When Depression is in your bed
This podcast looks through both a professional and personal lens to explore the impact depression can have on individuals and on relationships. It takes a non-judgmental, destigmatizing view of mental health that encourages true, holistic healing and growth.
The host, Trish Sanders, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist. In addition to her experience in the office with couples and depression, both she and her husband have lived with depression for most of their lives. Trish shares with transparency and vulnerability, while bringing hope and light to an often heavy subject.
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Episodes
40 episodes
Finding Safety in Stillness: How Trauma Shapes the Nervous System and Rest
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Episode 39
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19:06
The Art of Slowing Down: Practical Ways to Rest and Renew
✨ Free Resource: Download my guide, 100 Practices That Can Increase Your Access to Rest & Renewal — filled with simple, doable ways to rest your body, mind, and spirit.These are small, easy...
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Episode 38
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25:58
The Ventral Narrator: A Grounding Voice for Nervous System Regulation
What if the most transformative part of a “conscious life” isn’t the serene moments—but the messy ones where you feel flooded, triggered, and ready to explode? I share a raw, real story about a birthday plan gone sideways, how a sold-out ticket...
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Episode 37
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21:39
Beyond Sleep: Expanding What Rest Means So We Can Have Daily Practices That Renew
Rest doesn’t have to mean sleeping in or finding a three-hour window for a nap when time is not something you have in excess. We reframe rest as a spectrum of accessible practices that fit into busy, real lives—rooted in the nervous system, inf...
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Episode 36
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16:30
The Politics of Rest: Power, Privilege, and the Pause
Rest represents one of our most fundamental needs, yet access to it remains profoundly unequal. Some can freely embrace rest without judgment, while others face criticism, shame, and real-world consequences for the same basic human necessity. T...
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Episode 35
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17:15
From Busy Bee to Safely Still: The Importance of Redefining Our Relationship with Rest
What happens when we slow down in a society obsessed with constant motion? After spending eight transformative days in retreat settings, I've gained powerful insights about rest that challenge everything our culture teaches us about productivit...
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Episode 34
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24:41
Mosh Pit Magic: The Brilliance of Nervous System Healing
What do mosh pits have to do with mental health? Everything, at least that's how it turned out for me. From the moment I stepped into my first mosh pit at Woodstock '94 with my dad at age 14, something profound happened—I fel...
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Episode 33
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22:39
From Gratitude to Growth: How Appreciation Can Transform Relationship
Gratitude might be the relationship superpower you're overlooking. In this heartfelt exploration, we dive into how deliberately practicing appreciation transforms relationships from the inside out.Your brain naturally fixates on problem...
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Episode 32
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21:34
From Car Conflict to Regulated Road Trips: A Nervous System Approach to Creating a Smooth Ride
Why do so many couples fight in cars? After a breathtaking but occasionally tense family road trip along the Pacific Coast Highway, I discovered something fascinating about car conflicts that completely changed my perspective.Driving re...
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Episode 31
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18:35
When Life Keeps "Lifing": Choosing Conscious Connection Over Chaos
Have you ever caught yourself thinking your relationship will never change? That moment of hopelessness is precisely what makes breakthrough moments of connection so powerful—when something shifts and you glimpse what's possible through conscio...
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Episode 30
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17:59
The Flood of Healing: A Conscious Story of Grief's Evolution
Grief has its own timeline. And sometimes, the most profound revelations about loss emerge from unexpected places—like a flooded basement.When contractors tore out the flooring and walls of what had been my late father's living space, I...
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Episode 29
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14:49
When Past Behavior Doesn't Define Your Future: A Conscious Partnership Story
What we believe about our relationships can become self-fulfilling prophecies. The notion that "past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior" might seem logical, but it ignores our capacity for growth and conscious choice.Thro...
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Episode 28
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13:05
Conscious Connected Partners In Real Life: The Mirrors That Shape Us
Have you ever had a moment of startling clarity about how the people closest to you actually experience you? That's exactly what happened when my six-year-old daughter observed my husband and me dancing in our kitchen and declared we were "in r...
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Episode 27
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12:05
Sex as Nervous System Co-Regulation: Depression in the Bedroom
Six months into the "When Depression Is In Your Bed" podcast, I realized I'd barely touched on one of the most significant aspects of depression in relationships—the impact on sexual intimacy and physical connection. The bed isn't just where we...
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Episode 26
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21:56
Staying Out of the Stories: Transform Relationship Conflicts Using this Top Skill
Discover the relationship-transforming power of "staying out of your stories" - a skill that can fundamentally change how you navigate conflicts with your partner. This episode reveals how our nervous systems create automatic narratives during ...
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Episode 25
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29:14
Beyond Blame: Creating Partnership When You Feel Constantly Disappointed
Feeling constantly disappointed by your partner—or feeling like you're always the one disappointing them? This painful dynamic shows up in nearly every relationship, creating a loop of frustration that can feel impossible to escape.As a...
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Episode 24
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25:58
Break the Cycle: Uncover Hidden Relationship Dynamics
Discover the relationship dynamic that may be silently sabotaging your connection with your partner. In this eye-opening exploration, I reveal how well-intentioned efforts to help our partners often create a painful pattern where one person fee...
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Episode 23
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22:01
Depression in the Bed, Partnership on the Path
The path to a transformed relationship rarely follows a straight line. Most couples encounter significant challenges when trying to work together toward positive change, often finding themselves caught in familiar cycles of frustration despite ...
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Season 1
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Episode 22
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32:49
Conscious Partnership: Taking Steps Together Towards the Relationship You Desire and Deserve
What if the secret to relationship transformation isn't trying harder alone, but working smartly together? That's the revolutionary concept at the heart of this episode, where I challenge the common myth that one person can (or should) do all t...
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Episode 21
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24:40
The Partnership Problem: When Your Relationship Feels Like a One-Person Job
Feeling like you're carrying the entire weight of your relationship while your partner seems to be coasting? You're not alone—and the solution might surprise you.Most of us have been fed a harmful myth that if we just work hard enough o...
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Episode 20
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18:39
Step Towards Hope and Safety: Creating Your Path Out of Depression
Depression can trap us in an exhausting cycle of waiting for better days that rarely last. We feel stuck, disconnected, and increasingly hopeless as we search for the magical formula that will finally break us free. But what if moving forward d...
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Season 1
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Episode 19
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25:18
Step Towards Your Senses, Movement, Rest & Play: Creating Your Path Out of Depression
Are you caught up just going through the motions each day? Stuck in a cycle that doesn't feel terrible but certainly doesn't feel good either? That familiar static place can become surprisingly comfortable, even as it drains our sense of aliven...
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Episode 18
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23:11
Step Towards Connection and Breath: Creating Your Path Out of Depression
Feeling stuck in a numbed-out state, just going through the motions day after day? Longing for something more but unsure how to find your way forward? This deeply compassionate exploration offers concrete, accessible steps that can help you to ...
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Episode 17
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23:21
Take a Step: How to Work With the Biology of Depression and Disconnection to Create Real Change
Depression creates a profound disconnect in relationships that can feel impossible to bridge. The path from where you are to where you want to be might seem unclear or overwhelming—but what if crossing that distance requires just one step at a ...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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27:17
When Helping Your Partner Hurts You Both: A Nervous System Approach to Support
Have you ever noticed that your attempts to help your partner through depression, work stress, or life challenges often backfire? There's a reason your well-intentioned support sometimes lands as criticism or pressure—and it has everything to d...
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Episode 15
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32:38