Becoming Secure
You're a successful woman who's got a lot of things going right in your life (dream job, cozy home, amazing friends)...but relationships are a different story. On Becoming Secure, we talk all things dating, healing anxious, avoidant, & disorganized attachment styles, and healthy relationships - so you can feel as amazing in relationships as you do in every other area of your life 💕
Episodes
43 episodes
The guys I'm into aren't into me, and I'm not attracted to the guys who ARE into me
Does it take a long time to find guys you're attracted to? Does it feel like all the guys you're into aren't into you? And that guys who are into you - are definitely not the type you'd go for? Emily unpacks why this happens through an attachme...
Do men actually want commitment?
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How to Get Over Your Situationship - for good!
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[Situationships] My 5 dating non-negotiables to avoid situationships
Ready to end the cycle of situationships and attract commitment-ready men? These 5 boundaries will put you on the right path!And if you're ready to end the cycle for good, register for Un-Situationship-Able today! A live 5-week coaching ...
[Situationships] I told him I wanted a relationship, so why did nothing change?
You finally worked up the courage to have the hard convo...what are you looking for? He says he doesn't want a relationship right now, butttt...nothing changes after that. He keeps seeing you and acting like things are the same...why?Un-...
[Situationships] Why are situationships such a mindf*ck?!
What makes situationships feels so intoxicating, intense, and hard to get over? Emily breaks this down in the latest episode of Becoming Secure!Un-Situationship-Able is now open for enrollment! Read more and register here:
The #1 thing keeping you from healthy love
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Should you date a guy who’s not *technically* divorced yet?
Should you date a guy who's not technically divorced yet? A client recently asked me this question. His reason made sense. He said he was ready to date. Was it okay for her to proceed? In this episode, I break down for you exactly what I told h...
Are you asking for too much? Or settling for too little?
In this episode, Emily breaks down two unsexy truths about settling and why it can be so hard to tell if you're settling for too little or asking for too much!Get the "
Dating Mistakes Anxious Attachers Make w/ Guest Valerie Rubin
On this episode of Becoming Secure, Emily welcomes anxious attachment coach Valerie Rubin to discuss common mistakes anxious attachers make in dating and relationships and the importance of doing somatic work in healing anxious attachment!<...
Sh*t Women Say to Justify Red Flags
Common things women say when they're trying to justify red flags! Do you ever find yourself doing or saying these things? If you do, don't worry - Emily has been there, too! But it's time to make the decision to walk away and stop settling for ...
Frustrated that he wasted your time?
If you're frustrated that a guy led you on and wasted your time, this episode is for you! Emily provides a helpful reframe on how to view situations like this with more peace and less frustration!The Art of Secure Dating is currently enr...
Subtle Ways You Self Abandon in Dating
Emily breaks down 9 subtle ways you might be self abandoning in dating in this episode! The Art of Secure Dating is currently enrolling (orientation call Dec. 13th!).Ready to date more securely & attract men who are emoti...
How to Stop Attaching So Quickly
In this episode, Emily invites Ana Eve back on the podcast to talk about why we attach so quickly and common mistakes to avoid that cause you to attach more quickly!They also announce the re-opening of the Art of Secure Dating with Black...
Your anxiety isn't the problem! (How to Love Your Anxiety)
Do you ever feel like your anxiety is the problem? Like your life would be better if you didn't have it? Believe it or not, this perspective may actually be hindering your healing & making your anxiety worse! In this episode, Emily breaks d...
How to tell if it's your anxiety or your intuition
Not sure how to tell if it's your anxiety or your intuition talking when a voice tells you to run, to end the relationship, or that you're going to get hurt? Emily breaks down why this happens and how to tell the difference. Apply f...
How to stop feeling insecure around guys you like
Do you ever feel like you become a different person around guys you're interested in? Emily unpacks why this happens in this episode of Becoming Secure!Want to work with Emily 1-1? Apply for Attachment Alchemy here:
Why your friendships are unreciprocated
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How to ask "what are you looking for" without sounding too intense
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Why wouldn't he fight for the relationship? (dismissive avoidants)
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Rachel's Story [1-1 Client Interview]
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How to Let Go of Someone Who's Almost the One
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Why You Miss Lovebombing
Have you ever completely missed it when someone lovebombed you? Today, Emily is talking about why this happens & how to catch it in the future!Apply for the Art of Secure Dating
Are You Vetting Wrong? 4 Mistakes That Keep You Attracting Unavailable Men
Keep attracting emotionally unavailable men? Here are some common mistakes when it comes to *how* you date that lead to attracting emotionally unavailable men!Ready to Attract Emotionally Available Men? The Art of Secure Dating starts so...