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From Pissed Off to Poised- A Podcast for Busy Women Professionals
This podcast is designed to help overcommitted women, physicians, and
professionals move from being reactionary—often feeling anger and
resentment—to becoming more intentional and responsive. The goal is to
help you enjoy life while still getting everything that needs to be done,
done.
In this show, we’ll dive deep into how to shift from reacting to responding
when it comes to anger, while recognizing that the first step to making a change is building our awareness. I’ll also share practical tips on how to say "yes" only to what truly matters to you and create a calendaring system that works—one that honors your commitments to both yourself and others.
As a retired pediatrician, the co-founder of Virginia iSpine Physicians, and
a trauma informed certified mindset coach I have navigated multiple career transitions in life and am still evolving as I apply these concepts in other areas with grace and vulnerability. I want to share what I have learned over the years so that you can start to create more peace in your day to day life,
as you begin to shift from reaction to response.
Episodes
39 episodes
Welcome to From Pissed Off to Poised Podcast!
Hey there, friends! This is Dr. Arpita Gupta DePalma.I’m a retired pediatrician, the co-founder of Virginia iSpine Physicians, anda trauma informed certified mindset coach. Thanks for listening to my newpodcast, From Pissed Off ...
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Ep 01: Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
Welcome to the first episode of From Pissed Off to Poised! If you’re a busy woman—whether you’re juggling a career, saving lives as a physician, or managing the chaos of motherhood—this episode is designed just for you. We’...
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Ep 02: First Step in Change is Awareness
In this episode, we’re diving into anger—an emotion that’s often misunderstood but is actually a powerful tool for self-awareness. Instead of seeing anger as something to suppress or later regret, we’re exploring how to recognize it, understand...
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Ep 03: More Awareness Behind the "Why"
In the previous episode, several listeners requested that I demonstrate how to use the Uplevel Your Awareness Around Anger worksheet with an example. I thought this was a fantastic idea, so in today’s episode, I’ll do just that. I’ll show you h...
Ep 04: I'm Not Angry, You're Angry with Dr. Sonja Grigg
What happens when an overwhelmed primary care physician and busymother of two begins to realize that something in her life needs to change?For Dr. Sonja Grigg, that moment of awareness sparked a transformationfrom a life filled ...
Ep 05: Developing a Mini-Protocol - Version 1.0
We’ve all been there—losing our cool in the heat of the moment, only to regret it later. But what if you had a go-to plan in place for those fiery moments? In this episode, we're diving into the power of a mini anger protocol. Think of it as yo...
Ep 06: We've All Experienced Trauma
How do our past experiences shape our responses, especially when it comes to anger? Often, we think of trauma as something catastrophic—a “big T” trauma. But the truth is, those smaller, less obvious events, the “little t” traumas, can also pro...
Ep 07: The Stress --> Trauma Continuum
Stress can feel overwhelming, unwelcome, and even surprise us when it strikes. Yet, with a solid support system, we can turn that stress into a catalyst for growth. On the flip side, when stress drags on without enough support or time to recove...
Ep 08: Understanding Anger as an Alert System with Dr. Kemia Sarraf
In this episode, I’m honored to welcome Dr. Kemia Sarraf, whose insights have deeply shaped my understanding of the impact of trauma and its ripple effects on individuals and society. Together, we dive into the intricate relationship between ou...
Ep 09: Damn Those Underlying Uncomfortable Feelings
Have you ever noticed that when anger shows up, it's often covering up something deeper? For so many of us, anger feels familiar, maybe even easier to lean into than other uncomfortable emotions. But here's the thing: anger often isn't the root...
Ep 10: Processing Difficult Emotions with Bev Aron
In this episode, we dive into understanding our reactions to anger by exploring whether it’s truly anger we’re feeling—or if it’s something deeper that’s yet to surface. I’m excited to welcome Bev Aron, who shares her insights on how processing...
Ep 11: Going to Neutral Using Heart Mind Coherence
In this episode, I introduce the concept of "going to neutral"—a powerful practice that helps you pause when emotions flare, so you can respond with intention, not reaction. I’m sharing practical tools and insights to help you consciously creat...
Ep 12: Breaking It Down: The Advanced Anger Protocol
Back in Episode 5 of From Pissed Off to Poised, I introduced the Mini Anger Protocol—a quick tool to help you navigate those heated moments when anger ta...
Ep 13: How to do it Real Time with Dr. Shelley Fiscus
In this episode of From Pissed Off to Poised, I’m thrilled to welcome my dear friend and client, Dr. Shelley Fiscus. Together, we explore how she transformed her anger in real time during a significant life transition that wasn’t entir...
Ep 14: Building Mental Muscle Memory
As I’ve shared in previous episodes, when your threat detection system is activated, it’s natural to default to reacting in anger or frustration. But I’ve also talked about how our human brains, thanks to neuroplasticity, have the ability to ch...
Ep 15: Healing Through Self-compassion and Vulnerability
Transforming your relationship with anger starts with two powerful practices: self-compassion and vulnerability. In this episode of From Pissed Off to Poised, I dive deep into these essentials and explore how compassion and vulnerabili...
Ep 16: Building Connection with Your Life Partner
Doing the work to change your anger responses isn’t just powerful—it’s transformative. It creates a ripple effect that touches every corner of your life, including your most important relationships. For me, one of the biggest shifts happened in...
Ep 17: Rekindling Connection with Emotional Intelligence, with Dr. Michael DePalma
Last week, I shared practical strategies to deepen the connection with your life partner. We looked at how the need to be right has a cost in your relationship, and I shared the practice of changing your interactions with your partner by ...
Ep 18: Cultivating Connections: Raising Kids Who Enjoy Being with YOU
Today, we’re diving into something every parent can relate to: managing those waves of anger and frustration in our interactions with our kids. Let’s be real—those moments are hard. But when we pause to look inward, we often realize th...
Ep 19: From Chaos to Calm: Our Kids’ Take on Our Transformation
In today’s episode, I’m joined by two very special guests who are dear to my heart: my kids, Sarina and Nikhil. They’re here to share their perspective on what it was like when my husband and I were at the breaking point with our emotions—and h...
Ep 20: Elevating Relationships by Staying Calm, Composed and Connected
Encountering difficult individuals is an inevitable part of life. Whether it’s a demanding supervisor, a colleague who tests your patience, or an opinionated neighbor, these interactions can have a significant impact on your energy and emotiona...
Ep 21: Master Your Emotions with Mindfulness with Dr. Rashmi Schramm
I’m so thrilled to welcome Dr. Rashmi Schramm to the podcast today! Dr. Schramm is an incredible meditation teacher who has deeply influenced the way I understand and use meditation to navigate strong emotions like frustration and overwhelm.
Ep 22: Listening Within: Embracing Intuition and Finding Forgiveness
This episode marks a big moment—it’s our last deep dive into the topic of anger before we shift into time management and intentional living. We’ve spent this journey together exploring tools, insights, and strategies to help you move from feeli...
Ep 23: From Reacting to Reflecting: Strategies to Build Intentionality with Your Time
When I first started doing this work, one of my biggest aha moments was realizing just how much my anger was tied to the way I managed my time. Every time I felt like I was running up against the clock, irritation and resentment weren’t far beh...
Ep 24: The Power of Doing Less: The Art of Constraint and Effective Planning
In this episode, we’re breaking down some game-changing concepts for optimizing your time: constraint, planning, resistance, and letting go of perfectionism. When you start applying these, you shift from feeling overwhelmed to feeling in contro...