Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast
Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!
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Episodes
124 episodes
S3xless Existence Video Review | S5 EP126
Porn gets blamed for everything, but the real story is harder and more important. I’m reviewing a Modern Wisdom podcast conversation with Dr. Debra Soh and pausing on the parts that actually affect real relationships: how porn can shape sexual ...
Stress Sweat, Grocery Stores, And Other Villains | S5 EP125
Stress doesn’t always look like a panic attack. Sometimes it looks like forgetting what you were saying mid-sentence, going blank at the checkout line, or showing up to a hangout with friends and realizing you can’t relax no matter how safe the...
A Loving Relationship Works When You Practice These Six Ingredients | S5 EP124
Love can feel electric and still fall apart. The difference is usually not a big dramatic moment, it’s the slow loss of an ingredient you stopped protecting. We’re starting Season 5 with a practical framework inspired by Dr. Saren Nazarzade’s w...
Karmic To Catalyst: A Clear Guide To Partner Types | S4 EP123
Chemistry can feel like destiny right up until it starts costing you sleep, self-respect, and sanity. I’m Julius Marques, and by the campfire I’m breaking down six partner types that show up everywhere in dating, kink, queer community, and non-...
What If Your “Type” Is A Trauma Loop | Relationship Types walk-through | S4 EP122
Chemistry can feel like destiny right up until it starts wrecking your sleep, your self-trust, and your boundaries. So I’m sitting down by the Kinky Campfire to break a big idea into something you can actually use: relationship types, and how t...
"This Is Water" by David Foster Wallace | S4 EP121
The most life changing truths are usually the ones hiding in plain sight, like water to a fish. We pick up David Foster Wallace’s “This Is Water” and use it to name the default setting so many of us live inside: autopilot thinking, reflexive se...
Unteachable Lessons From Chris Williams | S4 EP120
You already know the advice. You’ve heard it from parents, friends, books, and a thousand quotes. So why does it still take a burned hand to stop touching the hot stove? We dig into “unteachable lessons” the truths that make perfect sense on pa...
Chalant Dating, Explained | S4 EP119
Tired of guessing games and six-hour reply gaps? We’re tossing nonchalant dating in the bin and making a passionate case for chalant dating: visible effort, real plans, and vulnerability that actually moves relationships forward. Julius gets ca...
Understanding OCEAN: The Only Personality Model Backed By Science | S4 EP118
Ever wonder why some quizzes feel fun but never help you change? We go straight to the Big Five—Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism—and show how a scientific model can actually guide daily choices. No myste...
You Said “Kind,” Your Brain Said “Hot” | Stated vs Revealed Preferences | S4 EP117
Ever notice how your carefully crafted “ideal partner” list evaporates the second someone magnetic walks into the room? We dive into the gap between what we say we want—kindness, intelligence, emotional steadiness—and what our choices reveal wh...
From Small Talk To Consent: Building Better Conversations In Kink And Beyond | S4 EP116
What if your next conversation actually moved something—clarity, trust, desire—instead of just filling the air? We take a practical, unflinching look at how to communicate with intention, especially where authority exchange, kink dynamics, and ...
White Claw, Small Town Drama, And Big Poly Feelings | Reddit Q&A | S4 EP115
Ever feel pressured to reshape your heart to fit someone else’s relationship model? We dive straight into the mess and the magic of modern non-monogamy with a frank look at three hot Reddit topics: saying no to open relationships, decoding what...
Why “Date Till You Hate” Wastes Your Life | S4 EP114
Dating shouldn’t require stockpiling resentment just to make leaving feel easy. We take apart the “date till you hate” trend and talk honestly about why slow fading is just avoidance with better lighting. From attachment patterns to the fear of...
Stop Calling It Talent When It’s Really Practice You’re Avoiding | S4 EP113
Forget the superhero origin story. We’re getting real about talent versus skill—why one feels magical and the other does the heavy lifting—and how to stop using “natural ability” as a reason to avoid doing the work. Julius shares hard-earned le...
How A Kinky Podcaster Turned Networking Nerves Into Momentum | S4 EP112
Ever leave a convention both fired up and a little overwhelmed? That’s where we start: freezing Florida nights, a SeaWorld-adjacent hotel, and a whirlwind schedule that turned volunteering, panels, and hallway chats into a crash course on what ...
Congrats, You Didn’t Have Sex: Let’s Talk Gooning | Kink Trends 2025 | S4 EP111
The rankings are in, and the story they tell is wild: gooning has knocked chastity off the top spot, wrestling and tickling are holding steady, and ball busting and giganticism show no signs of fading. We dig into why extended arousal is resona...
Ranking The World’s Most-Watched Porn Categories In 2025 | S4 EP110
New year, fresh data, and zero shame—we kick off 2026 by digging into the most-watched porn categories of 2025 and what they reveal about culture, power, and pleasure. From hentai’s fascinating origin story in censorship to the rise of ethical ...
Why Dating As A Queer Switch Breaks When We Don’t Ask Clear Questions | S4 EP109
Ever sit across from someone you’re wildly attracted to and realize you’re both waiting for the other to start? That’s the quiet chaos of dating as a queer switch—where presentation invites assumptions, desire doesn’t follow a clock, and the ho...
From Newbie Nerves To Kinky Belonging: How Games, Ambassadors, And Consent Culture Lower The Barrier To Entry | S4 EP108
Ever parked outside a munch, heart racing, and turned the car around? We’ve been there, and we built a roadmap for getting past that moment—from the first hello to feeling like you truly belong. With Shannon Elliott joining in person, we trade ...
Belonging Is A Practice, Not A Door Policy | S4 EP107
Ever walked into a new community and felt the room go quiet? Julius takes a match to clique culture and lights a clearer path to belonging, blending real talk, humor, and a little tequila to explain why groups can feel icy and how to melt the w...
From Burnout To Momentum: Libido As Life Energy | S4 EP106
Ready to trade hesitation for momentum? Julius takes us to the edge of comfort and names the leap: escape velocity, the instant you decide to outgrow fear and become more. We reframe libido through a Jungian lens as life energy—motivation that ...
From Anxiety To Aftercare: Navigating Scene Headspace In Kink And BDSM | S4 EP105
We dig into headspace before, during, and after scenes—how nerves shift into focus, how communication sets the tone, and how aftercare steadies the landing. Along the way we share real talk on public vs private play, music, flow state, consent,...
Boundaries, Red Flags, And Growth with Author, Shannon Elliot | S4 EP104
We sit at the fire with Shannon Elliott to unpack losing yourself in a relationship, finding your values again, and building boundaries that hold. From red flags to safe words to dating parents while child-free, we trade fixes for clarity and n...
From Pegging To Power Dynamics: What Happens When Couples Go Public With Their Kinks | S4 EP103
What happens when couples reveal their kinks for the first time on camera? We pull up to the fire and break down the viral Truth or Drink format—where women confess desires like pegging, food play, and medical roleplay—to show how real-world co...
I’m Here To Cuddle, Not Diagnose | S4 EP102
We explore how to stop therapizing friends and partners, set clean boundaries, and keep consent front and center when the urge to fix takes over. We share scripts, signs of receptivity, and how to find kink-aware, non-monogamy-competent support...