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Be Better.
This podcast is for successful men who feel reactive or disconnected at home and want to become calm, confident, grounded leaders.
I’m Harrison Orr — husband, father, men's coach and creator of The Grounded Man Method — and I share the tools that helped me break Nice Guy patterns, regulate my nervous system, and rebuild connection in my marriage.
Each episode gives you practical wisdom, deep conversations, and proven frameworks to help you show up stronger for yourself, your wife, and your kids.
#dontbesorrybebetter
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Episodes
78 episodes
Why You’re Still Reactive After Breathwork, Ice Baths & Nervous System Work l EP. 76 l
If you’ve done the breathwork, ice baths, meditation, journaling, and every stress-management technique you can find — yet you’re still reactive at home — this episode explains what you’re missing.I used to think my problem was ...
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Episode 76
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Why High-Performing Men Avoid Conflict At Home: The Real Reason Hard Conversations Feel Scary (Control, Certainty, Marriage) l EP. 75 l
Most married, high-performing men aren’t avoiding conflict because they “want to keep the peace.”They avoid it because uncertainty feels unsafe — and when I’m not certain I can control the outcome, my system goes into defense mode...
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Episode 75
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21:45
Why Resentment, Reactivity, and Frustration Are a Result Of YOUR beliefs - Not Other Peoples Actions l EP. 74 l
Most frustration, resentment, and emotional reactivity in a man’s life doesn’t come from what people do.It comes from the lens he’s using to interpret it.In this episode of the Be Better Podcast, I break down the unc...
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Episode 74
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43:17
The Successful Man Trap: Why Smart, Disciplined Men Stay Stuck in Their Marriage l EP. 73 l
Most men who feel stuck in their marriage or personal life aren’t lazy, weak, or broken.They’re capable.And that’s exactly why they stay stuck.In this episode of the Be Better Podcast, I break down why high-performin...
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Episode 73
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29:59
Why the hardest-working men struggle most at home l EP. 72 l
If you’re a disciplined, high-performing man who prides himself on work ethic — and yet your marriage, presence at home, or sense of fulfillment still feels off — this episode will challenge how you define “hard work.”In this episode I b...
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Episode 72
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25:50
Being a Nice Guy Isn’t the Problem — This Is (And How Grown Men Evolve Out of It) l EP. 71 l
Being a “nice guy” isn’t a personality flaw. It isn’t weakness. And it isn’t a life sentence.What most men call “being a nice guy” is actually a protection system — a set of learned survival strategies that once ...
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Episode 71
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49:23
48 Hours to Stop Reacting and Start Feeling Solid Again As A Man l EP. 70 l
Most high-performing men don’t lose connection overnight — they lose themselves when emotional tension rises . In this episode, I walk through exactly what I would do to stop reacting and feel solid again as a man in u...
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Episode 70
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50:53
Why ‘Being Calm’ Feels Fake (And Why Your Wife Can Tell) l EP. 69 l
Many high-performing men do all the “right” things—breathwork, ice baths, meditation, journaling—yet still feel reactive, defensive, or tense at home. In this episode of the Be Better Podcast, Harrison Orr explains why nervous...
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Episode 69
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20:12
Money Won’t Fix Your Marriage If You Can’t Handle This One Thing (& It's The ONLY Way To Measure A Man) l EP. 68 l
You can measure a man by one thing: how much truth he’s willing to face.In this episode of Be Better, I break down why high-performing men who dominate in business still feel underpowered at home — and why “trying harder”...
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Episode 68
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32:44
Why “Putting Her First” Is Ruining Your Leadership l EP. 67 l
Nice guys believe they’re selfless.They say yes. They avoid conflict. They let their partner decide because “she’ll be happier that way.”But after coaching nearly 500 men, I’ve learned something most nice guys do...
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Episode 67
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16:10
Stop Calling It a Projection and Start Owning Your Shit l EP. 66 l
Most high-performing men don’t struggle because they’re “too sensitive.” They struggle because they can’t discern what’s actually theirs to own… and what’s simply someone else’s emotional reality.So they do what Nice Guys always...
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Episode 66
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33:36
Why She Feels Like the Man — And It’s Killing Attraction. Millionaire Nice Guy Alex Eubank Case Study l EP. 65 l
Why do so many high-performing men feel powerful in business and strangely underpowered at home?In this episode of Be Better, I break down a psychological and relational case study inspired by fitness influencer Alex Eubank — no...
