Off Stage and On Duty
Welcome to Off Stage and On Duty! We’re so glad you’re here. This podcast is a safe, and supportive space for women navigating life behind the scenes, especially those whose partners work in the music or touring industry.
Episodes
21 episodes
Q&A with Sam Beretta: Real Talk from the STAGE Wives Facebook Group
In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, we’re sitting down with our in-house therapist, Sam Beretta, to answer real questions submitted by women inside the private Stage Wives Facebook group — and wow… this conversation is GOOD.Sam brin...
26 Years of Marriage in the Music Industry with Kristy Zacharias
What does it take to build a healthy marriage and family in an industry that never really slows down?In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, we sit down with Kristy Zacharias for an honest conversation about marriage, motherhood, re-entry,...
School on the Road: Navigating Your Child's Education with Lori Phelps
What does school look like when your life doesn’t follow a traditional schedule?In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, we sit down with Lori Phelps—an experienced stage wife and educator who has truly done it all. From homeschooling t...
Your Questions, Our Answers
In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, we’re answering your questions straight from the Stage Wives community—and nothing is off the table. From homeschooling vs. public school decisions to navigating family dynamics in the middle of tour lif...
Not-So-Toxic Positivity
Let’s be honest—when your spouse hits the road, it’s not all lonely nights and missed calls. In this episode, Rhyan and Ray flip the script on the narrative and talk about the good parts of tour life at home. From cereal-for-dinner nights and s...
Keeping It Close (and a Little Spicy) : Intimacy on the Road
Distance doesn’t have to mean disconnection. In this episode, we explore how couples in the music industry nurture intimacy while navigating long tours, time zones, and unpredictable schedules. We share honest conversations about staying emotio...
Seeing Both Sides of the Stage with Nikki Malloy
What happens when you’ve lived life both on the road and waiting at home?In this episode of Offstage & On Duty, we sit down with Nikki Malloy—a Stage Wife who brings a rare and deeply insightful perspective...
New Year, Same You — Coming Home to Yourself with Sam Beretta
Every January carries a quiet pressure to become someone new. New habits, new goals, new identity. But for women living the touring life — holding families together, adapting to constant change, and carrying emotional weight behind the scenes —...
You're Allowed To Lead
In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, we’re having a bold, honest conversation about leadership, authority, and why so many women hesitate to step into what they’re capable of. We explore why women often don’t volunteer for promotio...
Creating a Life That Fits: Vision, Business & Stage Life with Shea Smith
In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, we sit down with Shea Smith—business coach, business owner, stage wife, and mom—for an honest and hope-filled conversation about vision, identity, and building a life that actually fits w...
Reflections, Resilience, and the Road Ahead
As 2025 comes to a close, we’re slowing down to look back—and gently lift our eyes toward what’s ahead.In this final episode of the year, we’re reflecting on the highs, the hard moments, the lessons learned, and the quiet growth that ha...
Get to Know Your Hosts: Holiday Edition
It’s a cozy little holiday hang on Offstage and On Duty! In this lighthearted mini-episode, Rhyan and Rachel are hitting pause on the deep dives and heavy topics to bring you something fun, simple, and joy-filled: a quick “Get to Know ...
Holiday Triggers & How to Handle Them — with Sam Beretta
In this special interview, Ray and Rhy sit down with licensed therapist — and fellow Stage Wife — Sam Beretta to talk about something we all feel this time of year: holiday triggers. From family dynamics to shifting expectations to the w...
The Beauty and Biology of Belonging
Ever wondered why community feels like medicine, especially when life on the road feels lonely? In this episode, Rhy and Ray dive deep into the science and spirit of sisterhood for women in the touring world.With a sprink...
The Long Road: 32 Years of Marriage, and Music with Rhonda & Jason Halbert
In this inspiring episode of Offstage and On Duty, Rhyan and Ray sit down with powerhouse couple Rhonda and Jason Halbert, who have spent over three decades navigating marriage, family, and the fast-paced world of touring.
Licensed to Listen: A Conversation with Therapist and Stage Wife Sam Beretta.
This week on Offstage & On Duty, Rhy and Ray sit down with licensed therapist Sam Beretta—a woman who not only understands the world of mental health but lives the life of a Stage Wife herself. Sam brings both her clinical expertise and per...
Re-entry and Victim Mentality
Rhy and Ray get real about the trap of victim thinking — from the excuses that hold us back to the messy re-entry moments when husbands return from the road. They share how building habits, owning responsibility, and stepping into your authorit...
Comparison Is a Thief, Not a Mentor
Ever feel like you’re constantly measuring yourself against someone else’s life? In this episode, Rhyan and Ray dig into the sneaky trap of comparison—and how it robs us of joy, peace, and perspective. Through honest stories and plenty o...
Lonely But Not Alone
Feeling invisible? You’re not the only one. In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, Ray and Rhy get real about loneliness — the kind that sneaks in when the house is loud with kids but quiet with connection. We’ll talk about the difference bet...
Taming the Thought Spiral
When your husband’s on the road and the house is quiet, your thoughts can get loud—and not in a good way. In this episode, Ray and Rhy unpack how to stop the mental free-fall we call the “thought spiral.” Through Scripture, relatable tou...
Welcome to the Sisterhood
In this very first episode, meet your hosts Rhyan Shirley and Rachel Smith — co-founders of STAGE Wives, a support group for women whose husbands travel in the music industry. Together, they share the heart behind this new community, and what y...