STFUAL: The Better Husband Podcast
I’m on a mission to help men become better husbands by recognising and growing out of the boy-like and passive behaviours that destroy their relationships.
These are the conversations helping me get there. I want to understand what the fuck is actually going on underneath the arguments, the resentment, the defensiveness, the lack of intimacy and all the other shit that can make two people who love each other wonder how the hell they got here.
Look, I’m sometimes crass, sometimes insensitive and I’m definitely not perfect. You’ll probably figure that out within one episode. But I care deeply about men becoming better for their wives, their kids and themselves.
That’s what this podcast is about.
Episodes
57 episodes
Open Loops: Why Doing More Leaves Your Wife Feeling Unsafe and Overwhelmed | EP 58
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREEver feel like your brain never gets a break, even when you're not actually doing anything?Alessand...
Sneaky Pete: The Voice In Your Head Sabotaging Your Marriage | EP 57
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREEver been crushing it as a husband all day, only to watch your wife walk in the room and wreck the whole thing...
Why THIS Question From Your Wife Starts The Worst Fights | EP 56
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREWhy does one sentence from your wife turn a calm night into a full blown fight?You know the moment....
Mental Load: Why Your Wife Feels Like She Carries Everything | EP 55
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREIs mental load real, or is it just something wives invented so they have one more reason to be annoyed at you?...
Task C Explained: The Hidden Reason She Keeps Criticizing You | EP 54
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREIs your wife criticizing you no matter what you do?You do task A, and she says you should have done...
The 3 Day Rule Breaking Good Husbands | Ep 53
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREHave you ever thought that your wife is just so negative?Day one, you are on it. You catch yourself...
The Plastic Bag Theory: Easygoing Husbands Become Less Safe Over the Years | EP 52
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREWhat if the same thing that made your wife feel safe when you met is the exact reason she says she does not fe...
Why Fatherhood BREAKS Good Husbands ft. Eli Weinstein | EP 51
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREHow much longer are you going to pretend you're fine while it quietly eats your marriage alive?When...
Why Your Wife STOPPED Wanting Sex ft. Stephanie Ganowski, Sexologist | EP 50
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREWhat if the reason your wife keeps turning you down has nothing to do with sex at all?Host Alessand...
The Approval Trap Quietly Killing Good Husbands | EP 49
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREWhat happens when the people you love the most tell you that you are still not good enough?Every ma...
The Fatherhood Blind Spot DESTROYING Your Marriage ft. Alex Trippier | EP 48
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREWhy does your house keep running without you ever noticing who is making it run?Alessandro is joine...
Why Your Marriage Feels STUCK (The Spaghetti Method) EP 47
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREWhat if the problem isn't your wife? It's your pattern.Host Alessandro Frosali breaks down what he...
Porn RECOVERY For Husbands Without Shame ft. Jeremy Lipkowitz | EP 45
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREWhat if your porn habit has nothing to do with sex?Alessandro sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz, a po...
Calling Her “Controlling” Keeps Your Marriage Broken | EP 44
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREIs your wife actually controlling you, or are you just terri...
8 Fears Silently Making You a Defensive Husband | EP 43
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HEREIs your defensiveness protecting your marriage or quietly destroying it?Alessandro Frosali h...
What Your Wife Says VS. What She Actually Needs ft. Therapist Vanessa Spinarksy | EP 42
Why does your wife say one thing but clearly mean something deeper, and why does defending yourself only make it worse?Alessandro sits down with therapist Vanessa Spinarsky to unpack one of the most frustrating dynamics in modern ...
These Men Almost Lost Their Marriages (Here's What Changed) | EP 41
What if your marriage isn't broken and you just never learned what it actually takes?Alessandro Frosali shares the five things men actually need to become better husbands, and he lets the men who've done the work speak for themsel...
Relationship REELS: Is Her Saving Your Marriage | EP 40
What if the reel your wife just sent you is NOT an attack, but actually the thing that saves your marriage?Most men tense up the second a relationship reel pops up on their phone. The defensiveness kicks in fast. You tell yourself...
Your Wife’s NOT Crazy [Why She Changes Overnight] | ft. Harry Kloser-Pitcher | EP 39
Do you feel like you're losing your marriage and you can't even explain why?Her biology is running the show and you've been reacting to it blind.Host Alessandro Frosali sits down with Harry Kloser-Pitcher, founder of She's ...
6 Lies Keeping Husbands Passive Until She Checks Out | EP 38r | EP 38
What if the thing you’re most proud of is actually sabotaging your marriage?Most men think passivity is just part of their personality, that they're easygoing, that they're keeping the peace, that they're being the bigger person.&...
He Lost His Wife, His Identity and Almost Himself - Widower & Author Danny Lesslie | EP 37
What happens to a man’s identity when the person he built his life around is gone?Host Alessandro sits down with Danny Lesslie, a father and author who watched his wife suffer for years after a 2020 diagnosis, then had to wake up ...
Why Men Resist Changing Until She's Already Got One Foot Out the Door with Jasper Brown, Men's Coach | EP 36
What if the real you, the one you have been hiding, is exactly the man she has been waiting for?Alessandro sits down with Jasper Brown, a men's coach who lost the woman he loved, spent six years in a tantra/yoga school he later de...
Become The Man Your Dad Never Taught You to Be: Fatherhood, Fear and Masculine Frame with Clinton Hall, Founder of Almar Life | EP 35
What does your father have to do with why you shut down, blow up, or go passive in your marriage?Alessandro sits down with Clinton Hall, founder of Almar Life and men's coach who works with high performers to help them find their ...
Your Wife's 8 Unmet Needs You're Ignoring Behind Every Fight | EP 34
What if every argument you've ever had with your wife was actually about something completely different than what you were arguing about?Alessandro sits down solo to unpack the eight major unmet needs that fuel almost every fight ...
Rites of Passage: Your Marriage Could Suffer Because of This Missing Initiation | EP 33
Why do other men seem to have their shit together while you're still figuring it out?You just woke up one day with bills, a wife, maybe kids, and no idea how you got here. Western culture killed the one thing that would have given...