[00:00:00] Welcome back to the podcast. Today's episode is by a quote from James clear the author of the famous book, atomic habits. And the quote says you can't change the past, but you can reframe it. I find the lesson in it. Find the opportunity in it. Pull the teachable moment out of it and share it with others.
You can't choose your history, but you can choose the story. About it. And that is the inspiration for today's podcast.
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What is alchemy? Alchemy is really turning lead into gold it's in life. It's turning mistakes into wisdom, and that's what that podcast is about. I mentioned in a prior [00:01:00] episode about Human Center centers. Our centers where they're undefined or open. That's when we take an energies. , that are not ours and the different gates that are there. , that's where our lessons and our teachers are and our gifts.
Later on in life, we see them for where they are. It's where we are triggered to our buttons are pressed where we can be influenced, but we develop a lot of wisdom through our. Open in our undefined centers that we bring to our audience, our business, our clients, our creative projects, and to our content. As we move through life. , When you are later on in life, that's really, when you step into the power of who you really are. And you decide to own all of the wisdom and the mistakes and things you've been through on your journey. . Alchemy is transformation and transmutation, and that ability to transform wisdom into gold in life. Lead into gold in general, that's personal development, but it's also, , from a [00:02:00] Human Design lens through the wisdom of our undefined and open centers. That's really where we get influenced and where we continue to get influenced and triggered on a regular basis.
I recently went away to do some travel. I had to fulfill a obligation and I use that word. It's exactly what it was. It was an absolute should. It was a bonus that I had through a coaching program. That I signed up for a long time ago. Before I really understood emotional authority and the wave. I waited until the absolute last possible day to fulfill that. Which was well after the coaching program to end. And so think about the time I actually signed up for this was years ago. And then I had a medical situation.
The summer I developed hives. And they were so awesome and they let me move the date which they didn't need to do. But so the date got even more pushed as the point. This is a high five figure investment in a coaching situation. , [00:03:00] and I'm an emotional authority. Either prior to this episode or shortly thereafter, there's an episode on emotional authority because it's important authority. In Human Design, what we call internal authority to differentiate it from external authority. I'll always just call it authority for brevity.
If you were to break it down, it's where are we conditioned to buy others that influence our decisions and where do our decisions take us off the path? . It's our decisions. That drive our actions and our actions are what drive our results. And where do our decisions come from? What influences our decision.
That's what authority is about. And as a sacred being, we only have two ways. We make decisions, either sacral authority. Which is pretty linear at you get a sacral hit and you make a decision from that more to come on that, or a much more complicated way, which is emotional authority. And that's why I actually. Did a deep dive master class [00:04:00] on emotional authority.
There's a full episode on it. I'll link that below, 50% of the population has emotional authority. And so I would assume that 50% of sacred beings have emotional authority. The nutshell is that. We take a beat when we have an emotional authority, there's no truth in the now. And that episode goes into more detail.
Sacral authority, which it means you get that sacral hit and you to make that decision or your emotional authority. And I go into a deep dive. , on that in the podcast,
When we have emotional authority, in a nutshell, we take a beat. There's no truth in the now and I didn't understand that.
And sometimes when we're told to listen to our intuition, , intuition can be very powerful when you're in danger, but the splenic intuition is more like primal instinct, like you're in danger and move.
Story for another day, but , I'm still here on earth because I have a north node in. My splenic center. I have my north node and gate 57.
It's [00:05:00] the most intuitive. Gate in the body graph. I'm able to see people's path better than they can see it for themselves, because it's almost like a psychic gate. It's an ability to see in the dark. That's what gate 57 is and give 57 has saved my ass more times than I can count. It was primal instinct that saved me. It was actions. I took that. Took me out of harm's way before I would have known to have the details. One of my issues with the fact that a lot of spiritualists and intuitive guides are projectors. Is that projectors can have splenic authority. They often do. So you're being guided by someone who's like, listen to your intuition, listen to your intuition. But as a sacral being, you're not supposed to make decisions with that center.
They are. So you can see the disconnect when you're guided by someone who has a completely different body than you. It's not out of malice. It's just out of a lack of understanding. The emotional center. It's currently a motor center.
But we're not to make decisions , from it for the reasons I've [00:06:00] outlined, , it's something that's presenting as instinct, but it might be fear. And this is going to be true for you. If you especially true for, if you have an undefined splenic center, , if you have a defined, okay. So you're not open to other people's fear and influence, but you're still not meant to make decisions from that. The bottom line is, is that I, I often then thought that. I should make decisions with my intuition when I'm not in danger. And that's where I got fucked. Intuition is a part of your higher overall life plan. .
