Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha
Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an answer to prayer.
We have one major goal. We want to help you grow in love with God and grow in love with the people God has placed in your life. The way we do that is simple. We take what we’ve learned and we share it. We’ve been married for 26 years, and we always jokingly say it’s been the best 24 years of our lives. The first two years were pretty bad. We had all the classic problems: silent treatments, weaponized sex, a lack of communication skills, financial pressures, and more. But we learned tools and principles from God’s Word that helped us turn our marriage around. Now we’re happy to say we’re best friends.
That’s why people ask us all the time, “Do you have a special anointing for marriage?” And our answer is always the same. No, we just have tools. This channel is our way of paying those tools forward to you, because we really believe that with the right tools, there’s no marriage and no relationship that can’t get better.
This is primarily a marriage and relationships channel, but it’s not just that. It’s also a personal growth channel, because we believe when you get better, the marriage gets better. So, get ready to have some fun. We’re going to talk about our highs, our lows, and everything in between. Honestly, you’ll probably learn more from our mess-ups than you will from our mountaintop moments.
Enjoy the journey, and share this with somebody, because we believe sharing is caring, and caring is sharing.
New episodes every Thursday at 3PM EST.
Peace.
Episodes
193 episodes
How To Save A Marriage With Better Thoughts
A marriage can look fine on the outside while quietly getting torn down from the inside by one habit: a critical inner dialogue. We get honest about what happens when you replay a moment, assume the worst, and start building a case against the ...
Why Keeping A List Of Wrongs Kills Intimacy And How To Let It Go
Keeping a mental list of your spouse’s mistakes feels like self-protection, but it quietly turns your home into a courtroom. When every argument pulls out old receipts, intimacy dies, progress feels impossible, and “I forgive you” starts soundi...
Seven Biblical Steps To Turn A Bad Marriage Around
A bad marriage can feel like you’re trapped in the same house with a stranger, stuck between “I don’t want to leave” and “I can’t do this anymore.” We go straight at that tension with humility and authority, because we’ve lived it. After 26 yea...
How To Heal Emotional Wounds Before They Harden
Hurt has a way of sneaking into every relationship, and if we don’t deal with it, it doesn’t just fade. It hardens. Ken and Tabitha Claytor get honest about how emotional wounds, unmet expectations, betrayal, and disappointment can quietly turn...
Spiritual Warfare 101 | How The Enemy Targets Believers And How To Fight Back
Some battles don’t start in your schedule, your bank account, or your relationships. They start as a thought you never challenge, a fear you keep feeding, or an offense you refuse to release. We talk about spiritual warfare with a steady head a...
Breaking Ungodly Soul Ties | How to Break Soul Ties & Be FREE!
We name the difference between healthy and unhealthy soul ties, then get honest about why certain relationships keep pulling us back even when they hurt. We walk through spiritual and practical steps to break ungodly connections and close with ...
David's Heart | Developing a Heart That God Promotes
We talk about why God promotes trustworthy people over simply gifted people, using David’s life to show what a heart after God actually looks like under pressure. We unpack honor, repentance, private integrity, and worship as the habits that ke...
How To Heal A Broken Marriage
A marriage can look “fine” on paper and still feel dead in the day to day. If you’re living in the same house but the air feels cold, the talks are short, trust is thin, and intimacy feels complicated, we want to give you real hope and real too...
Hypocrisy Is Keeping You Stuck (Here’s How to Break Free) | “God Wants The Real You”
We define hypocrisy as stage acting and name how it keeps us bound when our image matters more than our integrity. We connect the cost to marriage, family, and spiritual witness, then walk through clear steps and prayers that help us live hones...
One of The Biggest Relationship Killers: Blame Shifting
We get real about how blame shifting turns a struggling marriage into a dead-end and why owning your part is the first move toward change. We connect Scripture, self-awareness, and practical habits so you can stop living as the victim in every ...
The Kind Of Love A Wife Deserves
A lot of men were never taught how to be a husband. You can be loyal, hardworking, and faithful, yet still leave your wife feeling alone in the same house. We get honest about the gap between providing and loving, and we talk about why isolatio...
Why Am I Still Single? | What If Waiting Is God's Protection
“Why am I still single?” can feel like a question with teeth, especially when everyone else’s highlight reel is scrolling past your face. We get honest about the pressure, the loneliness, and the quiet fear that something must be wrong with you...
You Don’t Have To Settle For A Bad Sex Life | God's Design For Sex in Marriage
We challenge the quiet norm of “sucky sex” in marriage and lay out why God designs sex for intimacy, connection, and real enjoyment without shame. We share our own healing journey from trauma, body insecurity, and bad beliefs to a healthier sex...
How To Get Promoted (What Bosses Look For)
The promotion you want might be carrying more than you think. We get honest about what “next level” really means, because promotion is not only a raise or a new title, it is pressure, visibility, responsibility, and accountability. If you’ve ev...
How Unresolved Offense Destroys Love
People don’t wake up one morning and decide they don’t love their spouse. What we see far more often is something quieter and more dangerous: a hurt that never gets resolved, a story we keep replaying, and a wall that goes up brick by brick unt...
What To Do When People Don’t Like You
In this episode of Doing Life with Ken & Tabatha, we talk about how to deal with rejection, criticism, and being misunderstood — especially when you’re trying to follow God and build something meaningful.If you’ve ever wondere...
5 Reasons Christians Should Re-Think Alcohol
What if the line between “okay” and “too far” isn’t a line worth walking? We open up about our 24-year sober journey and the moment a mentor reframed the question from “Is it allowed?” to “Is it wise for a king?” From there, the conversation tu...
Submission & Faithfulness: God’s Path to Promotion
What if the real path to promotion looks nothing like hustle culture promises? We take on two charged words—submission and faithfulness—and show how they form a powerful, practical way of life that advances marriages, teams, and callings. This ...
7 Money Habits to End Marriage Stress
Money pressure has a way of sneaking into a marriage and turning simple conversations into fights. We open up about our early years—over $100k in debt, sleepless nights, and two very different backgrounds—and share the seven habits that helped ...
The Danger of Casual Christianity
Lukewarm faith feels easy—until it costs you power, joy, and purpose. We get honest about casual Christianity, why it’s so common, and how to move from a Sunday habit to a life that actually carries the presence of God. Ken shares his past as a...
Stop Wasting Your 20’s | 5 Dating Rules We Wish We Knew
Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiable...
Don’t Settle For An “OK” Marriage
Settling for “okay” feels safe, but it quietly shrinks your marriage. We dig into why cruise control robs connection and how a few intentional shifts can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure. From writing a simple family mission to ...
10 Things You Must Know To See Lasting Change This Year
Resolutions powered by adrenaline rarely survive February. We’re after something deeper: a year that actually changes because your spirit leads, your mind renews, and your habits align with what God already says about you. Together we unpack wh...