Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.
Episodes
297 episodes
As a Recovering Porn & Sex Addict—What Is Keeping Me In My Marriage?
In this powerful PBSE conversation (Episode 298), we respond to a listener who vulnerably asked whether he is staying in his marriage out of love—or out of fear and obligation. Three and a half months into the space between Discovery Day and fu...
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Episode 298
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35:23
"Everyone Thinks He’s Great . . . But They Don’t Know the Whole Story"
In Episode 297, Mark & Steve respond to a heart-felt submission by a porn/sex addict in active recovery. He describes an ongoing situation that is very difficult for his betrayed partner and shows a great deal of genuine concern for her. He...
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Episode 297
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38:12
When Loving Him Means Losing Me—Do I Stay or Go?!
When a partner reaches the heartbreaking point of saying, “I love him, but I feel I’m losing myself,” the question of staying or leaving becomes urgent. After 21 years of repeated betrayal, secrecy, and broken promises, one woman wonders how lo...
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Episode 296
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41:14
My Partner uses Porn to Punish Me for Not Losing Weight. How do I Recover from That?!
This episode (#295) examines the devastating impact of a husband who weaponized pornography and withheld intimacy as punishment for his wife not meeting his “ideal” body standard. Over two decades, his rejection inflicted a “self-esteem massacr...
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Episode 295
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47:55
Healing for Betrayed Partners with a Sexually Abusive Past (PART 2)
This is PBSE Episode 295—When betrayal trauma collides with a history of childhood sexual abuse, partners often feel doubly overwhelmed, carrying both the scars of the past and the pain of the present. Silence, a survival strategy from childhoo...
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Episode 294
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40:05
The Impact of a Sexually Abusive Childhood on a Betrayed Partner (PART 1)
In Episode 293, Mark ands Steve address how childhood sexual abuse is a form of complex trauma that imprints deeply on a survivor’s understanding of love, trust, and sexuality. It often distorts sexual norms, blurs boundaries between consent an...
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Episode 293
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36:02
I Keep Finding Myself Hurt In Relationships with Porn/Sex Addicts—How Do I Break the Cycle?
This episode (#292) explores the repeated heartbreak many betrayed partners experience when they unknowingly enter relationships with porn or sex addicts, offering both empathy and practical strategies for breaking the cycle. It begins by affir...
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Episode 292
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37:55
Advice for Young Adults Balancing Mental Health, School, Life and Porn Addiction
In response to a powerful message from an 18-year-old listener, Mark and Steve devote this episode to young adults balancing school, mental health, and porn addiction. They applaud the listener’s maturity and self-awareness and use his story as...
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Episode 291
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40:26
Can I Have a Healthy Relationship with my Addict Partner without him Sharing His Past?
Episode 290 of the PBSE Podcast explores a powerful question submitted by a betrayed partner whose addict husband is in active recovery but refuses to discuss his past. The discussion centers on what real intimacy requires—emotional nakedness, ...
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Episode 290
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42:22
My Betrayed Partner regularly Screams & Lashes Out . . . How can I Help Her?
This episode tackles the heartfelt question of a recovering porn addict whose wife frequently screams, lashes out, and accuses him of lying—despite his efforts at sobriety and support. We emphasize that these outbursts often stem from deep, lay...
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Episode 289
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37:29
My Porn/Sex Addicted Partner tells me I just need to "Get over it" . . . So now what?!
In this powerful episode, we address the heart-wrenching story of a betrayed partner whose marriage has been scarred by nearly two decades of emotional abuse, chronic dishonesty, and sexual betrayal. Despite having initiated divorce proceedings...
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Episode 288
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38:13
My Addict Partner Keeps going Through Cycles of Taking Me For Granted! What Do I Do?
PBSE Podcast Episode 287 explores the recurring emotional turmoil experienced by a betrayed partner whose addict spouse continues to cycle through emotional relapses, despite seemingly engaging in recovery activities. Every six months, he emoti...
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Episode 287
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33:26
I'm Staying Away from Porn, But I Want to FEEL Repulsed by it. How?
