Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons
We’re the Vallottons, and we’re passionate about people! Every human was created for fulfilling connections in relationship and family, but it’s not always what comes easiest! We know this because of our wide range of personal experiences as well as years of working with people. So we’re going to crack open topics like dating, marriage, family and parenting to encourage, entertain and equip you for a deeply fulfilling life of relational health.
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Episodes
121 episodes
121. When Yes Means No: The High Cost of Self-Betrayal
In this powerful episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore the quiet, often unnoticed habit of self-betrayal—the moments when we say “yes” to others while saying “no” to ourselves. Whether it's to avoid conflict, gain approval, or prote...
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120. Q&A (Breakups, Second Marriages & the Biblical Role of a Man)
In this honest and heartfelt Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren answer your real relationship questions—from navigating breakups to leading well in marriage. Whether you're dating, newly married, or wrestling with relational roles, this episode ...
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119. The Soul of the Home: A Conversation on Motherhood
“Most of the world is built on the invisible labor of mothers.” In this heartfelt episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton turn their attention to the sacred, unseen work of motherhood. Picking up where their recent Fatherhood episode left off, they...
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23:54
118. The Role of a Man & the Rite of Passage Our Sons Are Missing
In this powerful conversation, Jason and Lauren Vallotton unpack one of the deepest needs of our time: the restoration of godly masculinity. Drawing from personal stories, biblical wisdom, and their experience walking with men and families, the...
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31:56
117. Emotionally Healthy Church Leadership
"Your gifts might open doors in ministry, but your emotional health and family life will determine how long you can stay in the room."In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton dive into the crucial (and often overlooked) conne...
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116. How to Connect When it Hurts
"Most people want to reconnect with their spouse—but they don’t know how to hit the mark when emotions are high. They either get defensive, spiral into shame, or shut down. Today, I want to help you learn how to truly connect when it matter...
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115. Q&A (Dating with Kids, Conflict in Marriage, Divorce, Newborn Season Tips, Emotional Needs in Marriage)
In this vulnerable and practical Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren tackle some of your most heartfelt questions—from dating dynamics and stepparenting to conflict in marriage and unmet emotional needs.With their trademark honesty and exp...
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39:05
114. What Happens When a Woman is Forced into Fight or Flight Mode
“She never wanted to fight her husband. But somewhere along the way, she stopped feeling safe—and started showing up in survival mode.”In this episode, Jason and Lauren unpack the emotional toll disconnection takes on a woman, especially...
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113. Spring Cleaning for the Soul
Spring cleaning isn't just for your closet—what about the things we’ve been carrying in our hearts, homes, and relationships that need a reset?In this episode, Jason and Lauren take the idea of spring cleaning beyond junk drawers and clu...
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112. Rethinking Education with Dr. Tyler Thigpen
The public school system is broken. Too many kids feel left behind, uninspired, and stuck in a one-size-fits-all model that doesn’t prepare them for real life—or real relationships. As a dad and leader, Jason believes we need a radical s...
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111. Preparing to Launch: Equipping Your High Schooler for Adulthood
Preparing teenagers for adulthood might be the most crucial—and challenging—phase of parenthood. In this candid conversation, The Vallottons explore the essential transition from raising dependent children to launching capable, confident adults...
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44:24
110. How Do I Know the Past in the Past?
Everyone has a past, but when it comes to relationships, how can someone be sure it no longer has a hold on their present? Whether in dating or marriage, navigating past mistakes, previous relationships, or personal struggles can be complex. Ho...
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109. Q&A (Leaving and Cleaving, Communicating Intentions, Managing Emotions, Dating with Kids)
In this insightful Q&A session, the Vallottons tackle questions submitted by listeners pertaining to marriage and friendship.Questions include:1. When I really like someone I feel like I can't think straight anymore. Wh...
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108. A New Era of Breakthrough: Lauren's Message at the 2025 Bethel Church Prophetic Conference
Episode 108 is a special treat! In this episode, the Vallottons share a powerful message that Lauren preached on February 20, 2025, at the Bethel Church Prophetic Conference. Rooted in her personal journey of motherhood and the shifting ...
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107. The Power of Friendship: Strengthening Marriages and Families Through Intentional Connections
In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore how friendships impact marriage, parenting, and relational health. While friendships often take a backseat to family life, they are cru...
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36:38
106. Blending Well: Stories and Strategies for Blended Family Success
Blending a family is both rewarding and challenging, requiring intentionality, patience, and a strong foundation. In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Lauren and Jason dive into the key strategies for creati...
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105. The Questions We’re Too Scared to Ask, Part 2
Description:We’re back with Part 2 of one of our most vulnerable episodes yet—because some questions in marriage are too important to ignore. Last week, we unpacked some of the biggest fears that keep couples stuck, and today, we’re ...
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104. The Questions We’re Too Scared to Ask, Part 1
Description:Some questions feel too big, too scary, or too painful to ask out loud—especially in marriage. But avoiding them doesn’t make them disappear. In this episode, the Vallotton's tackle the hardest, unspoken questions that ca...
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35:22
103. What Story Do You Want Your Kids to Tell About Love?
In this episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, Lauren and Jason dive into one of the most profound questions parents face: What story do we want our kids to tell about love? Together, they unpack the meaning of true l...
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102. Motherhood in Crisis: Erica Komisar on Raising Mentally and Emotionally Healthy Kids
In today’s episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies with the Vallottons, hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with renowned psychoanalyst and author Erica Komisar to explore the profound challenges and rewards of parenting. Erica, a li...
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53:49
101. From Hidden Battles to Breakthrough: Winning the Year in Love and Life
What if the greatest battle you’re fighting isn’t with your spouse, your kids, or the world—but with yourself? On this episode, the Vallottons dive into the messiest parts of who we are—the stuff we shove aside but desperately need to face if w...
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38:59
100. Kris and Kathy Vallotton: Embracing the Heart of the Christmas Story
In this milestone 100th episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton sit down with Jason's parents, Kris and Kathy Vallotton, for a heartfelt conversation about the enduring meaning of Christmas. Known for their leadership and faith, Kris and Kathy refl...
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45:15
99. Carl & Laura Lentz: The True Story About Carl's Scandal, His Restoration & Laura’s Strength Amid Betrayal
Imagine the weight of rebuilding a marriage amidst public scrutiny and personal failure. Laura and Carl Lentz know this journey all too well, and they graciously join the Vallottons to share their path of healing and redemption following Carl's...
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59:57
98. Q&A (Rebuilding Trust, Forgiveness, Newlywed Rhythms, Mens' Greatest Struggle, Advent and Traditions)
Episode Summary:In this special Q&A episode, the Vallottons tackle some of your most heartfelt and practical questions about trust, forgiveness, marriage, and family life. Whether you're looking for ways to rebuild trust, navigat...
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29:58
97. Insights After Completing The Last Marriage Intensive
Join the Vallottons as they share insights after leading their recent marriage intensive, where we spent six weeks with couples dedicated to enhancing their relational health. Through real-life counseling scenarios, and rounds of these marriage...
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