Figuring It Out at 40 is for anyone who’s ever looked around and thought, “Hang on - wasn’t life meant to look different by now?”

I’m Gem - 41, single, no kids, never been married (not even close), and learning to carve out my own path. After leaving a job that was burning me out, I’ve since been creating a different life I never expected. I've started working online, want to move to Ibiza, solo travel and create a future that feels aligned - even if it doesn’t look anywhere near how I thought growing up. 

I’ll share the highs, the lows, the self-doubt, the messy bits and the breakthroughs - all the things that don’t usually get celebrated but deserve to be. It’s about laughing at the awkward bits, grieving the hard bits, and reminding yourself you’re not on your own. 

So, whether you’re 30s, 40s or beyond, single, divorced, child-free, or simply rethinking the path you’re on - you’ll find honesty, humour, and high vibes here. Think of this as a reminder that your story isn’t on the wrong track - it’s just a different one.