Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast
Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!
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Episodes
118 episodes
Unteachable Lessons From Chris Williams | S4 EP120
You already know the advice. You’ve heard it from parents, friends, books, and a thousand quotes. So why does it still take a burned hand to stop touching the hot stove? We dig into “unteachable lessons” the truths that make perfect sense on pa...
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Season 4
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Episode 28
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32:58
Chalant Dating, Explained | S4 EP119
Tired of guessing games and six-hour reply gaps? We’re tossing nonchalant dating in the bin and making a passionate case for chalant dating: visible effort, real plans, and vulnerability that actually moves relationships forward. Julius gets ca...
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Season 4
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Episode 27
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22:48
Understanding OCEAN: The Only Personality Model Backed By Science | S4 EP118
Ever wonder why some quizzes feel fun but never help you change? We go straight to the Big Five—Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism—and show how a scientific model can actually guide daily choices. No myste...
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Season 4
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Episode 26
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29:00
You Said “Kind,” Your Brain Said “Hot” | Stated vs Revealed Preferences | S4 EP117
Ever notice how your carefully crafted “ideal partner” list evaporates the second someone magnetic walks into the room? We dive into the gap between what we say we want—kindness, intelligence, emotional steadiness—and what our choices reveal wh...
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Season 4
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Episode 25
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22:45
From Small Talk To Consent: Building Better Conversations In Kink And Beyond | S4 EP116
What if your next conversation actually moved something—clarity, trust, desire—instead of just filling the air? We take a practical, unflinching look at how to communicate with intention, especially where authority exchange, kink dynamics, and ...
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Season 4
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Episode 24
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26:54
White Claw, Small Town Drama, And Big Poly Feelings | Reddit Q&A | S4 EP115
Ever feel pressured to reshape your heart to fit someone else’s relationship model? We dive straight into the mess and the magic of modern non-monogamy with a frank look at three hot Reddit topics: saying no to open relationships, decoding what...
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Season 4
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Episode 23
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22:59
Why “Date Till You Hate” Wastes Your Life | S4 EP114
Dating shouldn’t require stockpiling resentment just to make leaving feel easy. We take apart the “date till you hate” trend and talk honestly about why slow fading is just avoidance with better lighting. From attachment patterns to the fear of...
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Season 4
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Episode 22
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23:29
Stop Calling It Talent When It’s Really Practice You’re Avoiding | S4 EP113
Forget the superhero origin story. We’re getting real about talent versus skill—why one feels magical and the other does the heavy lifting—and how to stop using “natural ability” as a reason to avoid doing the work. Julius shares hard-earned le...
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Season 4
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Episode 21
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23:16
How A Kinky Podcaster Turned Networking Nerves Into Momentum | S4 EP112
Ever leave a convention both fired up and a little overwhelmed? That’s where we start: freezing Florida nights, a SeaWorld-adjacent hotel, and a whirlwind schedule that turned volunteering, panels, and hallway chats into a crash course on what ...
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Season 4
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Episode 20
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23:48
Congrats, You Didn’t Have Sex: Let’s Talk Gooning | Kink Trends 2025 | S4 EP111
The rankings are in, and the story they tell is wild: gooning has knocked chastity off the top spot, wrestling and tickling are holding steady, and ball busting and giganticism show no signs of fading. We dig into why extended arousal is resona...
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Season 4
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Episode 19
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22:57
Ranking The World’s Most-Watched Porn Categories In 2025 | S4 EP110
New year, fresh data, and zero shame—we kick off 2026 by digging into the most-watched porn categories of 2025 and what they reveal about culture, power, and pleasure. From hentai’s fascinating origin story in censorship to the rise of ethical ...
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Season 4
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Episode 18
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27:43
Why Dating As A Queer Switch Breaks When We Don’t Ask Clear Questions | S4 EP109
Ever sit across from someone you’re wildly attracted to and realize you’re both waiting for the other to start? That’s the quiet chaos of dating as a queer switch—where presentation invites assumptions, desire doesn’t follow a clock, and the ho...
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Season 4
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Episode 17
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43:31
From Newbie Nerves To Kinky Belonging: How Games, Ambassadors, And Consent Culture Lower The Barrier To Entry | S4 EP108
Ever parked outside a munch, heart racing, and turned the car around? We’ve been there, and we built a roadmap for getting past that moment—from the first hello to feeling like you truly belong. With Shannon Elliott joining in person, we trade ...
