62: [Let's Get Deep] The Top 12 Mantras That Fill Our Cups and Improve Our Lives

This episode is all about the top 12 mantras (plus a bonus mantra, because why not?) that fill our cups and make our lives better!

We are all about self-improvement, growth, fulfillment, and leading a cup-filled life around here, so we hope these help you do so alongside us!

A few links to things we referenced in the episode:
Morgan (and Jared’s) favorite hydration packs

Other Fill Your Cups Episodes we mentioned, if you’d like to dive deeper:
53: [A Bit of Fun] 12 Lessons Learned in a Year of Podcasting
22: [Let's Get Deep] I'm OVERWHELMED!
58: [Lets Get Deep] Body Image

Other podcasts Morgan mentioned that you could check out:
Transform (also has a recent mantra episode!)
EmpowerHer Podcast (no longer running, but still able to find on Spotify & Apple and is so good for personal development, motivation, self-help, growth, etc.)
Women Inspiring Women Podcast

CHEERS!

Transcript

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Yeah, sure. Sweet. Okay. You wanna get right into it? Yeah, let's do it. Welcome Welcome to the Fill Your Cuffs podcast. We're your host, Morgan and Bailey. Hey guys, welcome to this week's episode. We have kind of a fun one coming towards you. So this week is like a Let's get deep episode, but it's still gonna be kind of uplifting and encouraging. Caleb. No, I'm just kidding. No, you know, but we are doing the top 12 mantras that. Encourage our life and that we kind of have our own repeat in the back of our heads, and so we're each gonna do six and we are really excited about that. But before we get too far into the episode, what's fill on your cup? Yeah. Today I have water, but I did add a. One of Julia's Arbon Sport hydration pack. Mm-hmm. Things. Mm-hmm. I had one earlier today too, but we, I ran a 5K with your husband. Oh, no. And his sister and, but also my friends and I ran a 5K with them and it's so hot and sunny. Yeah. That it, like, we were sweating so much and I could feel it, you know, whenever you do a bunch of cardio and you can, and you're outside and you feel the salt Yes. On your skin. Yes. I had that earlier, so I thought to myself, I should probably mm-hmm. Boost my electrolytes a little bit. So I've got one of those hydration sport things. Actually, I'll link it in the show notes, but Oh, yeah. But yeah, it's, they're really good. They're similar to Liquid IV or, or Liquid IV is what I was thinking of. But they have less sugar. Yeah. They're more focused on the electrolytes and the salt and stuff or whatever, which, you know, I love. So that's what I have. What about you? Good. I've just got some water today. I did forget my water bottle at home, so it's just a cup of water. Mm-hmm. This time. But I feel like I have had so many different drinks this morning. I had some. Taco Bell, Dr. Pepper. Oh my gosh. I had coffee, I had some orange juice and I'm drinking water and I'm like. Feels really good. Good to just drink some water. Good. I love it. Well, we have a shout out this week. We were really excited about this one. So as you guys know, we post every Friday usually on, on our Instagram at Fill Your Cups podcast. Go follow us if you don't. Mm-hmm. We post on Fridays are Fill Your Cup Friday and we. Ask our followers to tell us what's filling their cups that week. Just kind of reflect back on the week. Think about what's filling your cup before you go into the weekend.'cause obviously, well, maybe not obviously, but for me the weekends are often very cup filling. I have a lot of days. Oh yeah. Yeah. So it's nice for me on Friday before I even start the weekend and start the fun necessarily. Mm-hmm. Thinking about, okay, what did I do this last week? That was really fun. Yeah. And I really made me feel good and. Warm and fuzzy. Mm-hmm. So we posted that this last Friday and we had a response from Meadow Gates. There's actually two S's on this handle. So meadow gates, and she said, got to see my man after 11 weeks of him at basic training. Woo-hoo. Which is so fun. Oh, that's so exciting. I don't know how you guys do that. Seriously have the military wives and the military girlfriends do it. Amazing. In 11 weeks. Oh my God. Yeah, I, that would definitely be cup filling if. Yeah, I haven't partner for that long and got to see him and yeah. Yeah. That's so exciting and thank you for participating in that and letting us know what's filling your cups.'cause every time you guys respond with what's filling your cups, it fills our cups. It really does. Yeah. I love to see what you guys are doing, Uhhuh and what is making you happy and whatnot, so. Mm-hmm. Thank you for responding there. We are actually, we've been kind of standing around this number for a while, but we are actually at. 192 followers on Instagram, so not a whole lot, but we're so close to 200, so. Mm-hmm. If you have a second and could either just share one of our posts on your story or tag someone in the comments, or just go give us a follow if you don't already, because what the heck? Yeah. Why would, why would you be listening and not follow us on Instagram? Go do that because we would love to get 200. That would be so fun. Yeah. And we, yeah. That would just be, I think we can get to 200 in four days by the end of uh, July. Well, this is coming out in August. Well then we'll definitely be at 200 followers by the end of August. It's goal. Yes, yes. So yeah. So that was our shout out. Very fun. And now we can kind of go into our episode. I know. I am really excited for this episode. So you had this idea. Mm-hmm. Um, I'd love to hear where it came from, but whenever I did hear, or whenever I saw it on kind of our. Giant list of like