PBSE Podcast Episode 286, follows the journey of a man in early recovery who is not content with simply staying away from pornography—he wants to feel a deep emotional aversion to it. The article explores this desire for integrity and congruenc...
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Episode 286
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40:08
Performance Anxiety” is Creating a WALL Between Me & My Betrayed Partner! What Advice do you have?
In relationships impacted by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, performance anxiety often becomes more than a physical issue—it’s a symptom of deeper emotional disconnection, trauma, and mistrust. Drawing from a heartfelt message submitted t...
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Episode 285
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38:44
My Addict Partner is Now Identifying as “Polyamorous” and I Don’t Agree. Now What?
In Episode 284 of the PBSE podcast, we dive into the harrowing story of a woman navigating her husband’s sudden shift from sex addiction recovery to identifying as polyamorous. After years of pain, betrayal, and dedicated recovery work, she’s n...
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Episode 284
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39:33
What if my Addict Partner and I Disagree About Boundaries—Now What?
This PBSE episode (#283) delves into the delicate issue of couples disagreeing about boundaries during addiction recovery. It begins by emphasizing that boundaries exist to protect authenticity and safety rather than to control others, undersco...
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Episode 283
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35:34
How Long Should My Former Addict Partner Maintain Sobriety and Recovery Before I Consider Getting Back with Him?
PBSE Podcast Episode 282 tackles the emotionally complex question many betrayed partners face: “How long should my former addict partner maintain sobriety and recovery before I consider getting back with him?” Rather than offering a simple time...
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Episode 282
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38:57
As a Betrayed Partner, How Do I Stop Waiting Around for the Rug to be Pulled Out from Under Me–Again?!
PBSE Podcast Episode 281, tackles the painful and familiar experience of betrayed partners who live in a constant state of anxiety, waiting for the next betrayal to surface. Centering around a listener’s heartfelt submission, the article outlin...
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Episode 281
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41:17
As a Betrayed Partner, How do I Talk to my Teenage Kids About Healthy Sexuality?
In PBSE Episode 280, Mark & Steve address the complex challenge faced by betrayed partners—especially those healing from porn or sex addiction in their relationships—who want to guide their teenage children toward healthy sexuality. It begi...
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Episode 280
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33:11
Do you REALLY want Intimate CONNECTION or Not?
PBSE Podcast 279 confronts the painful contradiction many addicts face: a deep longing for intimate connection paired with a habitual avoidance of it. Through a heartfelt partner’s submission and personal reflections, Mark and Steve illustrate ...
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Episode 279
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41:22
How Do I Navigate the Dating World After My Marriage Ended Due to Porn?
In this PBSE episode (#278), Mark & Steve delve deeply into a critical topic for betrayed partners—After enduring the deep wounds of a marriage ending due to porn addiction, stepping back into the dating world requires tremendous courage, s...
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Episode 278
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35:44
My Habit of “Pornifying” Everything has Ruined Enjoyable Media for Me & My Partner! Can We Ever be “Healthy” Again?
PBSE Episode 277 addresses a deeply personal and often overlooked consequence of pornography addiction: the loss of enjoyment in media that was once shared and meaningful within a relationship. The authors respond to a listener's question about...
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Episode 277
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44:29
Do I have to wait for the “Formal Amends” process before my Addict Partner shows any real change?
Episode 276 addresses a question often asked by partners of addicts in recovery: “Do I have to wait for the formal amends process before I see real change?” The authors explain that real transformation in recovery should not be postponed until ...
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Episode 276
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38:52
How Can He “Look Past” My Body & Be Aroused by Real Love?!
This PBSE episode (275), inspired by a listener’s vulnerable question, dives deep into the emotional complexity of intimacy in long-term relationships—particularly when one partner has struggled with pornography addiction. The woman asks how he...
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Episode 275
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39:31
Sex Isn't Mutually Pleasurable in our Relationship. How do We Elevate the Experience?
This PBSE Podcast Episode 274, centers on a partner’s heartfelt account of feeling objectified and emotionally disconnected during sex with her spouse, who is in recovery from porn addiction. Though he has given up porn and masturbation, their ...
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Episode 274
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37:22