When Depression is in Your Bed℠
When Depression Is in Your Bed℠ is a podcast about what happens when life gets hard and how we find our way back to connection.
Hosted by Trish Sanders, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist and Relationship Coach, each episode explores the complex relationship between our nervous systems, our relationships, and our emotional well-being.
Through a blend of personal stories, professional insights, and practical tools, Trish tackles topics such as depression, communication, perfectionism, neurodivergence, self-trust, conflict, repair, empathy, boundaries, attachment, nervous system regulation, and relational healing.
With honesty, warmth, and a deep belief in people's capacity to grow, Trish helps listeners understand not only why they get stuck, but how meaningful change becomes possible.
Whether you're struggling with depression, feeling disconnected from yourself or your partner, or simply trying to navigate life with more awareness and compassion, this podcast offers a roadmap back to connection, again and again.
Episodes
77 episodes
Connecting Through Struggle: Why It Felt Safe and Kept Me Stuck
What if one of the primary ways you've learned to connect with other people has also been quietly keeping you stuck?In this episode, I explore a realization that completely changed the way I think about empathy, healing, relations...
Staying the Course: When Disappointment Doesn't Have to Become Dysregulation
What if healing doesn't mean you stop feeling disappointed, but that disappointment no longer has the power to pull you into the same old stories?In this episode, I share a very ordinary moment with my husband, Ben, that became an...
Finding My People: The Connection Paradox and the Search for Belonging
What if the thing you've been searching for all along, connection, community, and a sense of belonging, is also the thing you've been protecting yourself from? In this episode, I explore what I call The Connection Paradox<...
When Your Person Doesn't Feel Like Your Person: The Longing Beneath the Hurt
Why can a seemingly small moment with the person you love hurt so much more than a similar moment with almost anyone else?In this episode, I explore what happens when the person who feels like your person doesn't respond ...
The Brilliance of Blended States: Nervous System Flexibility & Creativity
What if feeling energized, creative, connected, rested, and even grieving aren't separate experiences, but examples of your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do? In this episode, I explore one of the most i...
Clarity Rooted in the Nervous System: How Safety Helps You See Again
What if clarity is not just a mindset… but a nervous system experience?In this episode, I explore the idea that clarity is deeply rooted in our nervous system state and that when we are living in survival mode, overwhelmed, anxiou...
Regulation Is Not Calm: The Truth About Nervous System Wellness
What if nervous system regulation has far less to do with staying calm all the time… and much more to do with flexibility, awareness, and repair?In this episode, I unpack some of the biggest myths and misunderstandings I see surro...
The Space to Come Back: How Relational Safety Changes Family Conflict
What if stepping back during conflict isn’t avoidance… but the very thing that creates space for repair? In this episode, I share two very ordinary but deeply meaningful moments from my own family that highlighted just how mu...
The Empathy Trap in Relationships: How Understanding Your Partner Can Keep You Both Stuck
What happens when empathy helps your partner feel deeply understood… but quietly keeps both of you stuck?In this episode, I explore what I call The Empathy Trap in Relationships, a dynamic where understanding your partner...
Showing Up Imperfectly: When Perfectionism Looks Like Overachieving
What if perfectionism doesn’t make you shut down… but makes it impossible to stop pushing?In this episode, I explore the overachieving side of perfectionism, the version that looks productive, driven, high-functioning, and constan...
Showing Up Imperfectly: One Way This Perfectionist Is Learning to Trust Herself
What does it actually look like to build self-trust, not when everything is going well, but when it’s not?In this episode, I share a real-time experience from a physically challenging week and how it brought me back to something I...
The Empathy Trap: When Feeling Understood Doesn’t Create Change
What if empathy may help you feel seen, but may also be keeping you stuck?In this episode, I explore what I call The Empathy Trap, a subtle but powerful dynamic where empathy focused only on the story can create connectio...
The Conscious Crash: How Doing the Work Changes the Struggle
What happens when you have the awareness, the tools, and the language, and still find yourself crashing into dysregulation?In this episode, I share a deeply personal experience I came to describe as a conscious crash, a m...
Relational Safety and Repair: Moving from Dysregulation to Connection
What does it actually take to move from dysregulation to connection, especially in the moments when repair feels hardest to reach?In this episode, I expand the conversation on relational repair by exploring what happens when confl...
Repair in Real Life: What We’ve Learned About Creating Relational Safety and Reconnecting
What does repair actually look like in real life and what makes it possible for two people to reconnect, even after years of disconnection?In this episode, my husband Ben joins me for a real, unscripted conversation about what we’...
Repair in Relationships: How to Do It (and Why It Can Feel So Hard)
Is saying “I’m sorry” difficult for you or for your partner?In this episode, we look at why that can be true, even when you care deeply about your relationship and what repair actually requires.Building on the last two epis...
Rupture and Repair: Why What Happens After Conflict Matters Most
What if the most important moment in a conflict isn’t when someone gets hurt — but whether repair happens afterward?In this episode, I explore why conflict itself doesn’t determine the health of a relationship. What matters ...
“I Didn’t Mean To”: Intention, Impact, and Repair in Relationships
“I didn’t mean to” can be true — and still not be the same as “I’m sorry.” In this episode, a small moment at the breakfast table with my children opens the door to a deeper conversation about the difference between intention...
Communication for Connection Part 3: A Real-Life Imago Dialogue
What if the conflict isn’t the problem — but the speed, the stories, and the nervous system state you’re in while you’re trying to communicate?In this episode, my husband Ben joins me for our first ever real-time, recorded demonst...
Communication for Connection Part 2: How the Imago Intentional Dialogue Changed My Relationship
What if a single conversation could shift the trajectory of your relationship — not because the problem disappeared, but because you finally felt understood?In this episode, I share the personal story of the moment I used the Imag...
Communication for Connection Part 1: The Imago Intentional Dialogue Process
What if the way you’ve been trying to communicate is actually preventing the connection you long for, even when your intentions are loving?In this episode, I introduce the Imago Intentional Dialogue process, a structured communica...
Know Your Worth, Know Your Impact: How Embracing Your Relational Power Shapes Social Change
What does it really mean to know that you matter — and how does that shape the impact you have on your relationships and the world?In this episode, I explore how reclaiming a sense of worth can be a powerful source of energy, agen...
What It Means to Be Relational: Safety, Connection, and the World We Can Create Together
What does it really mean to be relational — beyond simply having relationships?In this episode, I explore what it means to value connection, belonging, and collective safety in a world that often prioritizes hierarchy, control, an...
Introducing My Husband: From Behind the Scenes to Sharing the Mic
This episode marks a meaningful milestone for the podcast — the first episode of its second year, and the first with my husband, Ben, joining me on the microphone.For the past year, he has been an essential part of this podcast be...
Becoming Someone I Can Trust: ADHD, Depression, and One Year of Nervous System Healing
What does it mean to become someone you can trust — especially when living with ADHD and depression?In this one-year anniversary episode, I reflect on how understanding my nervous system changed my relationship with effort, consis...