episode ideas that we just randomly add to whenever we get an idea. Um, I was like, I actually really like that because I feel like we always talk about quotes on here, or we'll be in the middle of an episode and we like, wait, I heard this one thing, this one time on this one random site and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Yes. And. Yeah, so I love them. I feel like I actually do live my life by these quotes or like I do see ones that all of a sudden it makes something click for me and I'm like, oh yeah. Okay. Yeah. I think for me, whenever I first started to be mindset and rethinking my nutrition, Alana the founder of that program. Yeah. She has so many little phrases that she says all the time that helped me. Whenever I was just bettering my nutrition. Yeah. And so ever since then, I pick up and keep phrases in my back pocket. Mm-hmm. So that they can really, honestly keep me motivated. But now I also feel like I use them to just help comfort me if it's something that I, I don't know when, just when I think about the life I wanna live mm-hmm. I like to have little phrases that help me, help guide me to that direction. Yeah. And kind of help. Just kind of help focus me, I think. Yeah, because I think sometimes we just get so much coming in at us at all times. And people telling us all sorts of things. Mm-hmm. And sometimes having these little phrases or quotes or mantras, mantras is really what I've been thinking of them as. Yeah. It helps ground me. Yeah. So I, yeah, I thought of this episode idea a while back. Mm-hmm. When I was just, I think it was actually, maybe it might have been after our lessons that we learned from Oh yeah. A year of podcasting. And I was thinking. When podcasters, when I'm listening to like a self-development podcaster mm-hmm. When they list things out like that or they say Five best tips for starting a podcast or something like that. Yeah. Or they say, my 10 best tips for Getting In the best shape of your life. Yeah. Or something like that. I feel like that's something that really grabs my attention and it's something that is. Bite size and digestible. I feel like Uhhuh because, and it's more memorable. I am. I'm a list person. Yes. So it helps me to be able to be like, oh yeah, tip number one, tip number two, tip number three. Yeah. That sort of thing. So that was what made me think of it. And then just recently I had some girlfriends in town and one of my girlfriends was telling me, oh yeah, this podcast that I listened to, it's a really good self-development kind of. Mindset kind of podcast. They just did this episode about mantras to live by, and I was wondering, you're like, what? And I was like, are you kidding me? I have this on a shared note with Bailey. Yeah. As something that we wanna do. And so it just brought it back to the forefront of my mind. So yeah, that was kind of how I thought of it. And then I just, honestly, I feel like mindset is everything. I feel like our outlook and our perspective matters so much in getting us where we wanna go. So yeah, it's just good to have these. In our disposal of, yeah. Something that we can look to and something that can guide us and focus us. I completely agree. I also like that both of our mantras, I feel like serves such a different purpose. Like I know yours have a very different feeling than mine do, and I just think that that shows you like. Where we both are at, you know, different stages of our life and things like that. And I, and what we need and Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So, I dunno, I'm excited. Do you wanna start us off? Yeah. So I've said this one on the podcast for sure. Oh, mine are repeats crazy, but Yeah, yeah, yeah. But just so our listeners know, probably the style of this episode, we will go back and forth of our mantras, but we'll break down a little bit. Some of them are very self-explanatory, but we'll break down a little bit like where they help us most in our lives. Mm-hmm. And. Yeah, I, I guess that's the breakdown of the episode. So yeah, first one for me is little by little. Little becomes a lot, and I love this one because I first heard it, I think from. My coaches coach Darla, whenever we were, I was doing beach body coaching. Mm-hmm. And or body coaching is what it's called now. And I, I think she posted it on a story or something at some point. And I love it because it's true of good and bad things. Yeah. So little by little, a little becomes a lot. Oh, that's, so the reason it's motivating is because, for instance, now. Go back to our most recent, or our most recent episode about body image and realize, I'm not saying that this is the most important thing. Mm-hmm. But for instance, like with weight loss, which was something that I was interested in at the time. Mm-hmm. It gets really demotivating when you don't lose like five pounds and five days or so something. Right. Of course. But if you're like point too. Yeah. But if you lose 0.8 pounds in five days or something mm-hmm. And you think, well, little by little, a little becomes a lot. Point eight. If you do that every week for Yeah. 10 weeks or whatever, that's gonna really add up. Yeah. And so little by little, a little becomes a lot at the same time, it goes the opposite way too. Mm-hmm. The scale is just a very tangible version. That's why I'm using that as an example. But of course, if you go up 0.8 pounds for 10 weeks at a time mm-hmm. It's gonna, it's gonna really add up the opposite direction. Mm-hmm. Now. I feel like this is applicable. I use this in my workplace. Yeah. I use this, I use this in my relationship. Yeah. I feel like this is something where I think, I think about it in honestly every sphere