Figuring it out at 40: Life beyond the timeline
Figuring It Out at 40 is for anyone who’s ever looked around and thought, “Hang on - wasn’t life meant to look different by now?”
I’m Gem - 41, single, no kids, never been married (not even close), and learning to carve out my own path. After leaving a job that was burning me out, I’ve since been creating a different life I never expected. I've started working online, want to move to Ibiza, solo travel and create a future that feels aligned - even if it doesn’t look anywhere near how I thought growing up.
I’ll share the highs, the lows, the self-doubt, the messy bits and the breakthroughs - all the things that don’t usually get celebrated but deserve to be. It’s about laughing at the awkward bits, grieving the hard bits, and reminding yourself you’re not on your own.
So, whether you’re 30s, 40s or beyond, single, divorced, child-free, or simply rethinking the path you’re on - you’ll find honesty, humour, and high vibes here. Think of this as a reminder that your story isn’t on the wrong track - it’s just a different one.
Episodes
19 episodes
Two Years In. The Real Story
Two years ago I made some of the biggest decisions of my life. I left my job, sold my house, and started building something from scratch - with no guarantee it would work and no perfectly lined up plan.This episode is the honest version ...
If you feel behind in life, listen to this
Those quiet moments… walking through the door, Sundays, sitting in your own head.If you’ve ever felt behind in life and like everyone else is moving forward and you’re not — this one’s for you.Single, over 30 or 40, and life hasn’...
My 5 go-to’s when I feel off
This week I’m sharing my 5 go-to’s when I’m feeling off - the simple things I always come back to that help me reset, clear my head and feel a bit more grounded.If you’ve been a bit in your head lately… this one’s for you.
I did everything right… so why didn’t it feel right?
I did everything “right”… but my life still didn’t feel right.In this episode, I talk about that in-between space - where life looks fine on the outside, but something feels off underneath.From the pressure of not being where I th...
Are you really single… or just distracted?
In this episode, I’m talking about something that’s been on my mind a lot this week - what it actually means to be single.Because I don’t think most people are.Not in a relationship? Yes.But fully single… I’m not so sure.<...
Finding Purpose (with or without children)
Not having children doesn’t mean your life has no purpose… but it can feel like that sometimes.And I also know there are people listening who do have kids and still feel like something’s missing.In this episode, I’m talki...
Changing as you get older
In this episode, I talk about changing as you get older. The challenges, outgrowing things and the incredible growth you experience too. If you're interested in my private 1:1 sessions, check out my Unfolding sessions: <...
It's expensive being single!
In this episode I talk about how expensive it is being the single one! Don't get me wrong, some will argue the peace is priceless, but being single comes at a higher cost. I'd love to know your thoughts on this episode -...
41, dating & some big news!
I'm back!! In this episode I bring you up to speed on where I've been, my plans for this year (including dating!) and I have some big news to share with you!
Reflections, 40+1 & Trusting My Gut
Closing out my 40th year with some honest reflections on 2025 - not how I imagined it, but full of experiences I’m very grateful for.
Mindset Non-Negotiables for This Time of Year
This week, I’m talking about the little things that keep me steady when everything around me feels loud, busy, or a bit overwhelming. As we head into the festive season where pressure ramps up - plans, expectations, emotions, all of it - I’m le...
When You’ve Outgrown Your Life but Don’t Know What’s Next
This week I’m talking about the stage no one prepares you for - the point where you’ve outgrown your life, your environment, and even old versions of yourself… but you’ve no idea what the next step actually looks like.I’m sharing my real...
Go Grab Life ⚡️
This week’s episode is a gentle reflection on life, perspective and the things that really matter.After losing a close friend recently, I wanted to share some thoughts, memories and the reminder she gave me about living in a way that act...
When It’s All on You
An honest chat about the weight we carry when it’s all on us - the real, the funny and the bits we don’t talk about enough.
Write Your Own Story: On Owning Your Life & Living Authentically
A reflective one.This one's about writing your own story, finding meaning in the memories, and holding onto what really matters - even when life doesn’t look how you thought it would.
The Honest Episode: Confusion, Comparison and the Messy Middle
This week’s episode isn’t polished or planned - it’s honest. I’m talking about the messy middle, where confusion, fear, and exhaustion all meet. If you’ve ever felt lost or unsure of your next move, this one’s for you.
Growth, Confidence and Doing Life Solo
This episode is an honest reflection on being single - not as a setback, but as a chance to grow! Proof that life doesn’t stop just because you’re doing it solo 💛
The Quiet Grief of a Life That Looks Different
This episode is all about life off the expected timeline. I open up about what it really feels like to be single at 40, to not have children, and to navigate the quiet grief of a life that doesn’t look the way you once imagined.
Welcome to Figuring it out at 40: Life beyond the timeline
Welcome to the very first episode of Figuring It Out at 40: Life Beyond the Timeline.I’m Gem, and in this pilot I’m sharing my story - the raw version. No filters, no polished timeline. Just the reality of being 40, single, never ...
