When Depression is in your bed
This podcast looks through both a professional and personal lens to explore the impact depression can have on individuals and on relationships. It takes a non-judgmental, destigmatizing view of mental health that encourages true, holistic healing and growth.
The host, Trish Sanders, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist. In addition to her experience in the office with couples and depression, both she and her husband have lived with depression for most of their lives. Trish shares with transparency and vulnerability, while bringing hope and light to an often heavy subject.
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Episodes
33 episodes
From Gratitude to Growth: How Appreciation Can Transform Relationship
Gratitude might be the relationship superpower you're overlooking. In this heartfelt exploration, we dive into how deliberately practicing appreciation transforms relationships from the inside out.Your brain naturally fixates on problem...
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Episode 32
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21:34
From Car Conflict to Regulated Road Trips: A Nervous System Approach to Creating a Smooth Ride
Why do so many couples fight in cars? After a breathtaking but occasionally tense family road trip along the Pacific Coast Highway, I discovered something fascinating about car conflicts that completely changed my perspective.Driving re...
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Episode 31
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18:35
When Life Keeps "Lifing": Choosing Conscious Connection Over Chaos
Have you ever caught yourself thinking your relationship will never change? That moment of hopelessness is precisely what makes breakthrough moments of connection so powerful—when something shifts and you glimpse what's possible through conscio...
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Episode 30
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17:59
The Flood of Healing: A Conscious Story of Grief's Evolution
Grief has its own timeline. And sometimes, the most profound revelations about loss emerge from unexpected places—like a flooded basement.When contractors tore out the flooring and walls of what had been my late father's living space, I...
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Episode 29
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14:49
When Past Behavior Doesn't Define Your Future: A Conscious Partnership Story
What we believe about our relationships can become self-fulfilling prophecies. The notion that "past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior" might seem logical, but it ignores our capacity for growth and conscious choice.Thro...
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Episode 28
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13:05
Conscious Connected Partners In Real Life: The Mirrors That Shape Us
Have you ever had a moment of startling clarity about how the people closest to you actually experience you? That's exactly what happened when my six-year-old daughter observed my husband and me dancing in our kitchen and declared we were "in r...
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Episode 27
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12:05
Sex as Nervous System Co-Regulation: Depression in the Bedroom
Six months into the "When Depression Is In Your Bed" podcast, I realized I'd barely touched on one of the most significant aspects of depression in relationships—the impact on sexual intimacy and physical connection. The bed isn't just where we...
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Episode 26
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21:56
Staying Out of the Stories: Transform Relationship Conflicts Using this Top Skill
Discover the relationship-transforming power of "staying out of your stories" - a skill that can fundamentally change how you navigate conflicts with your partner. This episode reveals how our nervous systems create automatic narratives during ...
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Episode 25
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29:14
Beyond Blame: Creating Partnership When You Feel Constantly Disappointed
Feeling constantly disappointed by your partner—or feeling like you're always the one disappointing them? This painful dynamic shows up in nearly every relationship, creating a loop of frustration that can feel impossible to escape.As a...
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Episode 24
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25:58
Break the Cycle: Uncover Hidden Relationship Dynamics
Discover the relationship dynamic that may be silently sabotaging your connection with your partner. In this eye-opening exploration, I reveal how well-intentioned efforts to help our partners often create a painful pattern where one person fee...
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Episode 23
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22:01
Depression in the Bed, Partnership on the Path
The path to a transformed relationship rarely follows a straight line. Most couples encounter significant challenges when trying to work together toward positive change, often finding themselves caught in familiar cycles of frustration despite ...
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Episode 22
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32:49
Conscious Partnership: Taking Steps Together Towards the Relationship You Desire and Deserve
What if the secret to relationship transformation isn't trying harder alone, but working smartly together? That's the revolutionary concept at the heart of this episode, where I challenge the common myth that one person can (or should) do all t...
