Not Your Strong Black Woman
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Episodes
33 episodes
3 Easy Ways to Believe in Yourself
Do you struggle to believe in yourself?In Part 3 of the Lock In series, we’re talking about self-reliance and why believing in yourself matters more than you think. If you’ve ever told yourself “I can’t do this,” “I’m not disciplined,” t...
How to Build Discipline Without Motivation
Self-discipline is not about punishing yourself.It’s about learning yourself.In Part 2 of the Lock In series, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares the truth about self-discipline nobody talks about. In this episode, we discuss:...
Part 1: 3 Easy Ways to Stop Living on Autopilot
Are you ready to finally stop living on autopilot?In this episode, I’m sharing the first step of my SELF Framework to show you how to lock in and take control of your future. This is self-improvement that actually works because it starts...
4 Easy Ways to Prevent Burnout (REST)
In today’s episode, we’re talking about something many women desperately need but rarely feel allowed to do… restAfter hearing another Mother’s Day message about “being strong,” I started thinking:Why don’t we talk about rest too?
3 Easy Ways to Stop Fighting Your Feelings
Have you ever felt like you were "doing it wrong" because you couldn't just choose to be happy? I’m sharing the one secret to finding peace that nobody talks about: how to embrace the paradox of feeling two things at once.In this video,...
The Cost of Always Being Strong
In this powerful episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin breaks down the truth behind the Strong Black Woman stereotype and how it can keep many women stuck in survival mode.What looks like strength on the outside can sometimes be pain, pressure, emo...
How to Stick to Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin breaks down why setting boundaries is one thing—but keeping them is where many people struggle. If you’ve ever felt guilty saying no, found yourself overgiving, or watched people push back when you started chan...
4 Easy Ways to Stop Running on Empty
If you’ve been tired, overwhelmed, emotionally drained, but still getting everything done… this episode is for you. We’re talking about functional freeze, why so many women keep pushing past their limits, and 4 easy ways to REST using my R.E.S....
4 Easy Ways to Have Confidence in Difficult Times
When life gets hard, it’s easy to start expecting the worst. But what if confidence in difficult times starts with what you prepare your mind, body, and spirit for?In this episode, I share what shifted in me after waking up in the hospit...
4 Easy Ways to Lower Stress
Feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode?In this episode, we’re talking about stress, cortisol, functional freeze, and how chronic stress affects the body — especially for high-functioning women who keep pushing through ...
Confidence in the Storm: 3 Easy Ways to Reclaim Your Power (Even When Life Feels Heavy)
In this episode of Not Your Strong Black Woman, we explore how trauma, stress, and overwhelming life events can impact confidence—and why struggling after a storm doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.Using trauma-informed psychology,...
Breaking the Cycle of Negative Self-Talk
What if confidence isn’t something you lack—but something shaped by how you talk to yourself?In this episode of the Not Your Strong Black Woman Podcast, Nassimbwa Ruffin explores how negative self-talk quietly affects your confidence, yo...
How to Own a Room: 3 Easy Ways to be Confident
Confidence isn’t about being the loudest in the room—it’s about being rooted in who you are.In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares 3 easy, practical ways to be confident that don’t require performing, people-pleasing, or pretending to ...
5 Easy Ways to Practice Self-care
If you’ve ever said, “I don’t have time for self-care,” this episode is for you.Today, we’re breaking self-care all the way down — making it simple, doable, and something you can practice even on your busiest days.In this episode,...
3 Easy Ways to Be Vulnerable
In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin opens up about what it truly means to be vulnerable—and why so many of us avoid it. 💎 She breaks down how hiding behind strength can actually hold us back and shares three simple ways to start embracing vulnera...
3 Easy Ways to Focus on the Things You Can Control
When life feels heavy, it’s easy to spiral thinking about everything that’s out of your hands. In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares 3 simple but powerful tips to shift your focus back to what you can actually control — your mindset, your ac...
3 Easy Ways to Ask For Help Without Feeling Guilty
In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares three easy ways to ask for help without feeling guilty. She highlights how asking for support is a form of strength, not weakness. Whether it’s starting small or building a support system, Nassimbwa prov...
3 Ways to Recover from a Miscarriage
Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses miscarriage and may be emotionally challenging for some listeners.In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of loss after a miscarriage at 16 weeks and three ways I found to begin...
3 Easy Ways to Stop Negative Self-talk
In this podcast episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares three simple yet effective strategies to stop negative self-talk. She offers practical tips to help listeners shift their mindset, foster self-compassion, and build a more positive inner dialogue...
Kick Cancer's Acid!
In this episode of "Not Your Strong Black Woman Podcast" Nassimbwa Ruffin sits down with the esteemed holistic health expert, Dr. Christina Blanchard-Horan, to discuss her revolutionary book,
How To Express Your True Wants and Needs
Un-silencing yourself means breaking free from the habit of suppressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs. It involves overcoming the tendency to remain quiet to avoid conflict, preserve harmony, or maintain relationships at the expense of you...
3 Easy Ways to Stop Being Angry
In this episode, Nassimbwa delves into the nature of anger, exploring what it truly is and how it can have detrimental effects on your health. She also provides three simple and effective strategies to help you manage and reduce your anger, all...
How Humming Can Change Your Life!
Humming really starts in your early childhood. Think about it. When we are babies we are rocked to sleep by humming sounds, when we get older we make mm hmmm sounds when we agree or disagree with someone. Sometimes it’s unconsciously like...