Breaking Our Borders
As we grow and experience many things in our lives, borders are created in our thought processes that make us think and believe in certain ways. Sometimes those thoughts can be harmful to our mental health. Dr. Michelle Border will examine the abuse, trauma, and experiences that cause the negative borders in our mind, and help you learn how to break down those borders to have better mental health.
Episodes
40 episodes
How to Cope With Anger, Bitterness, and Injustice from Past Relationships, Especially When They Now Seem to Have Changed to a Different Person
Hi everyone, and welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. Today I’m going to discuss a topic that many of us have experienced, and struggle to move past. It’s the mental border of feelings of anger, bitterness, and injustice from be...
Forgiving Yourself and Letting Go of the Guilt and Shame of Childhood Trauma
Hi everyone! I’m so glad you are joining me for this episode. Today I’m going to talk about the guilt and shame that childhood trauma survivors feel, and how we need to forgive ourselves for the choices we made due to experiencing trauma. Ma...
Most Common Borders Built in Our Minds by Childhood Trauma and How We Can Start Breaking Them Down
Welcome back everyone! Thank you for joining me for another episode of the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. Today I would like to discuss some of the most common borders that can be built in our minds from experiencing childhood trauma. I will ...
Why Can’t I Stop Worrying, Being Anxious, and Having Catastrophic Thinking?
Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast! I’m Dr. Michelle Border. Do you ever wish you could stop worrying, being anxious, or having catastrophic thinking? I do, and after 15 years of counseling and healing work, it still happens to...
How to Have Healthy Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
Hello everyone! Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do, just to make someone else happy? Maybe you went to the movie your partner wanted to see but you didn’t, or you answered a f...
I Still Feel Like I’m Not Good Enough or Too Much
Hello and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border, and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about mental borders of feeling like you’re not good enough or too much. These are common feelings among survivors of childhood trauma, but can also be...
What Does Forgiveness Mean, and Should I Give It to Others?
Hi, everyone. Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders podcast. I’m Dr. Michelle Border, and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about forgiveness. I’ll discuss what forgiveness means, how to give it, and whether or not we should give it. I...
How to Begin Healing Your Inner Child
Hello, everyone! I’m Doctor Michelle Border and I’m so glad you are joining me again this week. In today’s episode I will discuss the concept of our Inner Child. The "inner child" is a metaphor for the part of the brain that retains the emot...
Coping with Unhealthy and Toxic Relationships
Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and today I’m going to talk about what we can do when in unhealthy or toxic relationships that we are not ready to or cannot get away from. Negative relationships can take a toll on our mental heal...
What is a Trauma Bond?
Hello, and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about Trauma Bond. Trauma Bond is what happens in our brains when narcissists manipulate us and change the biochemical pathways in our brains. I recent...
Understanding the Process of Grief
Hello, everyone and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about grief. We think of grief as being associated with the death of someone close to us, but grief can be felt for other types of losses as w...
Breaking Our Borders Episode 28- I'm on Vacation
Hi, everyone! This week’s episode is going to be short as I’m on vacation and won’t be home to put together a regular episode. You could use this time this week to check out my previous episodes that you may have missed on...
Interview With Adam Copeland About Positive Living
Welcome back! I’m super excited about this episode as this is the first time I have done an interview for the podcast. Today I have a special guest with me, Mr. Adam Copeland. I met Adam at a STEM teaching conference where he was the keynote...
Perceptions Versus Reality
Hello and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about perceptions. Perceptions are how individuals organize, identify, and interpret sensory information to understand the world around them. It has bee...
My Healing Journey from Childhood Trauma, So Far
Hello, everyone! Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I am going to talk about my healing journey. I have had several listeners say, I recognize my trauma and hear you about how I need to get on the healing jour...
How Childhood Trauma Can Affect Our Romantic and Friendship Relationships
Hi and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I am going to discuss healthy and unhealthy romantic and friends relationships. Survivors of childhood trauma often carry personality adaptations and disorders into adulthoo...
What is Physical Abuse (including sexual abuse)?
Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk deeper about physical and sexual abuse. Physical abuse is any aggressive or violent behavior by one person toward another that results in bodily injury, and inclu...
What is Emotional Abuse?
Hello everyone, and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to take a deeper look at emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is a type of abuse that affects the mind of the victim, not abuse on the body. The abu...
Our Minds Are Like An Apple Tree
Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Boder, and in today’s episode I”m going to share with you an analogy that came to my mind while at a conference recently. This analogy helped me to better understand what I need to do to have a healthier mind a...
Understanding Mother and Father Wounds
Hello, and welcome back. I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about a concept called mother and father wounds. When a child is abused, neglected, or ignored they develop life-long struggles with emotional he...
What are Empaths?
Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about Empaths. Empathy is a personality trait, and basically the opposite of narcissists. Since I talked about Narcissists in my last two episodes, I wanted...
Understanding Narcissism Part 2
Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and this episode is part 2 about narcissism. In the first episode I discussed what narcissism is, what causes it, and what is going on in the mind of a narcissist. In today’s episode I’m going to tell yo...
Understanding Narcissism Part 1
Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and today I’m going to discuss a personality disorder called narcissism. Because there is so much to tell about this disorder, this episode will be part 1. My next episode will be part 2, continuing the ...