Dynamite Divorce and other matters (DDOM)
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! Custody and Divorce Lawyers Marjie Nielsen, Barry C. Boykin and Kevin R. Johnson have more than 70 combined years of experience. They know first-hand the court battles, psychological warfare, pain and frustration that parents, spouses, partners and children endure as disputes are resolved in the family-court system. From their perspective as Chicago attorneys, Barry, Marjie and Kevin attempt to bring hope and clarity to a troubled world, where lawyers, judges and other professionals see the best and worst of human behavior on public display.
Episodes
54 episodes
Episode 43 with Carmen Quinones, an Attorney and a Guardian ad litem for children
We met with Attorney Carmen Quinones, from Wilmette (a suburb of Chicago.) She's fun to talk with. Parking her car in our weed-strewn parking lot and making it safely down the stairs to our drafty, underground virtual studio, Carmen...
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Episode 42 with Judge Mark Lopez, retired
In this Episode 42 - recorded on May 8th, 2024, Marjie, Barry and Kevin host retired Judge Mark Lopez, formerly of the Cook County (IL) Circuit Court, Domestic Relations Division. In this wide-ranging discussion, Judge Lopez shares some i...
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Episode 41 with Attorney Igor Bozic - "Juvenile Court - a former prosecutor explains"
In this Episode 41 - recorded on January 19, 2024, Marjie, Barry and Kevin sit down with former prosecutor ('Assistant State's Attorney') Igor Bozic to talk about Juvenile Court -- and the RISKS that parents face in not maintaining a calm, stea...
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Episode 40 with Dr. Pascale Piron - "OVERthinking and UNDERthinking in family-law conflicts"
In this Episode 40 - recorded on September 8, 2023, Marjie (our new co-host), Barry and Kevin sit down with: Doctor of Psychology Pascale Piron https://emergepg.com/pascale-piron
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Episode 39 - Answering some "Frequently Asked Questions"
In this Episode 39 - recorded on July 20, 2023, Barry and Kevin answer some of the questions commonly asked of them by non-lawyers. There are links included below, including "Illinois Legal Aid Online," for people who would like some onl...
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Episode 38 with Clare McMahon - "Best Ideas and Worst Ideas in Family Law"
Back from a summer break, Barry and Kevin are again ready to ruminate and pontificate on the practice of family law. They are joined today by Chicago Attorney Clare McMahon from
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Episode 37 - "Drop Dead" and "Escape" clauses, Slippery, variable language and Other Perils
In this Episode 37 - recorded on a hot day in June, 2022, Barry and Kevin discuss an insider's view of negotiating settlement agreements -- the kind that become divorce judgments, parenting-time orders, and custody ('allocation') judgments....
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Episode 36 - The Aftermath of Court Orders (and the Before Math)
In this Episode 36 - recorded in May, 2022, Barry and Kevin discuss what happens after a Divorce, Allocation Judgment or other Court Order has been entered. All that work, all the thinking and negotiating and planning -- so easy to fall a...
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Episode 35 - Reviewing a year of podcasts in 2021 - guests, controversy, ideas and secrets
2021 was a busy year for our podcast, with a multitude of guests sharing ideas, hopes, dreams, techniques and behind-the-scenes secrets from their real-world experience. A bunch of lawyers and one Doctor of Psychology, wha...
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Episode 34 with Kara Bekelya - "Abuse, Domestic Violence, Truth, Lies, Divorce and Children""
SEE THE LINKS BELOW!Safety and freedom. Who wouldn't want that? But abusive partners, spouses and other family members can put the safety and freedom of you and your children at risk. No...
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Episode 33 PART ONE with Attorney Mark Broaddus - "Guardianship, parents, children, disabilities, power and money"
Parents. Children. Money. Power. Control. Disabled adults. What could go wrong? This podcast is about "Guardianship." It sounds like a blanket of comf...
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Episode 33 PART TWO with Attorney Mark Broaddus - "Guardianship, parents, children, disabilities, power and money"
Parents. Children. Money. Power. Control. Disabled adults. What could go wrong? This podcast is about "Guardianship." It sounds like a blanket of comfort an...
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Episode 32 PART ONE with Michael Wood - Unpaid bills and family stress - 'Debt buyers' and the attacks on you
Often added to the legal and emotional turmoil of a divorce, custody, parentage, child-support or other family-law dispute are pressures over unpaid bills and debts. Banks and other creditors sometimes try to collect for a while, b...