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Episode 65
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28:12
Stop Avoiding Conflict Like a Nice Guy (Handle It Like a Grounded Man) l EP. 64 l
Most men don’t avoid conflict because they’re weak. They avoid it because they don’t know how to stay grounded when emotions rise.In this episode, I break down the critical difference between nice guy avoidance and gro...
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Episode 64
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26:14
Why Nice Guys Struggle to Make Decisions (And How It’s Killing Attraction in Their Marriage) l EP. 63 l
If you’re a nice guy, one of the most damaging habits you’ve built isn’t obvious — it’s your fear of making decisions. Not the big ones like marriage or business. The small, daily ones where you say “I don’t mind,” “up to ...
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Episode 63
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21:59
F*ck Your Goals. Set Your Standards (Or 2026 Will Look Exactly Like 2025) l EP. 62 l
Most men don’t fail because they aim too low. They fail because their standards are weak.In this episode of the Be Better Podcast, I break down why goals, New Year’s resolutions, and motivation-based plans don’t work — an...
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Episode 62
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27:50
If I wanted to STOP being a nice guy in 2026. I'd do this. l EP. 61 l
If I wanted to stop being a Nice Guy in 2026, this is exactly where I’d start. After coaching almost 500 men, I’ve seen one pattern show up over and over again: men don’t get stuck because they’re weak, broken, or inc...
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Episode 61
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32:32
Avoiding Conflict Is Destroying Your Marriage (And You Don’t Even See It) l EP. 60 l
In this episode, I break down one of the most damaging Nice Guy patterns eroding modern relationships: avoiding the hard conversations and never coming back to them.If you’re the kind of man who smooths things over…&n...
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Episode 60
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24:47
Her Mood Shouldn’t Control Yours — And If It Does, Listen to This l EP. 59 l
In this episode, I break down one of the most silent relationship killers for high-performing Nice Guys: your emotional state shifts every time hers does.If her stress makes you tense… If her frustration makes you defensi...
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Episode 59
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31:41
You're Killing Desire, Connection, and Masculine Confidence By Avoiding This One Thing l EP. 58 l
In this episode of the Be Better podcast, I talk about one of the most confronting truths for married men: you’re not losing intimacy because your wife doesn’t desire you – you’re losing intimacy because you’re too scared to ask what’s actua...
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Episode 58
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20:41
Your Marriage Won’t Break From Fighting — It Will Break From Avoiding the Truth l EP. 57 l
In this episode of the Be Better podcast, I break down a confronting truth most high-performing Nice Guys never see clearly: you’re not afraid of conflict – you’re afraid of being wrong. Deep down, you believe that if someone sees you’re...
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Episode 57
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21:48
You Can’t Lead Your Wife… Because You're Not Even Leading Yourself. l EP. 56 l
In this episode, I break down one of the most confronting truths I’ve learned after coaching nearly 500 men: you don’t have a marriage problem — you have a self-leadership problem.I walk you through why your wi...
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Episode 56
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28:29
Reactive, Burnt Out & Overstimulated? Here’s WTF Nervous System Regulation Really Means l EP. 55 l
You’ve heard it before: “Regulate your nervous system.” But what does that actually mean? In this episode, I break down nervous system regulation without the BS & jargon — what it is, why you keep reacting des...
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Episode 55
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36:02
When Helping Becomes Control: The Hidden Need Beneath Kindness l EP. 54 l
Nice guys don’t help because they’re selfless. They help because they’re scared—of rejection, of not being needed, of losing love. In this episode of Be Better, I break down how over-giving and unspoken expectations destroy connection,...
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Episode 54
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22:49
You Only Feel Valuable When You’re Productive — That’s the Problem l EP. 53 l
If you feel guilty when you slow down — when you’re not working, not producing, not achieving — it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because your nervous system and identity were built around performance. In this ep...
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Episode 54
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18:43
Redefining Masculinity: The Words That Are Keeping Men Weak l EP. 53 l
Most men (& online coaches/influencers) throw around words like “masculinity,” “presence,” and “leadership” without ever defining them. And if you can’t define it — you’ll never live it. In this episode, I break down the ...
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Episode 53
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22:51