Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Join Rob Bialostocki, highly experienced teacher, presenter, and life coach, as he shares everyday stories, insights, and practical ideas in a chatty, conversational style.
We focus on personal evolution, navigating life's challenges and transitions, and living a life that matters to us, to others, and to the world we all live in.
No fluff or bs here —just simple, real-world advice backed by decades of experience, psychology and practical philosophy, and a light sense of humour.
Friendly, credible and useful.
Episodes
23 episodes
22 - Dogma Detox: How Fixed Mindsets Limit Your Personal Evolution
Personal growth advice often presents a single "right way" to approach life's challenges, but there are actually multiple valid paths for everything from relationships to career development to self-improvement.Key Points
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Episode 22
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18:20
Ep 21 - You go first
If you’re a human being - and I’m guessing you are - then you have lots of relationships. And while many might be healthy, enjoyable and good chances are there are one or two that have some kind of stress, or are not as good as you’d like. Mayb...
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Episode 21
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11:51
Ep 20 - The Values Problem: Why Your Happiness Depends on Alignment
Do you feel discontent in your relationships, career, or daily life at times, despite outwardly having what you want? The answer often lies in a values problem - a misalignment between what we truly value deep down, and how we actually live. Wh...
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Episode 20
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19:39
Ep 19 - Life is like a pile of blankets
As we go about life we inevitably move to a script, a narrative, an identity. You would think that this identity is consciously decided. But after many years on the road, the reality is that we’re shaped by the influences and expectations we ha...
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Episode 19
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21:53
Ep 18 - Your best years are the ones ahead.
Have you ever wished you were younger again? Many people do. However, in my case, that would NOT be a good idea. Because where I’ve gotten to now has been hard-won by time, experience, and masses of learning and change. I do not want t...
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Episode 18
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6:55
Ep 17 - Life is neither straight nor narrow
We discuss the reality that life can be rugged, rough, surprising and wonderful. It's not straight and narrow and we shouldn't expect it to be. Instead, learning to navigate whatever comes with clarity, courage and determination is a much bette...
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Episode 17
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6:39
Ep 16 - Wanting the best for everyone
We humans automatically categorise people as safe or not, friendly or not, ‘us’ or ‘them.’ While this helps us feel more secure and like we belong, it also puts up barriers where there may not need to be any. Rob calls us to consciously try to ...
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Episode 16
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14:34
Ep 15 - Being mindful in midlife and beyond
Every day is precious, filled with possibilities like a blank whiteboard ready for the pen. Like an empty stage ready for the dance, or a lump of clay ready to be molded. For whatever art you want to create. Because your life is your art. But, ...
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Episode 15
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19:45
Ep 14 - Good news! You can’t do that anymore.
Life has phases as we grow. If we don’t adapt to the requirements and capabilities of a new phase, we can get pretty frustrated. To flourish in our second half, we need to accept there are things we can’t do anymore. But that’s actually really ...
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Episode 14
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13:26
Ep 12 - What’s your note to Self?
While I don’t advocate planning everything in your life out to the nth degree, I do think it’s wise to reflect on the past and distil a few key lessons and guidelines for the future. I mean, who wants to repeat the same mistakes or poor choices...
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Episode 12
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7:17
Ep 13 - Are we growing up or just growing older?
There is a world of difference between someone who continues to grow as a person throughout their life and someone who gets stuck psychologically or emotionally and just grows older. Rob discusses the difference and suggests three ways to consc...
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Episode 13
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17:22
Ep 11 - Life lessons from my grandfather’s very tough life
Rob shares a more personal episode, talking about the experiences of his grandparents who were forced out of their Polish estate, sent to the Gulags, and then relocated to New Zealand. But the key insight is that while externals can be stripped...
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Episode 11
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11:25
Ep 10 - Deliberately walk slowly
Life is extremely busy, and it will periodically overrun us if we don't actively find ways to deal with it. Rob explains what happens in your brain and body when you rush, and discusses how we can practically manage these feelings of overwhelm....
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Episode 10
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6:36
Ep 9 - How to radically improve your listening skills
Developing your communication skills is one of the best ways to gain more influence, develop better relationships, and create presence and impact. However, most people think they’re pretty good at communicating. But in my experience of 10 years...
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Episode 9
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9:53
Ep 8 - Neuroscience, engineering, and intentional growth
Today, let's dive into a powerful concept from the world of engineers, programmers, and data experts — forward modelling — and explore how it can boost your personal development.While many are familiar with the idea of priming (...
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Episode 8
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11:29
Ep 7 - Don’t let other’s opinions shape your life
Everyone has an opinion.That's because it's the way we are made.But not all opinions are useful, or even downright correct.So, we can deal with that by:Setting our compass - deciding what's important to us<...
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Episode 7
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14:48
Ep 6 - Letting go of the control you don’t have
This episode is mostly about getting real and, as a result, feeling and being more free."Don't ask for things to happen as you would LIKE them to. But wish them to happen as they ACTUALLY DO, and you will be alright."Epictetus s...
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Episode 6
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9:31
Ep 5 - Connection is better than content
In this content-saturated world, we think we're connected to others but it seems we're merely connected to a version of them that isn't fully real.In this episode, we talk about the following:Research shows that connection m...
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7:40
Ep 4 - When your children turned out differently
Most people raise their kids to become something like what they have in mind for them. But then they turn out differently. Rob discusses how to navigate this, especially if they turned out very different to what you expected. And, in the proces...
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13:02
Ep 3 - When silence is your power
Choosing to be quiet can sometimes be very helpful in understanding others more accurately, cultivating better relationships, and letting others thrive. But it requires self-control!
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10:39
Ep 2 - The thing is not the thought
This episode looks at how to reduce stress and anxiety by distinguishing between objects and experiences and how we describe them. It's a technique often used in mindfulness practices but is also a core facet of the ability to think clearly and...
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Episode 2
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