When Depression is in your bed
This podcast looks through both a professional and personal lens to explore the impact depression can have on individuals and on relationships. It takes a non-judgmental, destigmatizing view of mental health that encourages true, holistic healing and growth.
The host, Trish Sanders, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist. In addition to her experience in the office with couples and depression, both she and her husband have lived with depression for most of their lives. Trish shares with transparency and vulnerability, while bringing hope and light to an often heavy subject.
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Episodes
55 episodes
What It Means to Be Relational: Safety, Connection, and the World We Can Create Together
What does it really mean to be relational — beyond simply having relationships?In this episode, I explore what it means to value connection, belonging, and collective safety in a world that often prioritizes hierarchy, control, an...
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Episode 54
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22:19
Introducing My Husband: From Behind the Scenes to Sharing the Mic
This episode marks a meaningful milestone for the podcast — the first episode of its second year, and the first with my husband, Ben, joining me on the microphone.For the past year, he has been an essential part of this podcast be...
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Episode 53
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30:20
Becoming Someone I Can Trust: ADHD, Depression, and One Year of Nervous System Healing
What does it mean to become someone you can trust — especially when living with ADHD and depression?In this one-year anniversary episode, I reflect on how understanding my nervous system changed my relationship with effort, consis...
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Episode 52
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34:30
When Depression Was the Clue: ADHD Misdiagnosed as Bipolar Disorder
A personal story of neurodivergence, school struggles, and how effort was misunderstood at 17.For years, I believed my struggles with focus, energy, and motivation were simply part of my depression — or evidence that I wasn’t tryi...
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Episode 51
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25:06
This New Year, Stop Striving for a New You: Choosing the Pace That Lets the Real You Bloom
The pressure to reinvent can feel loud in January, but nature tells a different story: winter is for conservation, repair, and preparing the ground for bloom. We explore how to trade the exhausting “on or off” cycle for nervous system flexibili...
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Episode 50
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24:26
A Conscious Christmas Story: Choosing Connection When the Holidays Got Me Down
When the holidays don’t match the picture in your head, the gap can feel like grief. This year brought fevers, cancellations, and a quiet house that amplified old patterns of shutdown. I share what helped me move through the heaviness with care...
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Episode 49
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21:43
Let It Begin With Me: Embodying Peace Through Nervous System Regulation
We explore how two opposing beliefs—“I have to do everything" and "I can't do anything"—grow from different nervous system states and how peace begins by shifting our state toward safety and connection. Using Polyvagal Theory, we offer practica...
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Episode 48
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25:12
Writing New Stories: How My Brain Healed After Holiday Depression and Beyond
The holidays can feel bright for some and unbearably heavy for others. I open up about a Christmas that nearly ended my marriage and trace how those memories slowly softened—not by accident, but because the brain can change and grow when it fee...
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Episode 47
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23:12
Grief, Gratitude & ADHD: What’s Been Coming Up for Me This Holiday Season
Holidays have a way of pulling old feelings to the surface. This time, two truths came up at once: the enduring ache of losing my dad five years ago, and a quieter grief I call “ADHD grief”—the gap between the cozy, orderly home I imagine and t...
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Episode 46
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18:12
Ketamine Isn’t the Fix—It’s the Opening: How Intentional Integration Turned Insight Into Healing
We explore how ketamine-assisted psychotherapy can quiet an overactive alarm system, reopen access to rest, and create a window where new habits take hold through integration. We share the science in plain language and the personal practices th...
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Episode 45
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27:40
From Cautiously Curious to Confident: What I Learned Before Starting Ketamine Therapy
Healing doesn’t always arrive as a lightning bolt. Sometimes it looks like a short, supported window where defenses soften and your nervous system finally has space to reorganize. That’s the potential of ketamine-assisted psychotherapy: not a s...
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Episode 44
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21:54
Signals of Safety: Real Stories of Nervous System Self- and Co-Regulation
The hardest part of a taxing day likely isn’t a thing on the to-do list— our nervous system state that influences how we perceive what needs to be done and if we have on "depression googles," we can expect that even the lightest load may feel l...