of my life. I think about it with the podcast. Mm-hmm. Just now we were talking about we have 192 followers. You know, one more follower. Mm-hmm. Is not that much. One little by little, one more follower every day for, you know. Yeah. Little by little, a little becomes a lot. So, and it can also obviously take you back. So I think about that too. Whenever I get, I used to be really bad about the all or nothing mindset. Yes. And how it's hard not to go. There it is. But then when I have this in the back of my head where I'm. You know, today, maybe I indulge in a pie, a slice of pizza or something. Mm-hmm. That's, that's something little. Mm-hmm. But if I keep doing that little thing over and over and over, if I have 10 slices of pizza, that becomes a lot. Yeah. You know, but if I have a slice of pizza and then I have some salad or whatever and or just something nicer for my stomach than. That little by little doesn't add up. Mm-hmm. As much. Mm-hmm. Because I'm not doing it over and over. So yeah. It really goes with our habits that it does, that you are, your life is a reflection of your habits and the fact that every, everything you do repeatedly mm-hmm. Is going to shape your life. So, but I just think it's a cute little No, I like that one a lot. I do think it's a really encouraging one whenever you feel like. You don't know where to start or like, how can this all change? How can I do it? And it's like a little by little, like that's all you need. You just need the small steps. It's just gotta be small. And if you do it enough, it'll become big. Yeah. It's kind of the whole consistency. Beats motivation kind of thing, like it's just you just have to do the small things over and over and over again. Yeah, absolutely. My first one is you don't know what you don't know. I say that all the time, and I truly believe it with every fiber of my body that. You cannot be mad at yourself for the things that you don't know and like, even for the things that you don't know that you should know kind of thing. Mm-hmm. And I think that this is really applicable in your work life, for example, um, in your relationships like we talked about. And just like in your day to day, the things that you don't know. So something that I really think about a lot is. Kind of taking people at their word. So if they're telling you one thing to your face, instead of me sitting there and overthinking everything that they're saying, and then like, what did they mean by that? Yeah, what did they mean by that? I'm like, well, I'm gonna trust'em for what they said because I don't know what I don't know. Like if they did not tell me this, then I have no reason to think that way. So like that's an example, and I think about this all the time. I think it really helps me. With my self-doubt because I think that that's something I struggle with a lot. And I think that it helps me with like kind of a regret kind situation where I can't be mad at myself or I can't be mad at previous versions of myself for not knowing what I do now. Yeah, because how was she supposed to know? And I think that that, I think it helps me a lot and it really just. I don't know. And instills like self-assurance, I think. I think it takes the pressure off of it. Does feeling like you need to make the right decision every time because Yes. Because sometimes, yeah, you just don't have the context. You don't have the background knowledge. Yeah. You don't have the, and you can make a better decision or choice next time, maybe now that you do know. Mm-hmm. But you can't be mad at yourself for making a choice based off something you didn't, you weren't Yeah. Educated on or aware of. Yeah. Or even just. Didn't know how it would pan out Exactly. I also think that it can help in your relationship with other people. Whenever you wonder to yourself, how could they not know? Like that's true. Like, oh, I'm so mad at this person because they didn't like how, how can they not read my mind? I feel like it gives me a lot of patience of, well, how could they have known? Yeah. Like no one told them. I didn't tell them. There was never, it was never communicated like, so I think that like with my own self, self-assurance and. All that also helps me with other people being like, well, they didn't know either. Yeah, like, and then I help. I think that it gives me a lot of patience for people. Yeah. No, I like that one a lot. My next one is one I heard on the Empower Her podcast, which actually she just discontinued, but it was one of my favorite podcasts. She did it for like six years. Mm-hmm. But she has a lot of little phrases like this too, but she always said, we have a TB day, or we have a TBD amount of days here and we don't know the count. Mm. And that one oh. Started to stick with me so much. Especially after losing John. Yeah. Uh, after losing our brother at a pretty, like, unexpected young age. Mm-hmm. And I, it's something I bring in. To every day probably with me. Yeah. Where I think about the fact that I could not wake up tomorrow. Mm-hmm. And so it really just makes me think more about the decisions that I make, the nos that I say no to the yeses I say yes to. Mm-hmm. And just thinking like, how do I wanna live this day fully? Because I don't know it. Part of, I feel like living a cup filled life is just make feeling like you are. Filling your day, like you're not just letting the days run by you. Yeah. But just you're filling your days the way that you would want to. Yeah. If you were. Not gonna be here that much longer, I guess. Absolutely. Out of all of your quotes, when I read that one, I was like, I felt like that was definitely the most true of you embody that every day and that you think about it when you do make your decisions. I think so. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. No, I really like that one. Uh, my next one also goes with the patience for other peoples. So apparently that's something I really need, but it is. I say this one all the time, it might not make sense to you, but it makes sense to them. Mm-hmm. That one really helps me when I am just so annoyed with somebody or I'm like, why would they do that? Yeah. Or why would they say that? And I think it really helps me just kinda like stay grounded and just, again, the patience with people, but also just like, like we have, we've had a victim mindset. Episode before. Yes. Like it helps me not feel like such personal attacks all the time. Mm-hmm. When I'm like, okay, hold on. I don't know why they're doing it this way, because I wouldn't do it this way. So lemme try to figure out why they are. Yeah. Or something like that. And, and even like in my relationship with Mason, for example, like he might take a, a different route than I would somewhere. Yeah. And in the back of my head still, I'm like, what the heck? Like. Why are we doing this? And then when I ask him, it turns out it's because we're gonna drop something off at the library, or it turns out because he knows that there's construction on this route. And I'm like, oh wow. I wouldn't have known any of that, but instead I could have just been really like ticked off. Yeah. And really like, what are we doing? And so I think it just helps the patients and the understanding and I, I think that it is a good way to remind myself to understand. People around me. Yeah. And like that, that's important. It's honestly kind of a good mind game to. Before asking someone like, what are you doing? Yeah. To just kind of observe and think, okay, let me make, let me try to make sense of this. Yeah. Lemme figure out this puzzle. Yeah. Which I actually noticed that I do way more than Jared, because Jared will immediately, if I'm doing something out of the norm, he'll immediately be like, what are you doing? Mm-hmm. And if he's doing something outta the norm, I watch him for a while and I'm like. Oh, I, yes, I bet that he wanted to do this before this because of this, blah, blah, blah. Yeah. And I like I go through that thought loop in my brain. Yeah. Probably more than I need to, but I could just, I mean, I think that it helps. I really do. I think that it helps minimize fights. It helps minimize your own self-doubt. It helps minimize irritation, like, yeah. And those are all things that I. Never what to feel. Yeah. So I think it's a great way and it's definitely something I think about all the time. Yeah. All the time. That, that one sticks with me a lot too. I heard it forever ago. Yeah. You're the one who told it to me. Yeah. Yeah. Years ago. No, it, it really embedded itself in my life. I think, like, I think, I don't, I don't even have to think about it specifically anymore. I just am like, whatever they're doing makes sense to them. Mm-hmm. Nobody's going through life and being like. You know what I should do? I should do something really that doesn't make any sense. Yeah. Or no one's going through. I have to going, I should really piss Bailey off today. Yeah. Like no one's thinking that. And if they are, that's a problem, but. Like, I don't know. I think it's a funny thing to think about. I agree. My next one is pretty motivational. Again, love, I feel like mine are like very motivational uhhuh, but one that I really, really like is experts are just beginners who have put in more reps. Mm. I, this is one that I heard a lot with workouts and whatnot too, obviously'cause the putting in reps. Mm-hmm. But this is true of anything. Yeah. And for instance, like you're pregnant right now. Mm-hmm. And. Women who are maybe really good at being pregnant or really great moms or something like that. Mm-hmm. They just have had more practice, right? Yes. Yes. They've just had more opportunity to do the thing that you have not done yet. Yeah. And so this is one thing that really encourages me when I'm starting something new. Mm-hmm. Because being a beginner always feels awful. Mm-hmm. It feels like I suck at this. I. I think a lot about when I started my current job, how at the beginning, I didn't necessarily feel like I sucked at it, but it was just so jarring because it was new. Yeah. That you have to kind of get past those first few reps. Really. Yeah. Or those first few. Time to being a beginner in order to get to the stage where now you're starting to make progress. It's like your first quote a little by little, a little becomes a lot, honestly. It's like, yeah. The more reps you do, the more experience you have, the more time under your belt, and yeah, the more knowledge you have. Yeah, and I think I used to think it a lot with coaching specifically. Mm-hmm. I would look at other women who were. If anybody on here is listening and has like a side hustle or something like that. Mm-hmm. It's just encouraging because when you are building a business or you are trying to. Expand your clientele or something like that. Then you look at the people who are already far ahead and you compare yourself to them. Mm-hmm. This is another good one that I didn't fit, that I didn't put in here, but not comparing your chapter one to someone's Chapter 50. Oh yeah. That it's like you look at someone who is an expert, who already has a solid foundation, all that stuff, and you're just starting and you're thinking, I'm never gonna get there. Yeah. That literally they're the same. They're the same person that you are. Mm-hmm. They just have more practice. Yeah. So I don't know. That's one that's really motivation, motivat