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Episode 21
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24:40
The Partnership Problem: When Your Relationship Feels Like a One-Person Job
Feeling like you're carrying the entire weight of your relationship while your partner seems to be coasting? You're not alone—and the solution might surprise you.Most of us have been fed a harmful myth that if we just work hard enough o...
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Episode 20
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18:39
Step Towards Hope and Safety: Creating Your Path Out of Depression
Depression can trap us in an exhausting cycle of waiting for better days that rarely last. We feel stuck, disconnected, and increasingly hopeless as we search for the magical formula that will finally break us free. But what if moving forward d...
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Episode 19
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25:18
Step Towards Your Senses, Movement, Rest & Play: Creating Your Path Out of Depression
Are you caught up just going through the motions each day? Stuck in a cycle that doesn't feel terrible but certainly doesn't feel good either? That familiar static place can become surprisingly comfortable, even as it drains our sense of aliven...
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Episode 18
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23:11
Step Towards Connection and Breath: Creating Your Path Out of Depression
Feeling stuck in a numbed-out state, just going through the motions day after day? Longing for something more but unsure how to find your way forward? This deeply compassionate exploration offers concrete, accessible steps that can help you to ...
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Season 1
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Episode 17
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23:21
Take a Step: How to Work With the Biology of Depression and Disconnection to Create Real Change
Depression creates a profound disconnect in relationships that can feel impossible to bridge. The path from where you are to where you want to be might seem unclear or overwhelming—but what if crossing that distance requires just one step at a ...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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27:17
When Helping Your Partner Hurts You Both: A Nervous System Approach to Support
Have you ever noticed that your attempts to help your partner through depression, work stress, or life challenges often backfire? There's a reason your well-intentioned support sometimes lands as criticism or pressure—and it has everything to d...
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Episode 15
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32:38
Tuning Into Your Nervous System: Relationship Guidance Through Body Wisdom
Faced with the crucial question of whether to stay in or leave a relationship? Your body holds wisdom your mind can't access. This episode completes a seven-part journey through conscious relationship decision-making with arguably the most powe...
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Episode 14
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26:43
Can You Love Yourself Deeply and Still Stay? The Question That Could Change Everything
What happens when your relationship requires so much of you that there's nothing left for yourself? For two decades of my marriage, I poured everything into caring for my depressed partner, losing myself in the process. But a profound shift occ...
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Episode 13
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26:03
Your Problems Aren't The Problem: Why Understanding Your Relationship's Strengths Are Key to Change
Are you caught in relationship limbo, seeing all the problems but unsure if you really want to leave? The very focus on what's wrong might be precisely what's keeping you stuck. When we're in pain, we develop what I call "stubbed t...
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Episode 12
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24:18
Familiar Love vs. Conscious Love: How the Unconscious Can Guide Our Relationship Choices
Why do we stay in relationships that don't fulfill us? What invisible forces bind us to partners even when our conscious mind desires change? The answer lies beneath the surface of awareness, in the powerful realm of unconscious attachment patt...
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Episode 11
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24:12
Navigating the Hard Choice: Clearing the Path to the Next Step in Your Relationship Decision
Have you been thinking about ending your relationship but something keeps holding you back? You're not alone. This raw and thoughtful exploration unpacks the invisible barriers that keep us stuck in relationships we're contemplating leaving.
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Episode 10
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23:02
Holding Hope: When Your Relationship Feels Broken
What if those recurring thoughts about leaving your relationship aren't actually telling you to leave, but instead signaling something deeper happening in your nervous system?In this vulnerable exploration of relationship indecision, I ...
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Episode 9
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27:42
Should I Stay or Should I Go? 7 Questions for Making a Conscious Decision About Break-Up, Separation or Divorce
Caught in the mental tug-of-war between staying in your relationship or finally walking away? When depression complicates an already difficult decision, finding clarity can feel impossible. Drawing from both professional expertise as an Imago R...
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Episode 8
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39:07