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Be Better.
This podcast is for successful men who feel reactive or disconnected at home and want to become calm, confident, grounded leaders.
I’m Harrison Orr — husband, father, men's coach and creator of The Grounded Man Method — and I share the tools that helped me break Nice Guy patterns, regulate my nervous system, and rebuild connection in my marriage.
Each episode gives you practical wisdom, deep conversations, and proven frameworks to help you show up stronger for yourself, your wife, and your kids.
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Episodes
60 episodes
You're Killing Desire, Connection, and Masculine Confidence By Avoiding This One Thing l EP. 58 l
In this episode of the Be Better podcast, I talk about one of the most confronting truths for married men: you’re not losing intimacy because your wife doesn’t desire you – you’re losing intimacy because you’re too scared to ask what’s actua...
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Episode 58
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20:41
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Your Marriage Won’t Break From Fighting — It Will Break From Avoiding the Truth l EP. 57 l
In this episode of the Be Better podcast, I break down a confronting truth most high-performing Nice Guys never see clearly: you’re not afraid of conflict – you’re afraid of being wrong. Deep down, you believe that if someone sees you’re...
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Episode 57
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21:48
You Can’t Lead Your Wife… Because You're Not Even Leading Yourself. l EP. 56 l
In this episode, I break down one of the most confronting truths I’ve learned after coaching nearly 500 men: you don’t have a marriage problem — you have a self-leadership problem.I walk you through why your wi...
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Episode 56
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28:23
Reactive, Burnt Out & Overstimulated? Here’s WTF Nervous System Regulation Really Means l EP. 55 l
You’ve heard it before: “Regulate your nervous system.” But what does that actually mean? In this episode, I break down nervous system regulation without the BS & jargon — what it is, why you keep reacting des...
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Episode 55
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35:56
When Helping Becomes Control: The Hidden Need Beneath Kindness l EP. 54 l
Nice guys don’t help because they’re selfless. They help because they’re scared—of rejection, of not being needed, of losing love. In this episode of Be Better, I break down how over-giving and unspoken expectations destroy connection,...
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Episode 54
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22:49
You Only Feel Valuable When You’re Productive — That’s the Problem l EP. 53 l
If you feel guilty when you slow down — when you’re not working, not producing, not achieving — it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because your nervous system and identity were built around performance. In this ep...
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Episode 54
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18:43
Redefining Masculinity: The Words That Are Keeping Men Weak l EP. 53 l
Most men (& online coaches/influencers) throw around words like “masculinity,” “presence,” and “leadership” without ever defining them. And if you can’t define it — you’ll never live it. In this episode, I break down the ...
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Episode 53
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22:51
Why You SHOULD Take Things Personally (If You Actually Want to Grow) l EP. 52 l
We’ve all been told not to take things personally… but what if that’s the exact thing holding you back from becoming the man you’re meant to be?In this episode, I break down one of the most misunderstood emotional habits for high-perform...
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Episode 52
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24:23
3 Game-Changing Shifts That Transformed My Relationship (Without Needing Her to Change) l EP. 51 l
If you want a deeper, more connected relationship without needing your partner to change, this episode is for you.I share the 3 most powerful relationship shifts that have radically improved my marriage — and they all sta...
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Episode 51
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20:35
The Hidden Reason Your Wife Doesn’t Trust You Anymore (Hint; She's Sees Right Through You) l EP. 50 l
Most men think they’re being loving partners. They help more around the house. They plan date nights. They buy flowers. But deep down, there’s an agenda — “If I do this, maybe she’ll finally…”This is the hidden...
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Episode 50
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19:50
Evolving Beyond the Nice Guy: Emotional Awareness and Control l EP. 49 l
Ever lose your cool, bottle it up, or find yourself hijacked by emotion—only to feel regret, guilt, or disconnection after? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. But you are missing a core skill almost no one teaches men:Nerv...
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Episode 49
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21:33
Make radical change FAST by learning this one skill. If all your self‑improvement still isn’t working, you’re fixing the wrong thing. l EP. 48 l
You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve tried the date nights, the breathwork, the routines… So why are you still stuck? You haven't mastered this one, high level skill.In this episode...
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Episode 48
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20:26
How to Stop Being Triggered & Reactive All the Time (Without Becoming a Doormat) l EP. 47 l
If you feel like you’re constantly snapping at your kids, shutting down around your wife, or just one comment away from losing it — this episode is for you.Harrison Orr breaks down exactly why high-performing Nice Guys stay...