motivating to me when I'm starting something new, like podcasting, for instance, when we started the podcast, there were a lot of people that were way further ahead than us, but that's just. They had more practice. You know, Uhhuh, you have to do episode one before you can do episode 60. Absolutely. At 62. Woohoo. Oh, how crazy. I like that one a lot. I think it's a good reminder. For self-doubt and things like that. Mm-hmm. I don't know if maybe self-doubt is something I really struggle with because all these ones that I'm hearing about like little by little or like you can't be mad at what you don't know and like these things, I'm like, ah, yes, good reminder that like it's not always on you. Yeah. Like it doesn't mean you're failure, it doesn't mean that you are bad at this. Like it just means you don't have that experience. Yeah. I actually, with being pregnant, I love. Talking to the people who have been moms. Um, I actually, I don't know if she'll be listening to this, but our friend Courtney, I feel like I text her every other day'cause she's like a new mom of two and I'm like, okay. You're an expert. Now what do I need to know? Or like there will be things that she's like, I mean, I still don't know. And I'm like, really? Yeah. And she's like, no, I am trying to figure it out still. And I'm like, oh, okay. Like it makes me feel a lot better. Or like our friend Shalyn is also pregnant with me, and I'll ask her things like, do you know what you're gonna do for this? She's like, no. I'm like, oh, okay, good. Like it's not just me. So, no, I really like that one. Um, my next one, this was, this is a really helpful one that I come back to when I feel really overwhelmed, is I can't cry about having a lot on my plate when my goal was to eat. Mm. I love this quote. I think it's a very good quote for when you have really high dreams and you want a lot of success says, and then you are taking steps to get there and it can feel overwhelming and it can feel scary, but I think that this is such a good reminder of. Almost like a, like you can't pity yourself. Kind of reminder. Yeah. Which I get into that mindset a lot when I'm like, I just don't wanna do it. Or like, I'm too tired or, yeah. Like there's just too much going on and it's like, okay, well you wanted this, you did want this. You set up the steps to get it, and now. You're doing it, they'll have to just keep doing it. Yeah. That's so true. Mm-hmm. I that, I think you did mention this quote whenever we did episode 22, which was our, I'm overwhelmed episode. Ah, probably, I probably found this around that time because I was overwhelmed. Yeah. But some, yeah, it's almost like, yes, overwhelm is stressful. Mm-hmm. But you. It's, it's what you wanted. Yeah. Yeah. It's what you wanted. So, and that can be applicable to so many things. If your goal, like one of mine has been to pay off debt, yeah. You might be working a little bit more. You might have a little bit less free time, but that was your goal. If your goal was to be a stay at home mom, so you're, you didn't have to pay for the childcare and you're just feeling so overwhelmed because there's so much going on at home, that was your goal. Or like, if you are. There's another one that I, oh, like with our podcast? Mm-hmm. Like we, there's some weeks where I'm like, oh my gosh, I have so much to do. I have to make the post, I have to edit it. I have to meet with Morgan. We're doing a double book club episode this week. Like, things like that. And I'm like, but this is what I wanted. Yeah. So I think it's a, sometimes it's a reminder of. No one's forcing you to do this. Yeah. You wanted this. And I think that's a good reminder to not stop and not give up. I think it's really grounding. Yeah. And yeah, and it, it almost makes you ask, would, would, I rather, I, I don't know. I, I don't know what the plate analogy, but it just, it almost makes you ask. Would, would I rather not be doing this mm-hmm. At all or be doing this and be kind of stressed. Yeah. And that's a, that's a good place to be because there is a good chance that you might say. Actually, it might be time to close the doors almost. Yeah. Like my eyes are bigger than my stomach. Yes. Okay. Yeah, I was like trying to figure out a plate analogy. I was like, maybe I don't want Thai food. Maybe I want, maybe I want pasta uhhuh. So like maybe you have to pivot or whatever. Yeah. But it's good to be like, no, I wanted Thai food, Uhhuh, I just, I just, mm-hmm. The line is kind of long or something. Yeah. I dunno. But, um, these are just more mantra. Yeah. Yeah. Uh, I, I, I like that one a lot. It's very grounding. Definitely one that I have that helps me with other people is, and I think someone in our book club said this or something. I think that people talk about it with therapy or trauma or mental illness a lot. Mm-hmm. But the phrase, it explains it, but it doesn't excuse it. Ooh. Yeah. I love this one because I think someone said in our book club, one time we were reading a book. And they were like, yeah, but the character, you know, they did something bad, but the, I can't remember what the thing was, but yeah. He treated, he treated her bad or something like that. But you know, he, it was because he had all this trauma with his mom, blah, blah, blah. And someone in our book club that,'cause we have so many mental health Yeah. Related experts. Someone said, well, yeah, it's, that's why we say it's an explanation, not an excuse. Mm-hmm. Because. I think it really helps me to empathize with someone and be like, I can make up the reason for why they might have done that. Yeah. Like it made sense to them, you know? And maybe it made sense to them because of