invitation Will Help
Buffy opens this week’s episode by talking about the part vs. the whole; how, in times of great change, we usually don’t get to understand why something is happening to us. Meaning, and wisdom, arrive slowly and often in small moments....
Laboratory Living Will Help
In this episode, Buffy explores the difference between a goal-oriented, legacy mindset vs. navigating your life like a laboratory. What if your life isn't something to perfect, but something to experiment with? What if it's not about leaving a ...
Brody Will Help (Part Two)
In part two of this special conversation, Buffy and Tina continue their discussion on love, loss, and Brody’s lasting impact. Tina shares how writing became a lifeline throughout Brody’s illness and grief, offering a glimpse into the book that ...
Brody Will Help (Part One)
Three years ago, Buffy’s dear friend Tina Porter faced the unimaginable—losing her son, Brody, to an aggressive brain tumor. In this special episode, Buffy and Tina come together for a heartfelt closet session to reflect on love, loss, and the ...
Less Like Will Help
In this episode, Buffy explores the juxtaposition between belonging and dissonance. She talks about the way communities can lighten the load and encourage bravery and belonging - as well as the pitfalls of what happens when we only surround our...