Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons
We’re the Vallottons, and we’re passionate about people! Every human was created for fulfilling connections in relationship and family, but it’s not always what comes easiest! We know this because of our wide range of personal experiences as well as years of working with people. So we’re going to crack open topics like dating, marriage, family and parenting to encourage, entertain and equip you for a deeply fulfilling life of relational health.
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Episodes
131 episodes
131. When His Battle Becomes Your Self-Hatred
What do you do when your husband’s porn struggle becomes a story you tell about yourself—about not being pretty enough, skinny enough, or desirable enough? For so many women, his brokenness becomes her self-hatred. But it doesn’t have ...
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22:38
130. How to Handle the Disorientation of a New Season
Every new season brings change—and with it, a sense of disorientation. As human beings, we’re wired for stability and rhythm, so even good change can feel uncomfortable at first. The question isn’t whether change will shake us, but how we walk ...
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20:46
129. When Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work
Counseling is incredibly valuable. Jason and Lauren are huge proponents of marriage counseling, coaching and investing in marriage in a way that invites outside input from experts who can give great feedback to help couples grow in their connec...
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128. The Long Game: Raising Children with Vision for Adulthood
In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Jason and Lauren share wisdom from their unique experience raising both adult children and toddlers. Drawing from years of hands-on parenting, they dive into the intentio...
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30:29
127. A Day in the Life, #2 (A peek into a big disconnection in the Vallottons' marriage!)
This episode is a vulnerable look into a recent real-life disconnection in the Vallotton's marriage! Every relationship experiences disconnection, but what matters is how we navigate back to each other. Hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton share a ...
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31:23
126. Dating Someone with a Past Marriage and Kids
Can love still feel new when someone has already been married and had children with someone else?In this vulnerable episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton respond to a heartfelt question from a listener navigating the early stages ...
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33:23
125. From Chaos to Clarity: How Couples Get Their Marriage Back on Track
If your marriage feels chaotic, disconnected, or directionless… you’re not alone. In this episode, Jason and Lauren tackle what it looks like when couples are stuck in survival mode—no calendar, no plan, and no unity—and how to get back on the ...
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124. Leading with Love: Dr. Henry Cloud on What It Really Means to Be a Godly Husband
What does it actually mean to lead your home like a man of God—and why does emotional connection matter just as much as spiritual authority?In this episode of Dates, Mates & Babies, Jason Vallotton sits down with th...
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123. Beyond Statistics: A Story of Choosing Life in the Face of Crisis & Diagnosis
In this powerful episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies, Jason and Lauren Vallotton welcome two courageous women: Kirsten Lapp, Executive Director of Northstate Care Clinic, and Lauren Hodgson, a mother of four who walked th...
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122. A Conversation on Crisis Pregnancy with Kirsten Lapp of Northstate Care Clinic
In this powerful episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with Kirsten Lapp, Executive Director of Northstate Care Clinic, to unpack the emotional, spiritual, and practical realities surrounding crisis pregnancy. With empathy and c...
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28:03
121. When Yes Means No: The High Cost of Self-Betrayal
In this powerful episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore the quiet, often unnoticed habit of self-betrayal—the moments when we say “yes” to others while saying “no” to ourselves. Whether it's to avoid conflict, gain approval, or prote...
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37:33
120. Q&A (Breakups, Second Marriages & the Biblical Role of a Man)
In this honest and heartfelt Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren answer your real relationship questions—from navigating breakups to leading well in marriage. Whether you're dating, newly married, or wrestling with relational roles, this episode ...
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30:13
119. The Soul of the Home: A Conversation on Motherhood
“Most of the world is built on the invisible labor of mothers.” In this heartfelt episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton turn their attention to the sacred, unseen work of motherhood. Picking up where their recent Fatherhood episode left off, they...
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23:54
118. The Role of a Man & the Rite of Passage Our Sons Are Missing
In this powerful conversation, Jason and Lauren Vallotton unpack one of the deepest needs of our time: the restoration of godly masculinity. Drawing from personal stories, biblical wisdom, and their experience walking with men and families, the...
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31:56
117. Emotionally Healthy Church Leadership
"Your gifts might open doors in ministry, but your emotional health and family life will determine how long you can stay in the room."In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton dive into the crucial (and often overlooked) conne...
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24:39
116. How to Connect When it Hurts
"Most people want to reconnect with their spouse—but they don’t know how to hit the mark when emotions are high. They either get defensive, spiral into shame, or shut down. Today, I want to help you learn how to truly connect when it matter...
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31:34
115. Q&A (Dating with Kids, Conflict in Marriage, Divorce, Newborn Season Tips, Emotional Needs in Marriage)
In this vulnerable and practical Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren tackle some of your most heartfelt questions—from dating dynamics and stepparenting to conflict in marriage and unmet emotional needs.With their trademark honesty and exp...
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39:05
114. What Happens When a Woman is Forced into Fight or Flight Mode
“She never wanted to fight her husband. But somewhere along the way, she stopped feeling safe—and started showing up in survival mode.”In this episode, Jason and Lauren unpack the emotional toll disconnection takes on a woman, especially...
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36:02
113. Spring Cleaning for the Soul
Spring cleaning isn't just for your closet—what about the things we’ve been carrying in our hearts, homes, and relationships that need a reset?In this episode, Jason and Lauren take the idea of spring cleaning beyond junk drawers and clu...
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28:09
112. Rethinking Education with Dr. Tyler Thigpen
The public school system is broken. Too many kids feel left behind, uninspired, and stuck in a one-size-fits-all model that doesn’t prepare them for real life—or real relationships. As a dad and leader, Jason believes we need a radical s...
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111. Preparing to Launch: Equipping Your High Schooler for Adulthood
Preparing teenagers for adulthood might be the most crucial—and challenging—phase of parenthood. In this candid conversation, The Vallottons explore the essential transition from raising dependent children to launching capable, confident adults...
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44:24
110. How Do I Know the Past in the Past?
Everyone has a past, but when it comes to relationships, how can someone be sure it no longer has a hold on their present? Whether in dating or marriage, navigating past mistakes, previous relationships, or personal struggles can be complex. Ho...
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35:31
109. Q&A (Leaving and Cleaving, Communicating Intentions, Managing Emotions, Dating with Kids)
In this insightful Q&A session, the Vallottons tackle questions submitted by listeners pertaining to marriage and friendship.Questions include:1. When I really like someone I feel like I can't think straight anymore. Wh...
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40:19
108. A New Era of Breakthrough: Lauren's Message at the 2025 Bethel Church Prophetic Conference
Episode 108 is a special treat! In this episode, the Vallottons share a powerful message that Lauren preached on February 20, 2025, at the Bethel Church Prophetic Conference. Rooted in her personal journey of motherhood and the shifting ...
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107. The Power of Friendship: Strengthening Marriages and Families Through Intentional Connections
In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore how friendships impact marriage, parenting, and relational health. While friendships often take a backseat to family life, they are cru...
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