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Episode 47
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28:52
The ONLY 3 Futures of Every Nice Guy (Pick Wisely) l EP. 46 l
In this episode, I step into the role of your “Nice Guy Medium” to lay out the three possible futures every self-aware Nice Guy faces — and the brutal consequences (or rewards) of each one.Whether you’re currently stuck in people-...
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Episode 46
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32:07
If You’re Only Growing to Save the Marriage, You’re Not Growing at All - The 6 Phases To Evolve No One Talks About l EP. 45 l
If you think doing the work will save your marriage — you’ve already lost.This episode walks you through the full transformation from Nice Guy to mature, grounded masculine leadership. And more importantly, why doing it for her, the kids...
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Episode 45
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52:00
Why Nice Guys Never Get What They Want (And What Respected Men Do Instead) l EP. 44 l
This is the brutal truth most high-performing men refuse to admit...You're successful in business. You’re respected at work.But at home? You're either being ignored, resented… or silently losing your wife’s trust — one “nice guy” mo...
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Episode 44
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18:22
Why Being a Nice Guy Isn’t Enough (and What She’s Actually Waiting For) l EP. 43 l
Most men think being nice, helpful, and easygoing will make their wife love them more. But here’s the truth: She doesn’t want you to do more. She wants you to be more — more decisive, more grounde...
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Episode 43
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32:39
The Truth About Leading Your Relationship - She Won’t Just Hand You the Reins — Why Leading as a Man Requires Earning It l EP. 42 l
You said you wanted to lead your wife, your relationship, your family — good. But don’t expect her to hand you the reins without a test.In this episode, I unpack the mistake most men make when stepping into their masculine: they...
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Episode 42
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21:28
Why Being ‘Easygoing’ & 'Agreeable' Is Slowly Destroying Your Marriage l EP. 41 l
Breaking down one of the most dangerous traits holding nice guys back: being too agreeable.You’ll learn why saying “I’m easy” or “whatever you want, babe” is eroding trust in your relationship, killing polarity, and costing you respect. ...
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Episode 41
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37:22
4 Uncomfortable Lessons Every Nice Guy Needs to Learn (If He Wants to Grow Up) - This Is What Changed My Life (And Why Most Men Never Learn It) l EP. 40 l
Most men are doing the work — reading the books, listening to the podcasts, grinding away — But still feeling stuck.In this episode, I share 4 of the most powerful (and confronting) lessons that transformed how I show up ...
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Episode 40
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34:31
The 5 Core Beliefs Every Nice Guy Has To Overcome If He Wants To Evolve l EP. 39 l
Being a “nice guy” isn’t the problem. Believing it’ll earn you love, respect, or results — that’s the problem.In this episode, I break down the 5 core beliefs that most men are operating from — and why they’re ...
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Episode 39
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38:17
The Reason She’s Pulling Away (And Why Being ‘Nicer’ Isn’t Working) - Chasing Her Validation Made You Weak — And What to Do Instead l EP. 38 l
You’re terrified of losing her. But what if that fear is the very thing driving her away? In this episode, I open up about the old version of me — the insecure, anxious nice guy who clung to his partner like his life depended on it.<...
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Episode 38
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19:05
Why Hustling Harder Was Making Me a Worse Father & Slowing Down Felt Like Weakness — That Was Wrecking My Marriage l EP. 37 l
Most men think they’ll just “figure it out” when fatherhood hits. I thought the same — until my old habits nearly wrecked the one thing that mattered most: my presence.In this episode, I break down the hardest mindset shift I ha...
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Episode 37
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20:43
5 Nice Guy Habits That Almost Destroyed My Marriage (& what to do about them) l EP. 36 l
In this episode of The Be Better Podcast, I break down 5 Nice Guy Traps that nearly ruined my relationship, my leadership, and my masculinity—and exactly how I broke free.We cover:Why indecision kills trust an...
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Episode 37
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40:46
The 3-Step Cure to Nice Guy Syndrome (Without Becoming Everything You Hate) l EP. 36 l
If you’re a man who’s sick of being the nice guy — the people-pleaser, the pushover, the guy who bends until he breaks — this episode is your wake-up call. I break down the 3 exact steps to evolve into a grounded, res...
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Episode 36
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26:00