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Therapy, Coaching & Dreams
Therapy, Coaching & Dreams is cohosted by Dr. Jim Shalley and Dr. Selden Dee Kelley III, a therapist and a coach who love talking about how inner work can help you live with more awareness, purpose and freedom.
Episodes
50 episodes
S2E27 Imagination and Anxiety
One unfamiliar phrase on a medical lab report. And then, one late-night internet search. Suddenly your mind is certain you’re headed for the worst-case scenario. We know that feeling, and we dig into why it happens: imagination rushes in to fil...
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S2E26 Seeing Others
We use the STIR model to get clear on what different personality energies need so we can stop guessing and start showing up well for the people we care about. We share concrete ways to support initiators, transformers, responders, and stabilize...
S2E25 The History and Practics of STIR
We dig into the STIR personality model and why personality balance matters more than personality labels. We connect relationship conflict to projection, stress patterns, and the hard truth that insight only becomes healing when it turns into ac...
SE24 Listener Q&A
We answer listener questions that get practical fast, from what it means to be a licensed therapist to how state rules shape who can practice where. Then we shift into the STIR personality model to talk about birth order, family dynamics, paren...
S2E23 How Personality Shapes The Way We Grieve
Grief has a way of humbling every personality style, especially the ones that love a plan. We sit down with Jim Shaley to talk about what grief really looks like when it’s not tidy, not linear, and definitely not finished by the end of a single...
S2E22 Pt 2 - You Can Regain Control In The Middle Of Work Shock
Vocational TraumaYour anxiety spikes, your mind races, and suddenly you’re pricing out worst-case scenarios: health insurance, bills, the family vacation, the next job. We pick up a candid conversation on vocational trauma and talk about...
S2 E22 Pt1 When Work Breaks You (Jim & Dee)
We dig into vocational trauma and why job loss, demotions, workplace upheaval, and feeling trapped at work can shake your finances, relationships, and sense of self. We walk through what helps in the first wave of shock and how to rebuild contr...
S2E21 Religious Crisis:The Movement from Certainty to Nuance
We talk about what a faith crisis really looks like and why it often shows up as we grow into nuance rather than certainty. We share practical ways to explore belief, handle family pressure, and deconstruct without losing the parts that still g...
S2E20 The Sandwich Generation Squeeze
We talk about what it feels like to live in the middle of three generations, with kids launching into adulthood while parents begin to need care and oversight. We focus on staying emotionally healthy through grief, sibling stress, and identity ...
S2E19 The Ripple Effects Of Change
The healthiest changes in your life can still blow up the system around you. When you stop a habit, set a boundary, or simply decide you’re done carrying a role, it doesn’t just affect you. It reshapes family systems, friendships, and the unwri...
S2E18 Fragile, Inflated, Crushed or Healthy: How The Ego Shapes Daily Life
As a coach and a therapist and get specific about what we mean when we say “ego.” From there, we break the ego into real-world patterns you’ve probably seen at work and at home: the fragile ego that can’t tolerate threat, the inflated ego that ...
S2E17 A Sexual Dream Can Be A Map To Your Inner Life
A sexual dream can feel like your mind just exposed you, especially when the dream partner makes no sense or the emotion is stronger than you expected. We slow that moment down and reframe it through dream work: sexuality in dreams often points...
S2E16 Chronic Communication Conflict
We talk through why couples get trapped in the same arguments and how the real issue is often the unresolved dynamic underneath the topic. We share practical ways to separate validation from agreement, navigate competing anxieties, and make sma...
S2E15 The Language of Symbols and What Our Behavior Might Really Mean
We explore why symbols matter in dreams, therapy, and everyday life, and why the same image can carry wildly different meanings depending on your story and culture. We walk through practical ways to ask better questions so symbols become tools ...
S2E14 What If Your Dreams Know Your Personality Better Than You Do
A terrifying dream. A stranger at the door. A jolt of fear so sharp it lingers into daylight and forces a question most of us avoid: what if my dreams are trying to tell me something real? We share a special reading from Dee Kelley’s book, ...
S2E13 When Dreams Show the Way
We share two real dreams and use them to explore how personality, grief, and spiritual growth show up in the images our minds create at night. We leave with a grounded way to experiment with new rhythms while still honoring responsibility and r...
S2E12 The Shadow Side Is Not Your Evil Twin
We unpack what the shadow side really means and why it often shows up through big emotions, relationship conflict, and projection. We also explore how dreams can deliver shadow material at a pace we can handle, so curiosity replaces fear and gr...
S2E11 Your Night Shift Therapist Is On Duty
Dreams aren’t just strange stories your brain invents at night. They can be a practical pathway to self-awareness, emotional regulation, and real change, especially when you learn how to work with them. Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley, a coach and a...
S2E10 The Bold Move
We talk through why people feel emotionally, relationally, and vocationally stuck even after making major life changes. We unpack the difference between external bold moves and internal bold moves, and how dreams and self-awareness can help us ...
S2E9 What If The Monster Chasing You Is You
A nightmare can ruin your sleep, but it can also tell the truth faster than your daytime mind ever will. We take dream interpretation out of the mystical zone and into practical therapy and coaching. When you wake up with panic, shame, or dread...
S2E8 What If The Missing Part Of You Is The Point
We start with the hard question a lot of people quietly ask: why do the work when it takes so much effort? Our answer is simple and uncomfortable. Your way of living works until it doesn’t, and when it stops working at home, at work, or in your...
S2E7 Please Do Not Call Your Spouse
We start with a listener question about how meds can affect REM sleep, dream recall, and the sheer intensity of what you see at night. Then we get practical: even if a dream is amplified by chemistry or disrupted sleep patterns, it can still be...
S2E6 An ATV Ride Into The Unconscious
A desert trail that stretches impossibly long. A lodge with a railing that feels too low to trust. Then a wave runner hovering above dark shapes as the ocean starts to churn. We take a co-host’s vivid New Year’s dream and slow it down scene by ...
S2E5 Going Deep with One Dream
We take one dream and dig deep into the imagery and symbolism of the dreamer’s psyche. We use the STIR model and talk about the dynamic versus static energies. The possibilities unfold and provide multiple pathways for exploration and reflectio...
S2E4 The Backstory Behind Therapy, Coaching, And Dreams
A lot of podcasts ask you to trust the hosts. We’d rather try to earn it by telling you where we come from and what shaped the lens we use when we talk about therapy, coaching, and dreams.We start with our winding educational paths, fro...