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Therapy, Coaching & Dreams
Therapy, Coaching & Dreams is cohosted by Dr. Jim Shalley and Dr. Selden Dee Kelley III, a therapist and a coach who love talking about how inner work can help you live with more awareness, purpose and freedom.
Episodes
40 episodes
S2E18 Fragile, Inflated, Crushed or Healthy: How The Ego Shapes Daily Life
As a coach and a therapist and get specific about what we mean when we say “ego.” From there, we break the ego into real-world patterns you’ve probably seen at work and at home: the fragile ego that can’t tolerate threat, the inflated ego that ...
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S2E17 A Sexual Dream Can Be A Map To Your Inner Life
A sexual dream can feel like your mind just exposed you, especially when the dream partner makes no sense or the emotion is stronger than you expected. We slow that moment down and reframe it through dream work: sexuality in dreams often points...
S2E16 Chronic Communication Conflict
We talk through why couples get trapped in the same arguments and how the real issue is often the unresolved dynamic underneath the topic. We share practical ways to separate validation from agreement, navigate competing anxieties, and make sma...
S2E15 The Language of Symbols and What Our Behavior Might Really Mean
We explore why symbols matter in dreams, therapy, and everyday life, and why the same image can carry wildly different meanings depending on your story and culture. We walk through practical ways to ask better questions so symbols become tools ...
S2E14 What If Your Dreams Know Your Personality Better Than You Do
A terrifying dream. A stranger at the door. A jolt of fear so sharp it lingers into daylight and forces a question most of us avoid: what if my dreams are trying to tell me something real? We share a special reading from Dee Kelley’s book, ...
S2E13 When Dreams Show the Way
We share two real dreams and use them to explore how personality, grief, and spiritual growth show up in the images our minds create at night. We leave with a grounded way to experiment with new rhythms while still honoring responsibility and r...
S2E12 The Shadow Side Is Not Your Evil Twin
We unpack what the shadow side really means and why it often shows up through big emotions, relationship conflict, and projection. We also explore how dreams can deliver shadow material at a pace we can handle, so curiosity replaces fear and gr...
S2E11 Your Night Shift Therapist Is On Duty
Dreams aren’t just strange stories your brain invents at night. They can be a practical pathway to self-awareness, emotional regulation, and real change, especially when you learn how to work with them. Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley, a coach and a...
S2E10 The Bold Move
We talk through why people feel emotionally, relationally, and vocationally stuck even after making major life changes. We unpack the difference between external bold moves and internal bold moves, and how dreams and self-awareness can help us ...
S2E9 What If The Monster Chasing You Is You
A nightmare can ruin your sleep, but it can also tell the truth faster than your daytime mind ever will. We take dream interpretation out of the mystical zone and into practical therapy and coaching. When you wake up with panic, shame, or dread...
S2E8 What If The Missing Part Of You Is The Point
We start with the hard question a lot of people quietly ask: why do the work when it takes so much effort? Our answer is simple and uncomfortable. Your way of living works until it doesn’t, and when it stops working at home, at work, or in your...
S2E7 Please Do Not Call Your Spouse
We start with a listener question about how meds can affect REM sleep, dream recall, and the sheer intensity of what you see at night. Then we get practical: even if a dream is amplified by chemistry or disrupted sleep patterns, it can still be...
S2E6 An ATV Ride Into The Unconscious
A desert trail that stretches impossibly long. A lodge with a railing that feels too low to trust. Then a wave runner hovering above dark shapes as the ocean starts to churn. We take a co-host’s vivid New Year’s dream and slow it down scene by ...
S2E5 Going Deep with One Dream
We take one dream and dig deep into the imagery and symbolism of the dreamer’s psyche. We use the STIR model and talk about the dynamic versus static energies. The possibilities unfold and provide multiple pathways for exploration and reflectio...
S2E4 The Backstory Behind Therapy, Coaching, And Dreams
A lot of podcasts ask you to trust the hosts. We’d rather try to earn it by telling you where we come from and what shaped the lens we use when we talk about therapy, coaching, and dreams.We start with our winding educational paths, fro...
S2E3 Sleep & Dreams
Dreams are one of the most misunderstood mental health tools we all have at our access. The biggest myth we hear is also the simplest: “I never dream.” We unpack why that’s almost never true, what sleep science says about dreaming, and how our ...
S2E2 - Dreams, Decisions, And Emotional Weight
Your mind doesn’t clock out when you do. It goes to work overnight, sorting stress, rehearsing choices, and resetting emotions so you can meet tomorrow with more capacity. We dig into how that process actually feels—starting with a simple dream...
S2E1 - Dreams, Neuroscience, And Self-Awareness
What if your dreams aren’t random at all but a built-in system for emotional reset, memory sorting, and future rehearsal? We kick off season two by moving dreams from “weird night stories” to a reliable toolkit for self-awareness, drawing on ne...
S1E22 Four Styles, One Self: Season Summary
What if your biggest arguments, stalled projects, and late-night worries aren’t personal failures, but energy mismatches you can learn to navigate? We break down the STIR model—Stabilizer, Transformer, Initiator, Responder—through two lenses: d...
S1E21 Accusations, Defenses, And The Work Of Love
We dig into why simple questions can feel like attacks, how to pause before defenses take over, and what healthy masculine and feminine responses sound like when tensions rise. We connect the dots between conflict, self-love for responders, and...
S1E20 Mental Health And Personality Styles
We explore how mental health concerns intersect with the STIR model and show how balance, flexible thinking, and self-awareness transform relationships. From early dating green flags to parenting stalemates, we lay out practical steps to move t...
S1E19 When The Divine Feels Like A Conversation Within
We explore how addictive behaviors can be signals from unbalanced inner energies, how to hear what the unconscious is asking for, and why old issues resurface even after insight. We close with a grounded view of integration, spiritual connectio...
S1E18 Midlife Without The Meltdown
We take listener questions on how to “preempt” midlife turmoil, why flexible thinking beats rumination, and what healthy self-sufficiency looks like when you still need people. Along the way we use our four-quadrant model to reframe boundaries,...
S1E17 Integration Over Perfection: Using Every Part Of You
We explore the STIR framework and answer a listener’s question about whether the goal is to stand in the center of all four styles, or to use each style wisely. We map how to grow in a resistant environment, when leaving is healthy, and how to ...
S1E16 Having Tough Conversations
We open our archive of listener questions to explore how to give honest feedback without a therapy license, how to manage triggers with self-awareness, and how parents can raise more integrated, emotionally grounded kids. We use simple tools li...