Becoming Secure
You're a successful woman who's got a lot of things going right in your life (dream job, cozy home, amazing friends)...but relationships are a different story. On Becoming Secure, we talk all things dating, healing anxious, avoidant, & disorganized attachment styles, and healthy relationships - so you can feel as amazing in relationships as you do in every other area of your life 💕
Episodes
36 episodes
Dating Mistakes Anxious Attachers Make w/ Guest Valerie Rubin
On this episode of Becoming Secure, Emily welcomes anxious attachment coach Valerie Rubin to discuss common mistakes anxious attachers make in dating and relationships and the importance of doing somatic work in healing anxious attachment!<...
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Season 3
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Episode 15
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56:26
Sh*t Women Say to Justify Red Flags
Common things women say when they're trying to justify red flags! Do you ever find yourself doing or saying these things? If you do, don't worry - Emily has been there, too! But it's time to make the decision to walk away and stop settling for ...
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Season 3
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Episode 14
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36:54
Frustrated that he wasted your time?
If you're frustrated that a guy led you on and wasted your time, this episode is for you! Emily provides a helpful reframe on how to view situations like this with more peace and less frustration!The Art of Secure Dating is currently enr...
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Season 3
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Episode 13
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17:13
Subtle Ways You Self Abandon in Dating
Emily breaks down 9 subtle ways you might be self abandoning in dating in this episode! The Art of Secure Dating is currently enrolling (orientation call Dec. 13th!).Ready to date more securely & attract men who are emoti...
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Season 3
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Episode 12
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27:16
How to Stop Attaching So Quickly
In this episode, Emily invites Ana Eve back on the podcast to talk about why we attach so quickly and common mistakes to avoid that cause you to attach more quickly!They also announce the re-opening of the Art of Secure Dating with Black...
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Season 3
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Episode 11
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34:53
Your anxiety isn't the problem! (How to Love Your Anxiety)
Do you ever feel like your anxiety is the problem? Like your life would be better if you didn't have it? Believe it or not, this perspective may actually be hindering your healing & making your anxiety worse! In this episode, Emily breaks d...
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Season 3
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Episode 10
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30:33
How to tell if it's your anxiety or your intuition
Not sure how to tell if it's your anxiety or your intuition talking when a voice tells you to run, to end the relationship, or that you're going to get hurt? Emily breaks down why this happens and how to tell the difference. Apply f...
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Season 3
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Episode 9
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37:25
How to stop feeling insecure around guys you like
Do you ever feel like you become a different person around guys you're interested in? Emily unpacks why this happens in this episode of Becoming Secure!Want to work with Emily 1-1? Apply for Attachment Alchemy here:
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Season 3
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Episode 8
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19:05
Early Signs He's Emotionally Unavailable Part 2
***Additional Notes/Correction***Around 16 minutes, Emily says that dismissive avoidants don't trigger as much of the *anxious* side of a fearful avoidant's attachment, but she meant to say they don't tigger the *avoidant* side as much b...
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Season 4
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Episode 6
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31:38
Why your friendships are unreciprocated
Work with Emily 1-1: https://mailchi.mp/de14c807829a/j109p21a14
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Season 4
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Episode 5
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16:58
How to ask "what are you looking for" without sounding too intense
Apply for Attachment Alchemy: https://mailchi.mp/de14c807829a/j109p21a14
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Season 4
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Episode 4
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27:24
Why wouldn't he fight for the relationship? (dismissive avoidants)
Free Training to help you process: https://mailchi.mp/7a564cf27971/breakup-free-trainingApply for Attachment Alchemy:
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Season 4
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Episode 3
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22:45
Rachel's Story [1-1 Client Interview]
Attachment Alchemy is now Open for Enrollment. Read more and apply here: https://mailchi.mp/de14c807829a/j109p21a14
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Season 4
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Episode 2
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42:45
How to Let Go of Someone Who's Almost the One
Read More & Apply for Attachment Alchemy: https://mailchi.mp/de14c807829a/j109p21a14
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Season 4
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Episode 1
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24:56
Why You Miss Lovebombing
Have you ever completely missed it when someone lovebombed you? Today, Emily is talking about why this happens & how to catch it in the future!Apply for the Art of Secure Dating
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Season 3
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Episode 9
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16:16
Are You Vetting Wrong? 4 Mistakes That Keep You Attracting Unavailable Men
Keep attracting emotionally unavailable men? Here are some common mistakes when it comes to *how* you date that lead to attracting emotionally unavailable men!Ready to Attract Emotionally Available Men? The Art of Secure Dating starts so...
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Season 3
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Episode 8
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29:17
Why Finding Emotionally Available Men Is NOT a Numbers Game
Free Masterclass on How to Attract Emotionally Available MenReady to Attract Emotionally Available Men? The Art of Secure Dating starts soon!
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Season 3
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Episode 7
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15:11
Why You're Self Aware But Still Attract Emotionally Unavailable Men
You've done therapy or counseling or coaching - you're super self aware...and yet you're still attracting emotionally unavailable men...In this episode Emily unpacks why that is and what the key is to shifting it!Links mention...
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Season 3
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Episode 6
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19:51
Where Are All the Good Men?
Emily and Ana talk about where the good men are and how you can find one in this episode of Becoming Secure!Want to learn to attract an emotionally available man? Come to our free masterclass on May 31st at 2pm US Eastern Time!If ...
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Season 3
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Episode 5
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29:31
How to Trust Again After Being Blindsided
Ready to trust again after being blindsided in the past? To be able to trust healthy love & stop waiting for the other shoe to drop? Emily discusses how to begin that journey in this episode of Becoming Secure!Other links referenced:...
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Season 3
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Episode 4
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23:53
Don't Make This Mistake When Moving Towards Secure
Emily talks about a common mistake she sees clients make on their attachment healing journey.Interested in working with Emily 1-1? Read more and apply below:Secure in...
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Season 3
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Episode 3
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13:23
Chelsea's Art of Secure Dating Success Story!
In this episode, Emily interviews TASD alumnus Chelsea about her experience dating an emotionally available, commitment-ready man after years of situationships and chasing non-committal guys. We talk about where to find emotionally available me...
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Season 3
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Episode 2
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41:21
My Story from Fearful Avoidant to Secure
Emily talks about her personal healing journey: from being the runner in relationships to mistakenly thinking she was anxiously attached, why she didn't think she was an FA, becoming securely attached & navigating the complexities of forgiv...
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Season 3
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Episode 1
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1:07:20
How to Stop Ignoring Red Flags
Have you ever been dating someone and noticed a red flag or multiple red flags, and yet you kept dating the person? Maybe you thought - or hoped - that it wasn’t really that big of a deal…Or maybe you thought he could work on it, and things ...
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Season 2
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Episode 8
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12:30