this awful thing that happened in their past or something like that. Or maybe it made sense to them because they just don't have the tools in their toolbox to figure it out. You know, something like that. Yeah. But it also doesn't mean that I have to excuse their behavior. Mm-hmm. They can still have. Behaved in a way that was hurtful or was harmful. Mm-hmm. Or was inappropriate or unprofessional or whatever. Scenario. Yeah. And I can still find a reason. The reason I say this is because I feel like I give people the benefit of the doubt a lot. Yeah. But then later I think about it and I'm like, is it stupid of me to feel mad about that or feel offended about that, or feel upset about that? And a lot of the times it's not. No. It's just that I, I can figure out the reason. Why they did it or why it made sense to them. Mm-hmm. But honestly, it's comforting to me to know that doesn't excuse them behaving poorly. Yeah. It just explains them behaving poorly. Mm-hmm. And two things can be true, you know? Yeah. That they can have a reason for behaving poorly and I can be upset that they did. Yeah. I think it's a really good one. I think that it helps draw boundaries. Yeah. Within yourself. I also think it helps. Like stop chasing the closure. Yes. Or chasing the explanation.'cause sometimes like they might have an explanation, but it still isn't excusable. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I like that one. Um, my next one, and you guys hear me say a lot that. I am not everyone's favorite cup of tea. And that's okay. Like that's something I've really grown to be okay with. But a quote that I really like is, I am too full of life to be half loved. I love that. I really like that one.'cause I feel like for a long time I really made myself quieter around people, or I tried not to be too much, or right after hanging out with someone I'd be like, I was way too much. Mm-hmm. And. And I do think that the quote of I'm too full of life to be half loved is so true in my case. Like I am happy. Mm-hmm. I do wanna talk to people. I do wanna like hear all about them. I do wanna tell them all about me. Mm-hmm. Like, and I think that that's something that I struggled with for a long time of just feeling I don't know, like that about it. Yeah. And, and then somewhere along my journey of self-acceptance and self love, I realized like. Being half loved is not okay. And I can't surround myself with people that make me feel half loved. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. No, I think that's such a good reminder and it, and it goes really well with what I was saying, with how you were saying boundaries. It helps set boundaries. Yeah. I feel like that's a really good one to just know in the back of your brain that this is how I wanna be treated. Mm-hmm. And that's, and it's okay. Mm-hmm.'cause I,'cause yeah, I'm a full human. I'm a full, yeah. Living person, so. Mm-hmm. I like that. I have my next one is I want to change more than I wanna stay the same. Oh, that's a good one. I know I initially heard this one off, the Women Inspiring Women Podcast with Melanie Mitro, and honestly, a lot of quotes that I have in my back pocket are from the time when I was coach doing coaching because one of the forefront things they recommended was doing. 30 to 60 minutes a day of personal development. Mm-hmm. Either reading a personal development book or listening to a personal development podcast or something like that. Mm-hmm. And she said that this was one of the things that motivated her to start her morning routine was she would. Her alarm would go off and the first thing she would say to herself is, well, after being like, oh, I don't wanna get up, would be, I wanna change more than I wanna stay the same. Mm-hmm. And that helped her actually get out of bed and do what she wanted to do. Mm-hmm. And I think about this a lot because I don't wanna be the same person my whole life. And already I feel like I've been so many people in my whole life. Yeah. And I don't, yeah. I want to constantly be evolving and growing and changing and so when something is hard or when I'm starting a new routine. Kind of like the expert thing, but when I'm starting a new routine or starting something that is out of my comfort zone, I have to think this is a good focusing. Guide for me. Yeah. Of just, I wanna change more than I wanna stay the same. Mm-hmm. That one is actually a quote that we have in our house with me and Mason, because Mason loves that quote. I love that. He actually, I think he has told you that he heard it. You say it on a podcast episode before. He did tell me that at volleyball one time. Yeah, yeah. That he heard you say it. And so now it's something that like, he lives by And we have it, we have, it's gonna be too hard to explain, but like this little fly show thing in our house kind of uhhuh. Um, and it's. That quote was on there. So I see it like every day. I love that. And it's a good quote. It's a good reminder to get up and keep going and life goes on and like you just have to keep moving forward. Yeah. And even if your goal is not, I wanna start a business, or I wanna start a workout routine or something like that. Even if your goal is just, I wanna, I wanna start paying attention to speaking less and listening more, or something like that. Yeah. If that's your goal and you are constantly reminding yourself, I wanna change more than I wanna stay the same, that'll help you shut your mouth Yeah. And listen more, you know? Mm-hmm. I, I just think it can apply to any goal, so I love that. It, it literally can, everybody likes it. He loves it. I have this one. It is not something that. Well, actually I, all of my quotes have to do