STFUAL - From Boy to Man to Better Husband
I’m on a mission to become an expert in recognising and eradicating boy-like behaviour in adult men. These are the conversations helping me get there—honest, grounded, and human. Nothing fake. No gurus. No BS. Just the real work of growing up and becoming the man you were meant to be.
Episodes
42 episodes
What Your Wife Says VS. What She Actually Needs ft. Therapist Vanessa Spinarksy | EP 41
Why does your wife say one thing but clearly mean something deeper, and why does defending yourself only make it worse?Alessandro sits down with therapist Vanessa Spinarsky to unpack one of the most frustrating dynamics in modern ...
These Men Almost Lost Their Marriages (Here's What Changed) | EP 41
What if your marriage isn't broken and you just never learned what it actually takes?Alessandro Frosali shares the five things men actually need to become better husbands, and he lets the men who've done the work speak for themsel...
Relationship REELS: Is Her Saving Your Marriage | EP 40
What if the reel your wife just sent you is NOT an attack, but actually the thing that saves your marriage?Most men tense up the second a relationship reel pops up on their phone. The defensiveness kicks in fast. You tell yourself...
Your Wife’s NOT Crazy [Why She Changes Overnight] | ft. Harry Kloser-Pitcher | EP 39
Do you feel like you're losing your marriage and you can't even explain why?Her biology is running the show and you've been reacting to it blind.Host Alessandro Frosali sits down with Harry Kloser-Pitcher, founder of She's ...
6 Lies Keeping Husbands Passive Until She Checks Out | EP 38r | EP 38
What if the thing you’re most proud of is actually sabotaging your marriage?Most men think passivity is just part of their personality, that they're easygoing, that they're keeping the peace, that they're being the bigger person.&...
He Lost His Wife, His Identity and Almost Himself - Widower & Author Danny Lesslie | EP 37
What happens to a man’s identity when the person he built his life around is gone?Host Alessandro sits down with Danny Lesslie, a father and author who watched his wife suffer for years after a 2020 diagnosis, then had to wake up ...
Why Men Resist Changing Until She's Already Got One Foot Out the Door with Jasper Brown, Men's Coach | EP 36
What if the real you, the one you have been hiding, is exactly the man she has been waiting for?Alessandro sits down with Jasper Brown, a men's coach who lost the woman he loved, spent six years in a tantra/yoga school he later de...
Become The Man Your Dad Never Taught You to Be: Fatherhood, Fear and Masculine Frame with Clinton Hall, Founder of Almar Life | EP 35
What does your father have to do with why you shut down, blow up, or go passive in your marriage?Alessandro sits down with Clinton Hall, founder of Almar Life and men's coach who works with high performers to help them find their ...
Your Wife's 8 Unmet Needs You're Ignoring Behind Every Fight | EP 34
What if every argument you've ever had with your wife was actually about something completely different than what you were arguing about?Alessandro sits down solo to unpack the eight major unmet needs that fuel almost every fight ...
Rites of Passage: Your Marriage Could Suffer Because of This Missing Initiation | EP 33
Why do other men seem to have their shit together while you're still figuring it out?You just woke up one day with bills, a wife, maybe kids, and no idea how you got here. Western culture killed the one thing that would have given...
The Year That Defined My Life: 10 Uncomfortable Truths About Becoming a Better Man and Husband | EP 32
What if the year that breaks you open is actually the year that makes you whole?Alessandro Frosali steps out from behind the coach role and speaks plainly about the year that reshaped him as a man, husband, and leader. He breaks d...
How the Modern Man Cave Creates Distraction That’s Eroding Your Marriage with Nate Johansen, Men's Coach | EP 31
Are you facing yourself when you are alone or just finding better distractions?Alessandro is joined by men's coach Nate Johansen to call out the addiction most men don't know they have. The cave used to be where men went to proces...
Marriage Leadership Dies When You're Numbing Through Constant Distraction with Nic Warner, Men's Coach | EP 30
What if every complaint you have about your wife is actually pointing to your own lack of leadership? Alessandro sits down with Nic Warner, a men's coach who learned radical accountability the hard way through his ex-wife's a...
Mental Load Explained: What Partnership Actually Means | EP 29
You've heard her say it a hundred times: "I need help with the mental load." But what the hell does that even mean? Alessandro breaks down the three layers every task actually has and why most men only see one of them. This i...
Why Your Wife Is Done Managing You, Take Ownership Before She Walks Out - Mental Load Coach Zach Watson | EP 28
Ever wonder why your wife gets pissed when you ask "What can I do to help?"Today Alessandro sits with Zach Watson, mental load coach to translate what your wife has been trying to tell you for years. He unpacks the three levels of...
3 Reasons Why MEN Have to Change First in Marriage and She Doesn't | EP 27
Why should you be the one to change when she's got issues too?You're standing in a relationship standoff. She's got her guns up (criticism, contempt), you've got yours (defensiveness, stonewalling). Both of you are waiting for the...
How Men Are Conditioned to Be Unemotional and Why Fatherhood Breaks You Open with Relationship Coach, Jay Tibbs | EP 26
What if being emotionally unavailable in your marriage isn't a character flaw but a survival pattern you learned as a boy?I sit down with Jay Tibbs, a relationship coach who knows what it's like to be emotionally shut down and wh...
Men's Inability to Sit With Discomfort Is Destroying More Than You Know with Silent Retreat Facilitator Hamid Ebadi | EP 25
What would you actually have to face if you couldn't reach for your phone for the next eight days?Every time something gets uncomfortable, a tense moment with your wife, an emotion you don't want to feel, or just the weight of you...
4 Boy Behaviors That Cost Husbands Their Wife’s Respect (and How to Get It Back) | EP 24
Did your wife's tone this morning feel like a punch to the gut? What if the problem isn't her, but the boy patterns you're still running?Alessandro breaks down the four boy behaviors that silently wreck marriages and keep men stuc...
The "Bad Man" You're Afraid to Be Is the Man She Actually Wants with Mikah Jones, Relationship Coach | EP 23
What if trying so hard to be a "good man" is actually turning you into the worst version of yourself?Alessandro sits down with wellness coach Mikah Jones to unpack a pattern wrecking modern men: the fear of being perceived as a "b...
The Missing Skill: Relationship Intelligence w/ Railey Molinario
In this episode, she breaks down the concept of relationship intelligence: the emotional skills most of us were never taught.We talk childhood patterns, emotional manipulation vs leadership, and why love alone won’t hold a relatio...
What It Takes to Win Olympic Gold and Lead a Family w/ Dr. Scott Brennan
Dr. Scott Brennan is an Olympic gold medallist and former emergency doctor who became a stay-at-home dad. In this conversation, we talk about:The male mentor who changed his lifeThe vow he made at his coach’s coffin
Real men FEEL w/ Andy Grant
Andy Grant, host of the popular men's health podcast "Real Men Feel" joins me on STFUAL to talk about his story, feelings and energy.Check out Andy's website here: https://theandygrant.com/
20 Innocent Habits That Are Quietly Destroying Your Masculinity
This episode is the why behind the viral post that hit 3.5 million views in 48 hours.I break down all 20 habits—line by line—with the deeper truths behind each one. These aren't just catchy phrases. They're blind spots that quie...
How Psychedelics Can Heal Men's Mental Health w/ Xavier Rousset
What happens when being smart isn’t enough?In this episode, I sit down with Roy Wang, a man who could always figure things out intellectually but struggled when it came to emotional connection and conflict.We talk about what it reall...
