And How Does That Make You Feel?
Welcome to And How Does That Make You Feel? — an AWKN podcast that ungatekeeps what really happens in therapy. No fluff. No psycho-jargon. Just straight-talking insights from inside the therapist’s chair.
Each short episode gives you real tools, real stories, and practical takeaways for the stuff you're actually dealing with — anxiety, ADHD, relationships, burnout, trauma, identity, and everything in between.
This isn’t therapy. But it might just be the next best thing.
Hosted by the team at AWKN, a premium online therapy platform.
Episodes
38 episodes
EP 37 – Can You Ever Really Trust Someone Again After They Cheat?
Rebuilding trust after betrayal is possible — but it’s not about forgetting. This episode walks you through the stages of healing, what trust looks like after infidelity, and how to tell if someone is actually safe to trust again.
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Episode 37
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5:48
EP 36 – Why Do People Cheat — Even If They Love Their Partner?
Love and betrayal can coexist — and that’s what makes cheating so painful. This episode unpacks the emotional, psychological, and relational reasons why people cheat despite feeling love, and how to understand what it really says about...
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Episode 36
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5:26
EP 35 – Why Do I Struggle to Say No — Even When I Want To?
You want to say no… but something in you freezes. This episode unpacks the fear, guilt, and nervous system wiring behind your “yes” reflex — and gives you 4 clear tools to start saying no without shame.
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Episode 35
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4:31
EP 34 – Why Do I Apologise Even When I Haven’t Done Anything Wrong?
Sorry for existing? If that sounds familiar, this one’s for you. We explore the link between chronic apologising, low self-worth, and fear of conflict — and how to unlearn this reflex and speak from a place of grounded confidence.
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Episode 34
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4:57
EP 33 – Why Do I Feel Like a Bad Person When I Set Boundaries?
Setting boundaries isn’t mean — but if you grew up around guilt or emotional enmeshment, it might feel that way. This episode explores why you associate boundaries with being “bad,” and how to rewire your nervous system to feel safe being firm....
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Episode 33
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5:15
EP 32 – Why Do I Always Put Other People’s Needs Before Mine?
Being thoughtful is one thing — but losing yourself in other people’s needs is something else. In this episode, we unpack where this pattern begins, why it’s so hard to break, and how to reclaim space for your own wants without guilt.
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Episode 32
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5:06
EP 31 – Why Do I Feel Like I Have to Explain Myself All the Time?
If you’re always over-explaining, justifying, or trying to be “understood” — this episode is for you. We explore how people-pleasing, fear of judgment, and past invalidation can create a loop of chronic self-justification, and how to break free...
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Episode 31
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5:23
EP 30 – Why Do People Ignore My Boundaries?
You speak up, set a boundary — and they cross it anyway. We explore why certain people disrespect limits, how to spot subtle boundary-pushers, and how to reinforce your boundaries without losing yourself in the process.
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Episode 30
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5:14
EP 29 – Why Do I Feel Selfish When I Say No?
Saying no shouldn't feel like a moral failure — but for many of us, it does. In this episode, we unpack why setting limits triggers guilt, how childhood experiences shape our idea of “selfishness,” and how to start saying no without shame.
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Episode 29
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6:01
EP 28 – Why Do I Feel So Behind Compared to Everyone Else?
Everyone else looks ahead — and somehow you still feel stuck. In this episode, we break down the root of timeline anxiety, how inherited scripts and social comparison hijack your sense of progress, and why going slower doesn’t mean failing. We’...
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Episode 28
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4:16
EP 27 – What Does It Actually Mean to Love Yourself?
Self-love gets thrown around as a vague buzzword — but what does it actually look like in real life? This episode makes it practical: from how you speak to yourself, to the small promises you keep, to the boundaries you hold when no one’s watch...
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Episode 27
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4:25
EP 26 – Why Can I Show Compassion to Others — But Not to Myself?
You’re the first to support others — but the last to extend the same kindness inward. This episode dives into where that double standard comes from, how internalised shame twists your self-talk, and why self-compassion is the foundation of emot...
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Episode 26
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4:23
EP 25 – Why Do I Struggle to Believe Compliments — Even When I Want To?
You want to believe the praise — but it never seems to land. In this episode, we explore how shame, identity, and early conditioning shape your ability to accept kind words, and why compliments can feel more threatening than comforting. You’ll ...
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Episode 25
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4:16
EP 24 – Why Do I Sabotage Good Things — Even When I Want Them?
When something good shows up — a healthy relationship, a new opportunity, a moment of peace — do you tense, pick it apart, or pull away? This episode explores how self-sabotage is often self-protection in disguise, rooted in nervous system memo...
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Episode 24
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4:22
EP 23 – What’s the Difference Between Confidence and Self-Worth?
Confidence is how you perform in the room — self-worth is how you feel when you leave it. This episode unpacks the key differences between outward certainty and inward value, and why one can’t replace the other. We explore how self-worth is bui...
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Episode 23
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4:39
EP 22 – Why Do I Feel Like I’m Never Enough — No Matter What I Achieve?
You’ve ticked the boxes — career, goals, milestones — but the feeling of “enough” never seems to arrive. In this episode, we explore why external success rarely soothes internal insecurity, and how the drive to achieve can become a coping strat...
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Episode 22
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4:20
EP 21 – Why Does My Family Still See Me As Who I Was — Not Who I Am?
Families often cling to outdated versions of us — because those versions made sense in their system. This episode helps you break free from old roles, show up as your current self, and stop waiting for them to catch up.
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Episode 21
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4:39
EP 20 – Why Do I Struggle to Feel Grateful for My Parents — Even Though They Did a Lot?
You can acknowledge what your parents gave you and still feel the ache of what they didn’t. This episode unpacks the tension between gratitude and grief, and why it’s okay to hold both at once.
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Episode 20
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4:56
EP 19 – Why Do I Feel Guilty When I Set Boundaries With My Family?
Setting boundaries often feels wrong before it feels right — especially in families where guilt was used as control. We explore where that guilt comes from, and how to honour your needs without collapsing.
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Episode 19
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4:20
EP 18 – Why Do I Still Feel Like a Child Around My Parents?
No matter how much you’ve grown, family can shrink you back into old roles. This episode explores emotional regression and how to stay grounded in your adult self, even when old dynamics get triggered.
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Episode 18
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5:20
EP 17 – Why Do I Still Feel Responsible for My Parents’ Emotions?
When you’ve been trained to manage other people’s moods — especially your parents’ — it’s hard to stop. This episode walks through emotional enmeshment and how to start letting go of guilt and misplaced responsibility.
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Episode 17
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4:14
EP 16 – Why Do I Feel Like I’m the Parent in My Family?
If you were always the responsible one, the listener, or the fixer — this episode explores the impact of parentification, what it costs you, and how to step back into your actual role as a grown child, not a surrogate parent.
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Episode 16
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4:09
EP 15 – How Your Childhood Shapes Your Relationships?
Your adult relationships aren’t just about your partner — they’re deeply shaped by how love, safety, and connection were modeled growing up. This episode breaks down how childhood dynamics silently repeat until you name them.
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Episode 15
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4:21