STFUAL - From Boy to Man to Better Husband
I’m on a mission to become an expert in recognising and eradicating boy-like behaviour in adult men. These are the conversations helping me get there—honest, grounded, and human. Nothing fake. No gurus. No BS. Just the real work of growing up and becoming the man you were meant to be.
Episodes
26 episodes
How Men Are Conditioned to Be Unemotional and Why Fatherhood Breaks You Open with Relationship Coach, Jay Tibbs | EP 26
What if being emotionally unavailable in your marriage isn't a character flaw but a survival pattern you learned as a boy?I sit down with Jay Tibbs, a relationship coach who knows what it's like to be emotionally shut down and wh...
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Season 2
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Episode 26
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48:24
Men's Inability to Sit With Discomfort Is Destroying More Than You Know with Silent Retreat Facilitator Hamid Ebadi | EP 25
What would you actually have to face if you couldn't reach for your phone for the next eight days?Every time something gets uncomfortable, a tense moment with your wife, an emotion you don't want to feel, or just the weight of you...
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Season 2
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Episode 25
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35:36
4 Behaviors That Cost Husbands Their Wife’s Respect (and How to Get It Back) | EP 24
Did your wife's tone this morning feel like a punch to the gut? What if the problem isn't her, but the boy patterns you're still running?Alessandro breaks down the four boy behaviors that silently wreck marriages and keep men stuc...
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Season 2
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Episode 24
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38:29
The "Bad Man" You're Afraid to Be Is the Man She Actually Wants with Mikah Jones, Relationship Coach | EP 23
What if trying so hard to be a "good man" is actually turning you into the worst version of yourself?Alessandro sits down with wellness coach Mikah Jones to unpack a pattern wrecking modern men: the fear of being perceived as a "b...
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Season 2
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Episode 23
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57:47
The Missing Skill: Relationship Intelligence w/ Railey Molinario
In this episode, she breaks down the concept of relationship intelligence: the emotional skills most of us were never taught.We talk childhood patterns, emotional manipulation vs leadership, and why love alone won’t hold...
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Season 1
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Episode 22
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42:56
What It Takes to Win Olympic Gold and Lead a Family w/ Dr. Scott Brennan
Dr. Scott Brennan is an Olympic gold medallist and former emergency doctor who became a stay-at-home dad. In this conversation, we talk about:The male mentor who changed his lifeThe vow he made at his coach’s coff...
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Season 1
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Episode 21
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1:24:18
Real men FEEL w/ Andy Grant
Andy Grant, host of the popular men's health podcast "Real Men Feel" joins me on STFUAL to talk about his story, feelings and energy.Check out Andy's website here: https://theandygrant.com/👉...
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Season 1
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Episode 20
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49:14
20 Innocent Habits That Are Quietly Destroying Your Masculinity
This episode is the why behind the viral post that hit 3.5 million views in 48 hours.I break down all 20 habits—line by line—with the deeper truths behind each one. These aren't just catchy phrases. They're blind spots t...
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Season 1
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Episode 19
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36:57
How Psychedelics Can Heal Men's Mental Health w/ Xavier Rousset
What if the real crisis in men’s mental health isn’t illness—but disconnection?In this episode, I sit down with Xavier Rousset, a filmmaker and advocate whose life was changed by psychedelics. We talk about the stigma surrounding drugs, ...
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Season 1
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Episode 18
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41:51
Emotional Maturity & Handling Interpersonal Relationships w/ Roy Wang
What happens when being smart isn’t enough?In this episode, I sit down with Roy Wang, a man who could always figure things out intellectually but struggled when it came to emotional connection and conflict.We talk about what it reall...
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Season 1
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Episode 17
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58:19
The Biggest Lie in Society: “There Is No Such Thing as Men and Women”
In this solo episode, I go headfirst into one of the most damaging lies we've been fed: that masculinity and femininity no longer exist. That we're all the same. That difference is dangerous.But it’s not sameness that creates att...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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8:25
Blocked Energy = Blocked Life w Jose Mendoza
You can’t mindset your way out of a blocked body.This episode goes deep with energy practitioner Jose Mendoza, whose work helps men shift what’s stuck—not just in their heads, but in their nervous systems, their emotions, and their physi...
