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No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
What have you tried so far to quit porn? Accountability buddies, talk therapy, internet filters, church or religious programs, or mindfulness techniques to 'get rid of cravings'… Many of these have merit, but they're often missing key elements for long-lasting sobriety. It isn’t enough to just “stop watching porn”. Porn addiction is a symptom of deeper, underlying challenges that I address using evidence-based psychological and behavioral practices.
My mission isn't just to help people overcome porn addiction, but to give them each step to establish a recovery mindset and lifestyle. This is done using hands-on, daily exercises that retrain the brain and forge new habits that last a lifetime. Once this mindset and lifestyle are established, the desire for porn naturally fades.
To discover how to stop porn addiction, join my Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program at nomoredesire.com/program
Episodes
115 episodes
115: Emotional Intelligence and Porn Addiction Recovery — How to Master Your Emotions, Heal Conflict, and Deepen Intimacy in Marriage
Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one.In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotio...
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114: Raising Kids with Fearless Sexuality | Teaching Sexual Wholeness Without Shame in a Porn-Filled World (with Taylor Chambers)
As a parent, one of the hardest questions you’ll ever face is this: How do I teach my kids about sex in a porn-filled world—without using fear, shame, or silence?In this episode, I sit down with
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113: Men’s Guide to Stopping Porn Urges: Mindfulness, Parts Work, and RAIL
If you’ve ever felt powerless in the face of porn cravings, you’re not alone. For years, I thought my urges were proof that I was broken—that I didn’t have the self-control or strength to stay sober. The truth is, cravings are not your enemy. T...
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112: Heal Your Body, Heal Your Desire: How Foods Shape Your Recovery
When I first started my journey to overcome porn addiction, I thought it was all about willpower, accountability, and prayer. But what I didn’t realize was that what I was putting into my body was fueling my cravings, my anxiety, and even my re...
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111: Why High-Achieving Men Get Addicted to Porn | How Emotional Intensity Drives Cravings—and How to Harness Your Perfectionistic Mind for Lasting Recovery
Why is it that so many high-achieving men—men who value discipline, morality, and service—secretly struggle with porn addiction? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. How can a man who leads, provides, and sacrifices also be the same man sneak...
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110: What Your Sexual Fantasies Are Really Trying to Tell You | The Surprising Way to Heal Porn Addiction (with Drew Boa)
What if your sexual fantasies weren’t the enemy, but the key to your healing?In this powerful episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with my friend and fellow recovery leader
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109: From Stuck to Free—The 2 Recovery Mindset Elements That Most People Overlook
Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in ...
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108: Why Positive Thinking Isn’t Enough to Beat Porn Addiction—And What Works Instead
When I was stuck in porn addiction, I kept hearing the same advice: “Just be more positive. Believe in yourself. Visualize your freedom.” But here’s the problem—positive thinking alone doesn’t heal porn addiction. In fact, it of...
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107: How Negative Thinking Fuels Porn Addiction—Shame, the Brain & the Habit Loop
When I was deep in my porn addiction, I thought the biggest problem I had was desire. But over time, I discovered the real enemy was the constant storm of negative thinking in my own head—shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless inner criti...
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106: What Most Recovery Programs Miss | The Inner War That Keeps You Addicted to Porn—And How to End It
When you’re stuck in porn addiction, it often feels like there’s a war going on inside your own mind.One part of you wants to be strong, productive, loving, and aligned with your values. The other part just wants comfort, ease, and escap...
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105: The Porn Trap: Why Pain, Not Pleasure, Keeps You Addicted (with Chandler Rogers)
If you’ve ever felt like your porn addiction makes no sense—like you’re a good man, doing your best, yet you keep falling into the same cycle—this episode will hit home.In today’s conversation, I sit down with
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104: (Pt. 3) Why Sex in Marriage Triggers Porn Cravings | How to Rewire Your Brain for Healthy, Connected Sex
This is Part 3 of this series—and today, we’re getting into the best part:How to actually heal and transform sex in marriage from a painful trigger for porn cravings into a sacred, joyful connection.If y...
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103: (Pt. 2) Why Sex in Marriage Triggers Porn Cravings | Rewire Your Brain for Healthy, Connected Sex Using Principles of Neuroscience and Faith
Today we’re heading into the deep end of a conversation most men never get to have—but desperately need.Why does sex with your wife sometimes feel like a porn relapse instead of the healing, intimate connection you long for?
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102: Why Sex in Marriage Triggers Porn Cravings (Part 1) | Rewire Your Brain for Healthy, Connected Sex Using Principles of Neuroscience and Faith
Today, we’re diving into a topic that might just feel like the elephant in the room for countless men trying to stay free from porn:Why does sex in marriage sometimes trigger porn cravings… instead of satisfying them?
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101: Sexual Desire Isn’t Sin | The Conversation Christian Men Are Afraid to Have
A raw, redemptive conversation with Tina Huggins about healing religious sexual shame, restoring trust in marriage, and breaking the real roots of porn addiction. What if your deepest struggle with porn addiction isn...
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100: My Real Rock Bottom—Years After I Got Sober | And How Obsession with Perfection Nearly Ruined My Recovery
We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of recovery? What if it shows up years after s...
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99: Self-Inflicted Sexual Trauma of Porn Addiction and Masturbation | Learning to Love Yourself Again So You Can Have a Healthy Sexual Relationship with Your Wife
Do you feel sexually broken from years of porn addiction and compulsive masturbation? Like you've damaged your body, your mind, and your marriage—and there’s no way back?In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, Jake Kastleman expl...
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98: Porn and Pixels: The Hidden Link Between Video Games and Porn Addiction
Is your gaming habit quietly fueling your porn addiction? In this episode of No More Desire, Jake Kastleman explores the surprising neurological and psychological overlap between video games and porn use. Drawing fro...
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97: Why She’s Pissed Off & Turned Off—and How to Fix It | This Masculine Blueprint Is Helping Men End Porn Addiction and Save Their Marriages
If your wife seems pissed off and turned off—constantly irritated, emotionally distant, and disinterested in sex—you’re not alone. For many men, this emotional tension fuels the desire to escape into porn. But what if the real issue isn’t her m...
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96: The Subtle Lies That Keep You Relapsing | Exposing the Mental Traps and False Beliefs That Sabotage Porn Addiction Recovery
Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit?In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit por...
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95: Addiction, Identity, and the Illusion of Brokenness: Jason Shiers on Childhood Trauma, Secret Shame in Recovery, and What Real Healing Looks Like
In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers. Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ y...
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94: From Half a Husband to a Whole Marriage | How to Rebuild Trust After Porn Addiction and Betrayal
Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked th...
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93: The #1 Daily Habit That’s Helping My Clients Quit Porn
Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term?In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery: gratitude.Learn how daily grati...
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92: How One Man Stayed Sober While Alone and in Pain: What His Story Teaches Us About Porn Addiction Recovery
What happens when you're stuck at home, in pain, and totally alone? For most men recovering from porn addiction, that’s the ultimate relapse setup.But for Steve, a client in my recovery program, this moment of isolation became the most s...
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91: How to Replace Porn Addiction | Gain Motivation, Reduce Symptoms of Anxiety & Depression, Build Focus & Attention, Beat the Addictive Mindset, and Be the Husband Your Wife Needs
How can you replace porn addiction? The answer is not a mystery. Essentially, it requires you to build the skills of a porn addiction recovery mindset and lifestyle. It also requires consistency.If recovery were a car, these recovery ski...
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