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Episode 32 PART TWO with Michael Wood - Unpaid bills and family stress - 'Debt buyers' and the attacks on you
Often added to the legal and emotional turmoil of a divorce, custody, parentage, child-support or other family-law dispute are pressures over unpaid bills and debts. Banks and other creditors sometimes try to collect for a while, b...
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Episode 31 - PART ONE with Kathy Bojczuk - "Call the Parenting Coordinator! Our divorce is over, but my ex keeps fighting!"
"We fought over the divorce, but now that it's over, my ex won't stop fighting about our children! Never a moment's peace! It's always one thing or another -- my ex always looks for exceptions and loopholes in our parenting a...
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Episode 31 - PART TWO with Kathy Bojczuk - "Call the Parenting Coordinator! Our divorce is over, but my ex keeps fighting!"
"We fought over the divorce, but now that it's over, my ex won't stop fighting about our children! Never a moment's peace! It's always one thing or another -- my ex always looks for exceptions and loopholes in our parenting a...
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Episode 30 - PART ONE with Dr. Pascale Piron - "I'm a loving and stable parent! It's my ex who's unstable!" (Family law through the eyes of a mental health professional)
This is terrible! First, I'm forced into a court battle for my child's future, now I have to be "evaluated" to see if I'm a good parent? OF COURSE I'm a good parent! It's my ex who's causing all the proble...
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Episode 30 - PART TWO with Dr. Pascale Piron - "My mental health is fine! It's my ex who's unstable!" (Family law through the eyes of a mental health professional)
This is terrible! First, I'm forced into a court battle for my child's future, now I have to be "evaluated" to see if I'm a good parent? OF COURSE I'm a good parent! It's my ex who's causing all the problems and...
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Episode 29 - PART ONE with Andrea Rice "Moving on after a custody or divorce case"
I'm still having nightmares about my custody case! How can I get past this? How can I find peace and protect my kids from further trauma? Maybe I should share my inner feelings with my kids and lean on them for emotional support!...
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Episode 29 - PART TWO with Andrea Rice "Moving on after a custody or divorce case"
I'm still having nightmares about my custody case! How can I get past this? How can I find peace and protect my kids from further trauma? Maybe I should share my inner feelings with my kids and lean on them for emotio...
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Episode 28 - Part TWO - with guest Modupe Sobo - "The Judge appointed a lawyer for my little girl!" - Secrets of working with a G.A.L. or Child Rep.
The Judge is giving my little son his own lawyer? But I'm his parent! I know him better than anyone! &nbs...
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Episode 28 - Part ONE - with guest Modupe Sobo - "The Judge appointed a lawyer for my little girl!" - Secrets of working with a G.A.L. or Child Rep.
The Judge is giving my little son his own lawyer? But I'm his parent! I know him better than anyone! ...
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Episode 27 - Part ONE - with guest Patrick Denkwa John - "Kids, we love you but we're breaking up"
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW!Tell the kids! Don't tell the kids! Hope they don't notice!&nb...
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Episode 27 - Part TWO - with guest Patrick Denkwa John - "Kids, we love you but we're breaking up"
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW!Tell the kids! Don't tell the kids! Hope they don't notice!&nb...
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Episode 26 - Part TWO - with guest Daniel Florey - "Refusing and Accusing" - When a child *is said to be* refusing visitation
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW!In this Episode 26, PART TWO, Recorded on 2/19/2021, Kevin, Barry and special gue...
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Episode 26 - Part ONE - with guest Daniel Florey - "Refusing and Accusing" - When a child *is said to be* refusing visitation
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW!In this Episode 26, PART ONE, Recorded on 2/19/2021, Kevin, Barry and special gue...
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Episode 25 - with guest Drew Curle - E-filing stress and hope
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW!"E-filing" is short for 'electronic filing' of legal documents with the Co...
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Episode 24 - Part ONE - with guest Marjie Nielsen - "Skeletons in the closet" - searching and using criminal information
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW!Do you suspect that a person has been arrested? Convicted? Required to register as ...
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Episode 24 - Part TWO - with guest Marjie Nielsen - "Skeletons in the closet" - searching and using criminal information
Custody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW!Do you suspect that a person has been arrested? Convicted? Required to register as...
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