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39:18
How to Understand Yourself (and Others) in 6 Colours w/ Corbin Billings
What if your biggest blind spot isn’t your trauma—it’s your temperament? In this episode, we sit down with Corbin Billings, the speaker and messenger behind the Personality Color Matrix, a mind-blowing framework that unpacks y...
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Season 1
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Episode 14
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1:02:57
You Don’t Need a Therapist—You Need a Walk and a Mate w/ Scott Johnson
In this episode, I sit down with Scott Johnson—the founder of The Proper Blokes Club—to talk about why movement opens men up, how walk-and-talks beat therapy for some guys, and what it takes to build real brotherhood.We get into his story o...
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39:18
Mushrooms, Mirror Neurons, and the Myth of Control w/ Philip Schmadlak
In this episode, I sit down with Phillip Schmadluk—coach, psychology grad, and one of the deepest thinkers I know—to talk about the ego traps that keep men stuck, and the power of surrender that sets us free.We dive into what it real...
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Season 1
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Episode 12
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50:40
The Body Breaks When You Don’t Feel w/ Jarrah Volpe
Most men think they have a mindset problem.What they really have is an emotional backlog.🧠 In this episode, I sit down with Jarrah Volpe—a trauma-informed somatic therapist and men's work facilitator—for a raw conv...
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Season 1
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Episode 11
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44:24
You’re Not Hungry—You’re Hurt” w/ Jillian Scott
In this episode, I sit down with Jillian Scott—host of the Hungry for Love podcast—to talk about emotional eating, shame spirals, and why so many men soothe their pain with food, porn, alcohol, or endless scrolling.We unpack what i...
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Season 1
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Episode 10
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47:26
No One’s Coming to Save You w/ Sean Carey
In this episode, I sit down with Sean Carey—author of A Single Dad’s Comeback—to talk about what happens when you hit rock bottom and realise no one is coming to pull you out.Sean shares his story of surviving an emotionally destru...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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1:03:51
Saying No Won’t Kill the Sex—It Might Save the Relationship w/ Morteza Chalak
Most men aren’t numb—they’re emotionally untrained.In this episode, I sit down with Morteza Chalak—a men’s coach who works with guys caught in resentment, nice guy patterns, and self-abandonment inside their relationships.We talk about ...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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46:31
Men Can’t Say What They Feel—Here’s Why That Matters w/ Matthew Lowe
Most men aren’t numb—they’re emotionally untrained.In this episode, I sit down with therapist and author Matthew Lowe to unpack the condition most men have never heard of—but live with daily: alexithymia—the inability to...
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Season 1
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Episode 7
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51:31
How to Start a Men’s Group (and Why You Should) w/ Wouter van de Velde
What actually happens when a group of men commit to meeting every week? In this episode, I sit down with Wouter van de Velde—my co-host of the Mallorca Men’s Club—to unpack the biggest surprises, lessons, and breakthroughs we’v...
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Season 1
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Episode 6
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50:48
Why Building a Business Breaks Most Men (And How to Stay Whole) w/ Tristan Rushworth
What if your biggest business mistake isn’t the strategy, the offer, or the audience… but your state? Tristan Rushworth isn’t just another startup mentor. He’s a man who’s seen how most entrepreneurs burn out—not because they lack tools, but be...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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59:03
The Pain Men Never Talk About (But Carry Every Day) w/ Rory Paquette
What happens when a man loses everything?Not just the house, the car, the business—but the respect of his wife, the trust of his kids, and the belief that he can fix it.In this quiet, powerful episode, I sit down with Rory Paquett...
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Season 1
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Episode 4
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47:47
From Prison to Purpose: How This Man Turned His Pain Into Power w/ Doc Amy
Could your lowest moment be the key to your calling?Edward “Doc” Amy’s life reads like a movie—father murdered, dropped out by 13, hustling, addiction, multiple stints in prison, cleaning up pig shit in Texas heat just to surv...
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Season 1
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Episode 3
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1:06:13
Why Most Men Are Still Boys (And Don’t Even Know It) w/ Dr. Arne Rubinstein
Could you be stuck in boy psychology without realising it?Dr Arne Rubinstein is one of the world’s leading experts on Rites of Passage and how modern men have been failed by society, school systems, and their own fathers. In this convers...
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Season 1
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Episode 2
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