with self doubt and like self-assurance. Okay, so, woo hoo. But I saw this one with Pinterest and it's kind of a longer one, but it says, strange, isn't it? That you know yourself better than anyone else, yet you crumble out the words of someone who hasn't lived a second in your life. Focus on your own voice for that is the only one that matters. Aw, really like that one. I think that just self-doubt is something I've been really working on and knowing who I am as a person and not letting outside. Voices and outside opinions like determine my worth. Mm-hmm. And so when I read that one for the first time, I was like, I love that because it's weird, like, yeah, why are we letting these people that don't know us and don't know our intentions and don't know who we are and like don't know your hearts? Why are we letting them dictate. How we feel a percent and dictate like who we think we are when that's like, when we know ourselves better than anybody. Yeah, I love that one Also, I think sometimes it helps with if you are trying to do something different and maybe it doesn't align with what someone else is doing. Mm-hmm. It's the Empower Her podcast that I talked about earlier. Something she would say a lot was, don't let someone who's never done what you want to do. Impact how you feel about what you're doing. So it's like if you, if you wanna become a mom, but you're listening, like I'm saying things to you about why you shouldn't. Yeah. Like, why would you listen to me? Right. That's what, or I'm telling you all the reasons that you should be a mom and you're like, I don't want that. Yeah. It doesn't make any sense. Yes. Yeah. Or, yeah. There's just so many examples of where it's like that person has never even done what you wanna do. They haven't been in your shoes. Mm-hmm. They haven't. Try what? You wanna try like it, why are you letting them speak on it anyway? Mm-hmm. Yeah. So, yeah, I don't know. It's just interesting. I, I saw a quote recently, it was kind of similar to that ish, but it was like, an athlete is never going to judge you for the workout you did. Or A millionaire is never gonna judge you for starting a business. Yeah. Or blah, blah, blah. And it was like, all of the people that have never done these things are the ones that are gonna hate, you know? Yeah. And it's like. Why? Yeah. And why are we listening to that? Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Why are you letting that influence your life? Yeah. Mm-hmm. That's cute. That sounds very pinteresting. I love it. My last official one is if you never ask the answer's always no. Which, oh, we live by that one. I live by this. In everything I do. Yes, me too. Especially at like at work for instance, I, my main job is to get people to host blood drives. Mm-hmm. And I will ask and ask and ask and ask. And to be honest, sometimes just knowing that they're not even necessarily saying no because they don't want to, they might be saying no,'cause it's a bad time. They might be not responding'cause they're busy. They may have, there's just. There's so many reasons that someone could say no, but don't say no for them. Yeah, don't just not ask because what are like, the thing is, if you don't ask, then you're in the same spot that if you would've asked and they said no. Yeah. But if you do ask mm-hmm. There's 50 50 chance they say yes, Uhhuh. So I don't know. I think about that and work a lot. I used to think about it a lot with. When I was selling body workouts and Yeah, whatnot, that I was like, look, I shouldn't remove the option from someone else. Mm-hmm. They are an adult. Mm-hmm. They can absolutely say no to me. Mm-hmm. But if I never ask, the answer's always gonna be no. And what's the worst that happens? They say no, and then I'm still in the same spot. Yeah. Like I already assumed that they would or Yeah. Or they could say yes and then they could start loving it and start a workout routine. Like I could, like I did. Mm-hmm. And feel way better in their skin and then I'm rid them of that opportunity. Yeah. Like that's not fair. Yeah. So I don't know, and I think about this a lot in cases where something happens, like you're at the airport and like your flight, something got changed or whatever, and you just don't wanna ask. Or you're at a restaurant mm-hmm. And they bring you a drink and you don't like it, and you don't wanna ask to get a new drink. Yeah. It's like it, they have every opportunity to say no to you. Yeah. Just they're humans, they're adults. They can say no, but you might as well ask. Mm-hmm. I was gonna say, I live by this one so much too, but I, I really like day to day at something, even as small as like asking for a new drink or something like. This happens with me and Mason all the time.'cause in his head he's like, everyone's gonna say no. And in my head I'm like, why would they say no? So let's say like there's, there's three people and there's only a table with two chairs. I see another chair. I'm gonna go ask'em if I can borrow their chairs right. Most times they're like, oh yeah, we're not using it all. Sometimes like, oh, I'm really sorry, my friend's in the bathroom. And I'm like, oh my God, that's totally fine. I'll go watch this other table. Right. Like, and it's really funny, small things like that where like, what, who is it hurting to ask? Yes. Like we, and we never know the answer of you. Don't ask. Yeah. And to be honest, this is not my, I haven't always been, that hasn't always been instinctual to me. Mm-hmm. I feel like I was a little bit more like Mason for a long time. And then you and one of my really good friends are both more. Just, uh, you just assume things are gonna go well. Yeah. You know, like you