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124 episodes
Moving out of the lows
If you're anything like me you will experience a lot of lows at times in your life. You might be questioning what the point of it all is and feeling trapped or stuck.This is all normal and in this episode I talk about how to ...
The Power of Commitment
"We don't commit because we are afraid to fail but we fail because we don't commit"One of my favourite sayings.Commitment is absolutely everything and without it life is not only hard but you will find yourself drifting away from ...
Big boys do cry
Today I am joined by Kristian Potter who is a Mindful Alignment Coach and founder of 'Internal Flow'.We talk about the how to reduce stress, the benefits of marginal gains and the importance of rest as well as many other thingsKri...
Deadline Presah!!
A lot of people rely on deadline pressure to get things done. They leave things to the last minute and love the excitement of it.The problem comes when we have left things to the last minute and then other urgent things fall into our la...
Setting Boundaries
I hear a lot of people setting boundaries because someone is triggering them and then complaining because that person has violated their boundary.Firstly, I think the word triggered is overused and we should be replacing it with the word...
Marginal Gains and Letting Go
In this episode I discuss with my good friend Ron Hill about the benefits of marginal gains and getting out of the 'All or Nothing' thinking that so many perfectionists get stuck in, leading to them giving up, being de-motivated and often feeli...
Getting Unstuck
People come to me saying they feel lost, de-motivated, confused and feel like they are drifting. They think the problem is a big one but the solution is really simple.Have a listen to how you can go from feeling lost to energ...
Stop vaping, drinking and overeating easily!
Most people rely on willpower to stop bad habits but willpower is finite and we either end up folding or even if it works in one area we find ourselves creating new bad habits in other areas.In this episode I will explain why.Lin...
Think - Do - Reward
In this episode I am going to discuss what I believe to be the downsides of this approach.Our brain works on reward and when we start rewarding ourselves for activities we find hard to do then we end up making the activity harder in the...
The Expectation Effect
So often we feel disappointed and frustrated because things haven't worked out as we thought they would.What we don't realise is that we are the cause of that negativity. We think it is reality that is the problem but actually it was our...
All you need to know to stop procrastinating.
Today's is a short and sharp episode on how to stop procrastinating.When you understand that it comes from the brain you are onto a winner.To watch the YouTube clip then follow the link below:https://youtu.be/CPdFK62Q0J4
The Two Darts
The two darts is a Buddhist concept that describes how pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.The first dart is the unavoidable pain of life, both physically and emotionally. This is unavoidable and we will all experience it.
How to Feel Happier and More Confident
So many of us are feeling a lack of fulfillment and frustration with our lives and are pursing happiness but never find it.In this weeks episode I will show you the secret to happiness and confidence and how it is not something we pursue...
Why’s it so hard?
In this episode I answer the question “Why is it so hard to do the things you know you have to do and that you know will benefit you in the long term?”It’s amazing isn’t it how bad habits are so easy to pick up but good habits are so har...
Overcoming anxiety
Anxiety is something we all experience and many people struggle with. In this weeks I talk about my experience of anxiety after leaving the Police and how I deal with it and don’t let it stop me.
The Power of Self Acceptance
In this episode we hear from Martyn, a Detective from Avon and Somerset Constabulary who was a client in my 1:1 Stress to Success Program.When Martyn came to me he was in Burnout, fueled by energy drinks and caffeine and was stuck in the...
Why Some Failure Feels Worse Than Others
In this Episode I share with you a lesson I recorded in my 'Stress to Success' Program.Failure never feels nice, but why do some failures feel worse than others. Failure is supposed to feel uncomfortable because it draws our attention to...
The Highs and Lows of Life
This episode my wife, Nicky Bevan and I talk about the Highs and lows of life.We talk about how when we (especially men) feel vulnerable we default to anger and frustration. We get very angry with ourselves and add a lot of self judgemen...
What makes you good can also burn you out
In this episode I am with my wife, Nicky Bevan who is also a Life Coach and Coaches women on building emotional resilience.We talk about how, what makes someone good at something can also be the same trait that burns them out.Have...
Pleasing Yourself
We're back! Ron, Carl and Jonny are back for another three way and this time we are discussing Pleasing Yourself.We discuss People Pleasing, what it is and the affect it can have on our lives and other's. We all have differen...
Is the way we work sustainable?
In this week's episode I am talking to Clare Flaxen who is a CBT Therapist and the Founder of Stretch Mindset Method.Clare helps make personal development and growth sustainable with wellbeing at the core.Clare has a background in...
Performing Under Pressure
In this week's episode I am joined by Katy Rosewood who is a Sport & Exercise Psychologist in training.Katy is a qualified Personal Trainer and also a qualified Nurse with 25 years of experience in the NHS.Katy has always been...
Stop Trying to Feel Better
In this episode I talk about the dangers of constantly wanting to feel better.Most people's pain comes from the fact that they are fighting the way they are feeling in a given moment. Because of how the human brain is wired we cannot esc...
Can you manage time?
This episode was recorded while I was still in the Police and I attended a Time Management Course.Here I share my beliefs on Time Management and how no strategy is going to stick unless you address perfectionism, people pleasing and the ...
Connecting with Purpose and Group Decisions
In this episode I'm back with Ben Simpson who is the owner and CEO of Organisational Vitality and they help leaders and their teams create more vitality in their organisations by revealing the hidden ‘permissions’ that shape behaviour, enabling...