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September: A Podcast For Loveships
September is a weekly podcast for Loveships. It explores the tools and technologies that build and sustain life-changing love relationships. Hosted by writer and facilitator Alexis Pauline Gumbs and artist and entrepreneur Sangodare Wallace, this intimate show draws on their 17-year partnership built on the premise of Loveship as a spiritual practice and Loveship as a resource in community.
From conflict and contrast, responsibility and repair, to emotional intimacy and navigating the ever-changing seasons of life, Alexis and Sangodare share insights that nurture not only couples but also families, friends, and communities.
Tune in each week for heartfelt conversations that honor relationships as sacred ground—an offering to ourselves, our people, our ancestors, and spirit.
Episodes
50 episodes
49. All Aboard
On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare introduce the loveship pillar practice “All Aboard,” describing relationship as a sacred container where all ages, parts, and messy or activated versions of self are welcome. They define ‘homefulness’ ...
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48. Love to Eat
On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare discuss the literal, social and spiritual impacts of physical nourishment. They explore the idea that nourishment comes in many forms and how proper or improper physical nourishment affects how they sh...
47. Love the Creative Power of Difference
This episode’s core teaching is valuing the creative power of difference, with hosts Sangodare and Alexis drawing on Audre Lorde’s “Difference and Survival” to frame differences as polarities that spark possibility, expanded choice, collective ...
46. Love to Countdown and Celebrate
On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare. This episode is an instagram live about relationships as spiritual practice that Alexis and Sangodare did to celebrate the ONE MONTH COUNTDOWN to their 18th anniversary in Loveship! There ...
45. Love to Nourish: Nourishing Our Love
On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare ask listeners to notice what experiences sustain versus deplete. A story about an upgraded all-inclusive resort in St. Lucia comically illustrates how what looks valuable may not be nourishing...
44. Love to Work It Out
On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare discuss how grace, generosity, clear communication of needs, and non-judgment help them stay on the same team when neurodivergence, grief, or overwhelm makes tasks hard. They share an Audre Lorde excer...
43. Do NOT Love to Whisper
On this mini episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare offer a clip from a live episode in the spring about using your voice. Because love is living with purpose, join us for our second Chrysalis Cohort this September! More info here:https...
42. Love You For Lifetimes
On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare challenge the idea of separation across time, using Jewelle Gomez’s Black lesbian feminist vampire novel The Gilda Stories as a sacred text about kinship and multi-lifetime impact. They share three of ...
41. So Special, So Special, So Special
On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare focus on reclaiming the term “special” in a sincere way. They argue systems like capitalism and empire discourage recognizing inherent dignity and discuss why this self recognition is not vanity but de...
40. Love To Let It Flow
On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis discuss purpose as “love flowing into form,” how society and capitalist value stories can separate people from purpose, and how natural gifts often become last on the to-do list. They unpack over-prior...
39. Love To Offer Our Lives
On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis introduce love as a collective superpower, arguing that love’s fullest power is not individual or confined to isolated couples or the nuclear family but lives on the scale of community and collective f...
38. An Unreasonable Love (Go Knicks!)
On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis celebrate the New York Knicks winning their first NBA championship in 53 years, and how sports and fandom connects to the legacy of collective love and teamwork. Using Alexis’s Dad’s Knicks loyalty as ...
37. Urgent versus Important
On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis distinguish what is urgent (time-based) from what is important (value-based) amid capitalist pressures. Using experiences around Black Feminist Film School production and podcast scheduling, they empha...
36. We Go Together (Announcement)
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35. Love To Shake It Up
In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis define what it does and doesn’t look like to spend intentional time together. They distinguish vacations, staycations and jaunts and how they draw distinction and boundaries between these experiences a...
34. I Love Every Age Of You
In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore non-linear time, queer time, and the practice of loving every age of oneself and one’s partner. Using a conflict about an expensive pillow after mattress shopping, they discuss feeling unseen, ...
33. Love to Hold It Down
In a live episode at North Star Church of the Arts in Durham, Sangodare and Alexis use a seafaring metaphor to explore what it means to be “anchored in love”. They unpack how preparation, resourcing and kindness can keep a “love ship” steady th...
32. Love Through The Dark
In this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare explore the idea of the “dark night of the soul,” through poetry and a very literal dark-night story of their own. They offer three “North Stars” to help listeners return to love even through the darkn...
31. Love To Be Late
Hosts Sangodare and Alexis reflect on time as a social construct and discuss their contrasting time styles. They share time keeping systems that have worked for them and illustrate how shared practices can align intentions, remembering that ult...
30. Purpose as the Root of Love
Hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore the idea of a “loveship” ad a relationship as spiritual practice. They urge listeners to treat purpose as the seed and root of love, contrasting “happily ever after” with “purposefully ever after,” and groundi...
29. Love the Place You Live: A Live Durham Episode
In this live recorded episode, hosts Alexis and Sangodare welcome the audience into their playful, tangent-filled “living room”. This episode’s theme is loving the place you live: sharing why Durham supports their purpose, community circles, cr...
28. Love Anniversaries & Loveship Milestones
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27. Grounded: Sky Will Learn Sky
In this episode Alexis and Sangodare discuss relationship ground rules. They explore contemplative presence before action, awe and surrender to one’s power and surprises in partnership, and repeatedly expanding definitions of what’s possible. T...
26. Celebrate the Squabble: There is One Right Way to Make a Grilled Cheese Sandwich
In this episode Alexis and Sangodare offer a relationship practice: “celebrate the squabble,” framing conflict as a generative opportunity for growth rather than something to fear, and grounding it with levity and curiosity. Drawing on Audre Lo...
25. Metronomes of Love: Influences, Cycles, and Ground Rules in Relationship Rhythms
In this episode Sangodare and Alexis reflect on their “love ship” as a rhythmic, metronome-like practice shaped by consistent internal and external influences. They discuss their first live podcast recording at Gladys Books and Wine, and respon...