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Episode 43
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16:44
My Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) Journey: From Self-Hatred To Self-Care
What if real rest isn’t zoning out, but learning to feel safely still in your own body? Trish takes you inside her year-long journey with ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, sharing what KAP actually looks like—from medical screening and at-home s...
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Episode 42
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33:50
Becoming Who You Already Are: Identity, Growth, and Celebrating Along the Way
Growth doesn’t wait for a finish line. This episode leans into the messy middle—where self-care becomes more consistent, mirrors from friends provide a much needed self-reflection, and you realize you’ve been practicing a new identity long befo...
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Episode 41
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22:32
Relearning Safety: Working With Your Nervous System to Create Habits of Rest
✨ Free Resource: Download my guide, 100 Practices That Can Increase Your Access to Rest & Renewal — filled with simple, doable ways to rest your body, mind, and spirit.These are small, easy to i...
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Episode 40
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21:28
Finding Safety in Stillness: How Trauma Shapes the Nervous System and Rest
✨ Free Resource: Download my guide, 100 Practices That Can Increase Your Access to Rest & Renewal — filled with simple, doable ways to rest your body, mind, and spirit.These are small, easy to i...
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Episode 39
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19:06
The Art of Slowing Down: Practical Ways to Rest and Renew
✨ Free Resource: Download my guide, 100 Practices That Can Increase Your Access to Rest & Renewal — filled with simple, doable ways to rest your body, mind, and spirit.These are small, easy...
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Episode 38
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25:58
The Ventral Narrator: A Grounding Voice for Nervous System Regulation
What if the most transformative part of a “conscious life” isn’t the serene moments—but the messy ones where you feel flooded, triggered, and ready to explode? I share a raw, real story about a birthday plan gone sideways, how a sold-out ticket...
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Episode 37
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21:39
Beyond Sleep: Expanding What Rest Means So We Can Have Daily Practices That Renew
Rest doesn’t have to mean sleeping in or finding a three-hour window for a nap when time is not something you have in excess. We reframe rest as a spectrum of accessible practices that fit into busy, real lives—rooted in the nervous system, inf...
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Episode 36
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16:30
The Politics of Rest: Power, Privilege, and the Pause
Rest represents one of our most fundamental needs, yet access to it remains profoundly unequal. Some can freely embrace rest without judgment, while others face criticism, shame, and real-world consequences for the same basic human necessity. T...
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Episode 35
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17:15
From Busy Bee to Safely Still: The Importance of Redefining Our Relationship with Rest
What happens when we slow down in a society obsessed with constant motion? After spending eight transformative days in retreat settings, I've gained powerful insights about rest that challenge everything our culture teaches us about productivit...
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Episode 34
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24:41
Mosh Pit Magic: The Brilliance of Nervous System Healing
What do mosh pits have to do with mental health? Everything, at least that's how it turned out for me. From the moment I stepped into my first mosh pit at Woodstock '94 with my dad at age 14, something profound happened—I fel...
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Episode 33
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22:39
From Gratitude to Growth: How Appreciation Can Transform Relationship
Gratitude might be the relationship superpower you're overlooking. In this heartfelt exploration, we dive into how deliberately practicing appreciation transforms relationships from the inside out.Your brain naturally fixates on problem...
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Episode 32
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21:34
From Car Conflict to Regulated Road Trips: A Nervous System Approach to Creating a Smooth Ride
Why do so many couples fight in cars? After a breathtaking but occasionally tense family road trip along the Pacific Coast Highway, I discovered something fascinating about car conflicts that completely changed my perspective.Driving re...
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Episode 31
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18:35
When Life Keeps "Lifing": Choosing Conscious Connection Over Chaos
Have you ever caught yourself thinking your relationship will never change? That moment of hopelessness is precisely what makes breakthrough moments of connection so powerful—when something shifts and you glimpse what's possible through conscio...
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Episode 30
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17:59