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Season 4
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Episode 16
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45:05
Belonging Is A Practice, Not A Door Policy | S4 EP107
Ever walked into a new community and felt the room go quiet? Julius takes a match to clique culture and lights a clearer path to belonging, blending real talk, humor, and a little tequila to explain why groups can feel icy and how to melt the w...
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Season 4
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Episode 15
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26:17
From Burnout To Momentum: Libido As Life Energy | S4 EP106
Ready to trade hesitation for momentum? Julius takes us to the edge of comfort and names the leap: escape velocity, the instant you decide to outgrow fear and become more. We reframe libido through a Jungian lens as life energy—motivation that ...
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Season 4
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Episode 14
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26:23
From Anxiety To Aftercare: Navigating Scene Headspace In Kink And BDSM | S4 EP105
We dig into headspace before, during, and after scenes—how nerves shift into focus, how communication sets the tone, and how aftercare steadies the landing. Along the way we share real talk on public vs private play, music, flow state, consent,...
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Season 4
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Episode 13
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18:47
Boundaries, Red Flags, And Growth with Author, Shannon Elliot | S4 EP104
We sit at the fire with Shannon Elliott to unpack losing yourself in a relationship, finding your values again, and building boundaries that hold. From red flags to safe words to dating parents while child-free, we trade fixes for clarity and n...
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Season 4
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Episode 12
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44:13
From Pegging To Power Dynamics: What Happens When Couples Go Public With Their Kinks | S4 EP103
What happens when couples reveal their kinks for the first time on camera? We pull up to the fire and break down the viral Truth or Drink format—where women confess desires like pegging, food play, and medical roleplay—to show how real-world co...
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Season 4
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Episode 11
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32:57
I’m Here To Cuddle, Not Diagnose | S4 EP102
We explore how to stop therapizing friends and partners, set clean boundaries, and keep consent front and center when the urge to fix takes over. We share scripts, signs of receptivity, and how to find kink-aware, non-monogamy-competent support...
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Season 4
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Episode 11
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31:39
From Small Talk to Real Connection: Communication Skills for Kink, Non-Monogamy, and Everyday Life | S4 EP101
We explore how “vocal image” transforms consent talks, small talk, and relationship check‑ins, especially in kink and non‑monogamy. We share practical tools—melody, pace, volume, pauses, gestures—and reflect on shedding labels like “shy” or “in...
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Season 4
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Episode 10
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28:53
We hit 100 episodes, and the biggest lesson is simpler than you think... | S4 EP100
We celebrate 100 episodes with gratitude, humor, and a clear message: just show up. From podcasting to conventions, improv, and ace-spectrum allyship, we share how tiny steps built a community around honest kink talk.• why the campfire ...
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Season 4
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Episode 9
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31:31
“Are we really STILL saying ethical non‑monogamy?”—Julius has thoughts | S4 EP 99
We dig into how communication, boundaries, and honesty make non‑monogamy work, and why adding “ethical” to the label misses the point. Julius shares practical skills for active listening, handling jealousy, scheduling across partners, and repai...
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Season 4
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Episode 8
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31:21
From Crown to Kilt: Adventures of a Volunteer Supervisor at SmutLovers Con 2025 | S4 EP98
Julius shares his third year volunteering at Smut Lovers Convention 2025 while reflecting on the challenges and joys of being an introvert in social spaces. • Teaching an improv panel for writers to help them develop characters and...
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Season 4
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Episode 7
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33:00
The Adult Child: When Growing Up Gets Stuck | S4 EP97
We dive deep into the fascinating concept of Puer Aeternus or "eternal youth" – a psychological pattern where adults remain stuck in adolescent mindsets well into adulthood. This episode unpacks how this manifests in fear of commitment, inabili...
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Season 4
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Episode 6
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35:20
Anime, Kink, and Finding Your Community: My Weekend at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025 | S4 EP96
Julius shares his experience performing and teaching at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025, an adult anime convention combining anime fandom with alternative lifestyle education in a consent-focused environment.• Explaining what "ecchi" is – the m...
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Season 4
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Episode 5
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35:42