In the moment decisions. Are not meant to be made by our splenic center, our primal instinct center, unless we're in danger. , but it's a little bit complicated if you have emotional authority, which is why I did a full, deep dive on it.
Here's the point. I signed up. For a program. That was not the right fit for me. For me at that time and was not the right stage of business, I was in. I take full responsibility for that, whether or not it was a good program or not a good program, I can't say, but I wasn't the target audience for that.
And there is [00:07:00] a bonus that I did not want to lose as a result of that. even fulfilling the bonus cost me quite a bit of money. So definitely sunken cost mentality. , and the positive of that is, , I filmed some material that I might put into a course in a very high end studio. , and probably package into a digital product.
This was a a decision that set me back in considerable financially. And, I was quite negative on it for a long time. I pushed this deadline to travel, which is its own beast to fulfill this. , because I just didn't want to deal with it. I didn't have the sacral energy for that. This was right around the time I was launching the podcast. There was a whole bunch of other stuff going on. Whether or not I was influenced whether or not I thought it was intuition, but I wasn't, I don't really sure to be honest, I replayed this in my head a couple of times, and I don't really know where it came from. There's a lot of positive that came about it.. I make connections with people. There's someone that I already met online, but she happened to live in the [00:08:00] town where I traveled to.
So that was a nice connection. I reached out to a friend of mine who does. Curriculum design. And was like, panic. I need to put together as course in a week, helped me out. And she was able to do that. And now I've developed a relationship with someone I know could help me. Create all that kind of stuff. and so it worked out really well. There are also a lot of synchronicities and downloads and other ahas that I got, what I was there and this is. A place that I differentiate a little bit from Human Design.
Like I said, I'm not a pure play because. I do think there's more to the story. And I don't know if it's me trying to. , justify and feel good about the. Incredible expense and money I spent, or if there really are signs and synchronicities and people I met that are going to be another step of my journey that I haven't quite seen yet. That's what I mean about intuition and the higher self. When you think about the alchemists he's going through the desert. If there [00:09:00] was like a giant Eagle flying above him. , that being a, seeing the whole picture. , guiding him potentially in things that are gonna affect him years from now.
But in the day-to-day moment, we are not meant to do that because the sacral life force energy is. Sentient being it is just in the now what do I have energy for? And then now what do I have resources for in the now. And I did not have resources for that. Time, energy, money, et cetera.
What I do that again? No. Was there a giant potential financial loss to me? Yes. , do we always get the night golden nuggets? You have to look for them. If you are someone who's been a business owner. , you've taken coaching programs. Some have worked out. Some have not worked out either because you weren't in the right stage at that time.
Or the coach didn't know what they were doing or the program was a sham, whatever it is, a large percentage of you. If you've been in business long enough, you've done this [00:10:00] and you wouldn't do it again. And it was a lesson learned and you lived in learned. A nugget of gold in that mess. And that my friends is what alchemy is about and is what this podcast is about. We take that nugget of gold. We keep on moving, we pick up more pieces of gold and it's the goal that creates the framework of our story. That power of reframing is powerful.
It helps us shift our energy and you'd be Tony Robbins is going to say that, where your. Focus goes your energy goes. So we take our focus off of the negative. We put it on the positive, our energy shifts. And we focus on the lesson. We focus on the reflection. We focus on what we are not going to do again.. I would say it took me a good year, not to feel upset , and beating myself up about it because of the sunken cost mentality of the money I could have used elsewhere.
That's what I kept beating myself up about. It's not rational. I can't go back in a time machine and fix it, but I'm a human and we are human. You're going to second, guess your decisions in the past, because. You're allowed to process in a way that you need to process. [00:11:00] This podcast, isn't about spiritual bypassing. You have to go through your process to deal with whatever the mistakes are.
You've made. In this particular mistake. The mistake was just money. Sometimes we make mistakes that have bigger implications to our life or health or relationships or all that. It's finding that lesson. That's how I see reframing. , reframing is used a lot in personal development and neuro-linguistic programming. It's turning those past experiences into wisdom for future decisions. , something I heard in a Human Design training group before I understood emotional authority. Is that all you really need to do to , really honor your authority is to not listen to it once. And I would. Wager that most people with emotional authority. , Especially those later in life, have some catastrophic story that they have to share. Something where they made a.