assume people are gonna say Yes, Uhhuh. And so after I realized that there was one time I had kind of an epiphany where I realized that and I was like, yeah, you should just always ask. Mm-hmm. Like, why not? Mm-hmm. Who's it gonna hurt? Nobody. Yeah. Even if they say no. Yeah. It's not gonna hurt me. It's so funny that you say that you haven't always had that because I always feel like if I'm not gonna ask somebody,'cause I'm scared, you'll always do it for me. That's true. That's true. That should just be the big sister part though. I think it's the big sister because I would do that for Chloe or like for other people. Like I, I'm not, I'm not as likely to do it for myself, but I will for other people. But yeah, but now I'm like, no, why not do it for myself. Uhhuh, I remember I was on my sister-in-law's bachelorette trip and we went somewhere and one of my other sister-in-laws. Is, uh, I think she was like a veg, I don't know if she's vegetarian or vegan or what, but her meal was supposed to come with bacon and she was like. She's like, do you think that they would sub it out for something else? And I was like, yeah, I definitely think so. And she was like, I'm just scared to ask. And I was like, I'll do it. She's like, really? And I'm like, yeah, yeah. And so, no, I just, yeah.'cause what the words they're gonna say, say is no. Yeah. If they say, I can sub that, you get something else. Yeah. Say bummer. Okay. I kind of figured, but blah. And you just keep going. Yeah. Yeah. I like it. My last one, and it's kind of an honorable mention, but. I love this one. It says To not dance when you have the health and could hear the music could be one of the biggest regrets of your life. Aw, I love that quote. Obviously we both love actually dancing. Yes. So you have that. But it kind of, it just reminds me of the other things like take joy in things. Yeah. And love yourself and ask the questions and like. Why are we not, if we are looking back in 70 years saying, man, why didn't I do that? Yeah. My knees suck and I can't hear the music anymore. Yeah. I can't dance. Like that's, yeah. Why do it while you can? Mm-hmm. Exactly. So I really like that one. I think it's really metaphorical, but could also be taken literally no, because I'll always dance when the music's on and I'm like, why aren't you dancing? I love, I love that one too. I had an honorable mention as well. It's the famous Maya Angelou quote and. I've been thinking about it a lot lately, just with friend groups changing and whatnot. Mm-hmm. And just. Um, I don't know. Just when I think about legacy, you leave on the world or that sort of thing. Honestly, I think about death so much. But like when you, but just about what will people think of me when I'm gone kind of thing. Mm-hmm. And it's the one that says, I've learned that people will forget what you said. People will for, will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. And I just want people, I think about this a lot, how, you know, how we talk about reflecting on as soon as you leave hanging out with someone. Mm-hmm. Do you feel like, man, I'm spent, that person kind of sucked the energy outta me, or do you feel like, wow, I'm so, I feel so myself. I don't regret anything I said or did you know what I mean? Yes. Just that that person made you feel so at home? Mm-hmm. There's just. It's one of those things where I'm like, I want, when people leave hanging out with me, I really hope they get in their cars and go, God, I just love Morgan. Yeah. Or, or think, wow, I, I really enjoy spending time with her, or she made me feel really good about myself. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Or, wow, she made me feel really understood or seen or heard or whatever. I just, I think about that a lot with the impact that I wanna make on people. Yeah. And it's obviously, we all mess up and we can't do that all the time. Mm-hmm. But. I always hope that I'm not making someone feel diminished or less than. Yeah. Or you know, something like that. Yeah, so I've just been thinking a lot about that quote and just how I want people to feel when they leave me and yeah, so, and I think it's a really good reminder that kindness goes a long way and yeah, I think it's a good reminder of how you treat people. Yeah, definitely. Mm-hmm. So. Yeah. Those, those are all of our mantras. Yeah. Living a cup field life. And I just, I'd love to hear what our listeners' mantras are. Mm-hmm. If you have, go-to things that you say to yourself to keep yourself motivated or keep yourself, make yourself feel comforted or make you feel more reassured. Mm-hmm. That sort of thing. I would love to hear them. I know a lot of people have. Like bible verses or quotes or things like that that they have in journals or on their mirrors or things like that. Mm-hmm. So I would love to hear some, the podcast episode that I mentioned before that my friend said she listened to, it was by, it was The Transform Podcast. So you could also, you could also go there if you want some more after this, but, uh, but otherwise I would love to hear what our listeners. Me too. Mantras are like what quotes you guys live by. Yeah. What helps you get through the days. Yes. I also think it's gonna be so interesting because your quotes were a lot of motivational and a lot of keep going, and my quotes were a lot of Don't doubt yourself. Yeah, love yourself. Yeah. I think they're two fun different journeys, so I'm excited to hear what other people think. Agreed. Yeah. Well guys, thank you for listening. As always, share this with someone who could benefit from it, and we love you guys and we'll talk to you next week. Cheers. Cheers. Plastic on plastic. Oh yeah. Woo.