Marriage and Intimacy Tips for Christian Couples: Secrets of Happily Ever After
Have you ever wondered what makes the difference between those couples who absolutely LOVE to be together and the ones who merely tolorate each other in their old age? I always want to run up to the cute old couples who still hold hands while walking down the street and ask them all their secrets to relationship success. This podcast gives me the opportunity to do just that!
I'm Monica Tanner, wife to a super hunky man, mom to 4 kids, weekly podcaster and relationship and intimacy expert/enthusiast. I help couples ditch the resentment and roommate syndrome and increase communication, connection and commitment, so they can write and live out their happily ever after love story. If that sounds like something you want, this podcast is absolutely for YOU!
Each week, I'm teasing out the principles that keep couples hopelessly devoted and intoxicatingly in love with each other for a lifetime and beyond. I'm searching high and low for the secrets of happily ever after and sharing those secrets with you right here. Sound marriage advice for Christian couples who want to live happily ever after and achieve a truly intimate friendship and passionate partnership, because an awesome marriage makes life so much sweeter. Let's get to it!
Episodes
364 episodes
How Mental Load Quietly Builds Resentment In Marriage
In today's episode, I talk about the invisible work of love and why feeling appreciated for a day can still leave you feeling alone the rest of the week. I share how mental load becomes resentment, plus a simple way to make the unseen vis...
24 Lessons From 24 Years Of Marriage
Today, I share 24 hard-earned lessons from 24 years of marriage, from building love maps to repairing after conflict. The biggest shift comes when we stop trying to be right and start choosing curiosity, clear requests, and respect for our diff...
How To Deal With Your Stuff So Your Kids Don’t Have To with Eli Harwood
In this week's episode with my friend, Eli Harwood, we talk about how our unhealed wounds show up in parenting and how healing can change what our kids inherit. We share stories, practical repair language, and why self-compassion and community ...
You Can Be Right Or You Can Hold Hands
In this week's episode, I name the messy middle of a relationship reset and explain why falling into an old fight can be evidence of growth instead of failure. I'm sharing a simple three-step framework to help us respond differently, protect co...
You Are Not Broken, You Are Stuck In A Pattern
Today, I'm responding to a listener who’s doing the work to reconnect but still feels a lingering disconnect with his partner. I show how protective patterns keep couples stuck, then share a simple three-step way to interrupt the loop and get b...
How to Reset Your Relationship In Three Steps
Spring invites us to clean out what’s stale in our marriage and start fresh without changing partners. I share a simple three-step relationship reset that replaces blame with honesty, turns complaints into clear requests, and builds momentum th...
Spark The Fling In A Faithful Marriage with Katie Runyan
In this interview with Katie Runyan of Faithful Fling, we explore how faithful love gets hotter when you add playful novelty. Katie shows how role play dates can break roommate syndrome, wake up the erotic mind, and turn ordinary nights into la...
Stop Fighting About Sex And Start Enjoying It with Jessa Zimmerman
In this interview with Jessa Zimmerman, we reframe desire discrepancy as normal, not a defect, and show how couples can move from pressure to play with clear tools, language, and empathy. She explains proactive vs reactive desire, why “no” shou...
Create Your Own Luck By Making Intimacy Lighter
In this week's episode, I'm talking about how to keep sex and connection from turning into a pressure-filled project by bringing back laughter, flirting, and lightness. I share why playfulness builds emotional safety and give three simple ways ...
Desire Differences are NOT Dealbreakers
This week I explore why desire differences are normal, how pressure shuts things down, and how pursuit and emotional safety rebuild connection. I share the Yes And method, practical scripts, and a simple weekly check-in to help couples design i...
How to Get Lucky by Creating More Emotional Safety
I'm kicking off a March series on “getting lucky” by showing why great intimacy isn’t luck at all. Real emotional safety and compassionate curiosity create the right context for desire to grow, and I'm giving you my Green Light Conversation too...
Dr. Gary Chapman On The Love Language That Matters Most
Today I welcome Dr Gary Chapman to explore why love languages still matter and how dialects and personality shape whether love actually lands. We share a simple love tank ritual, a practical daily connection plan, and ways to listen without fix...
Understanding Your Partner Doesn’t Mean Agreeing With Them
This week, I'm sharing how compassionate curiosity turns conflict into connection and why understanding your partner does not require you to agree. Practical scripts, clear definitions, and real examples show how to stay on the same team while ...
Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Have to End in Disappointment
This week, I'm talking about why February magnifies stress and how silent expectations turn Valentine’s Day into a painful guessing game. I share three steps, speak hopes out loud, name no‑gos, and define success together, plus simple date idea...
You’re Both Trying… You’re Just Missing Each Other
This week, I'm sharing why generous effort can still miss the mark and how a simple meaning check turns intention into real connection. Practical scripts, everyday examples, and a clear path to feel loved without guesswork.• early chemi...
How Healthy Couples Use Conflict to Grow with Dana Che
In this interview with Dana Che, we break the myth that happy couples don’t fight and show how conflict, handled well, can deepen intimacy. We share mindset shifts, practical language, and simple steps to move from defensiveness to understandin...
Boundaries Are What Make Intimacy Possible
Today, I'm talking about how boundaries are a loving skill that prevents resentment and creates safety, respect, and passion. Clear, simple steps show how to set limits without threats, using everyday examples and a weekly challenge to practice...
You Can’t Control Your Partner, But You’re Not Powerless
This episode speaks directly to one of the most exhausting parts of being in a relationship: realizing you can’t control your partner and wondering what that means for you.For a lot of people, that realization feels defeating. Like your ...
How Do You Want to Show Up This Year?
I'm setting a bold focus for this new season: choose who we will be in hard moments and build relationships with no regrets. I share five common end-of-life regrets, turn them into learnable skills, and give you a clear assignment to craft one ...
The Game-Changing Gift Evree Spouse Will Love with Founders Justin and Natalie
A great massage shouldn’t end with a mad dash to the shower. This week, I'm talking with Justin and Natalie Weeks, the creators of Evree, to share how a single sticky night pushed them into a six-year journey across labs, ingredients, and count...
Finding Wisdom In The Wound with Tony Miltenberger
We explore how prolonged stress can turn small cracks into deep canyons and how couples can explore those canyons together with empathy, curiosity, and clear practices. Tony shares tools for moving from emotional reactions to intentional respon...
How to Create More Intimacy Through Communication with Nick and Amy McKinlay
Today, we're talking about how Christian couples can build deeper intimacy by turning awkward silence into simple, safe conversations. Nick and Amy McKinlay of Ultimate Intimacy share research-backed prompts, healthy masculinity traits, and way...
A Simple Relational Skill That Makes Communication So Much Easier
What if a single, gentle question could turn tense moments into real connection? That’s the promise of “contracting,” a simple consent-based habit that replaces surprise talks with intentional, focused conversations. We walk through how this ti...
Shoveling Sh*t Together: How Kass and Mike Built Companies, Raised Kids, and Kept Their Marriage Intact
What if the real love story isn’t candlelight and grand gestures, but calendars, clarity, and courage under pressure? I sit down with Kass and Mike Lazerow—longtime partners in life and business—to unpack how they navigated Web 1.0 startups, gu...
Marriage is the Ultimate Team Sport: How to Create a Winning Team
What if the fastest way to a stronger marriage isn’t compromise, but better teamwork? After celebrating a number-one Amazon launch, I took a hard look at what actually helped us get there—clear roles, honest communication, and a shared commitme...