Huge fuck up. Financially. Or otherwise. [00:12:00] They didn't wait. They bought that house. They buy that car. They took that job. They invested in that coach. , whatever. . I'm talking big things and I go into a deeper dive of the emotional authority episode, but. The bottom line is you're never going to do that again.
And however, painful that lesson had to be how we need to put your hand on the stove and get burned. You won't do that again. And that's the alchemy of that. I flew down to a. Southern part of the country. , part of the country I'm interested in exploring to live in. And it was really great to have my nervous system in a warmer environment and a slower pace of living. I'm channel of rhythm.
I'm an open root translation is that I do better in. On my own pace. , I I've lived in a lot of type A environments. I'm definitely looking to in the second half of my life, move away from that. So it was great to physically put my sacral in that space. There's no substitute for as a sacral being, to put yourself in the physical environment of whatever decision, you're going to make. And so it was great.
I did the studio, the people were [00:13:00] great. This is not about them. They were so accommodating. I got everything to them last minute because I frankly didn't want to do this. I didn't want to do it. And, , traveling and speaking at that level, it's hair, it's makeup, it's outfits.
It's a pain in the ass. And it all worked out. I ended up. Walking to a. Strip mall near my hotel and which was in the middle of nowhere. And there was a TJ Maxx and I was able to get some strip lashes and whatever, and put myself together at some. Some form or fashion and it's fine. When I finished the filming. Exhausted wanted to go back to my hotel room and just forget the whole thing ever happened. . The gentleman at the studio who's working there. I was, I took a Lyft back to my hotel and so I was waiting for the lift and, he was like, I'll wait for you really kind the close up the studio.
But he waited outside for me. And I just was like, Hey look, I apologize. I was disorganized, I'd gotten you all the materials last minute. They were so accommodating. Frankly, , what you see is what you [00:14:00] get with me. , I have an inability to bullshit you in, in. My face is a window. , and I basically explained the situation to him and I said, why do we have to have the $20,000 a lesson? Why can't we have the $2 a lesson. And he's like, because then you wouldn't learn the lesson. Right. All those messengers on our journey telling us what we know, but we need to hear from somebody else. And I share that with you as someone with emotional authority, who's made a giant mistake and hopefully we'll make smaller mistakes and it's reframe that into a story for you guys.
And I made some professional relationships and like I said, I don't think the story is over yet, but that could be a story that's well into the future. The bottom line is it completely drained my sacral and was a mess. My suggestion from the story is, how can you turn past experiences into wisdom? For future decisions in your own business and your own content.
And how can you share these lessons with your audience, [00:15:00] with your tribe? That's what storytelling is about. And that's, what's the only thing that's interesting about entrepreneurial stuff anymore, because . It's all the same shit. Where are the stories? And the lessons you've learned to position yourself as relatable, but also really illustrate the points. there's no better way to explain a concept through story and for me, and I'm sure for all humans, There's so much noise in the social media space right now, which I'm not even in , but , everyone's a thought leader.
Everyone thinks they're a thought leader. Everyone's been told to sell like an expert, you know, my rant on this. The bottom line is, is you stand out through storytelling, you stand up through your mistakes, you stand up through sharing your experiences.
When you're on the other side with what you feel comfortable with. , I don't think there's parts of this story that are over yet, but I can share this lesson with you. The emotional authority, buying the coaching program, doing the fuck up. I can share that with you at the very least on the other side of it. And I can say this is behind me and I will never do this again. , so my closing thoughts are reframed experiences can be powerful business stories.
They can be powerful business tools, and you can really use them to [00:16:00] hone your body's wisdom moving forward. Because when you made that decision, you made it out of not self. You made it out of either not listening to your body, your mind controlling the timeline you were influenced by somebody else.
You thought it was instinct, but it was really fear or pressure, whatever it is. That's going to be specific to your design and where you're influenced, but Human Design is a body system. Often when we find ourselves in these traps, it's because we didn't listen to our body. And the more tuned in and tapped in.
We are. Next time we're going to listen to our body. The message of the brand is alchemizing the past into gold, into wisdom, into lessons for your audience, into your tribe, into your people. I would encourage you this week. Just think about something that's happened to you recently. Maybe you're beating yourself up about it. Whatever you're upset about as you listen to this pause. Reframe. I'm sure there is something that you can turn into a positive lesson for your life and maybe even for your business. What is something that's happened to you recently that you [00:17:00] could put into a story for your content and for your newsletter or for anywhere else that you're going to share with your people and your audience? Maybe even to just make yourself sane and keep yourself moving along on the next step on your journey. I will see you on the next one.
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