The Wise Mind Happy Hour
Two therapists musing about the idea of an inner wise mind and how to connect with this psychic space in different contexts.
Episodes
92 episodes
interpersonal effectiveness: GIVE
Welcome to Part 2 of our DBT "interpersonal effectiveness" series." Today we focus on the GIVE skill for healthier communication and relationship repair: be Gentle, act Interested, Validate, and use an Easy Manner. (And "watch that 'tude.") 😉 W...
EMDR: how wise is it and WHAT IS IT?
WHAT IS EMDR? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. But...WHAT??? Don't worry, it'll all make more sense soon. EMDR-trained clinician Kelly Kilgallon, LCSW (and her NON-THERAPIST husband Josh Bayer) delve into the mysterious waters of ...
interpersonal effectiveness: DEAR MAN
No, DEAR MAN is not a feminist manifesto. It's a DBT tour de force. Designed for interpersonal effectiveness and developed by psychologist Marsha M. Linehan, its primary goal is "objective effectiveness"—helping you ask for what you need, say "...
ANALYZING VLADIMIR
A tenured professor, an open marriage with rules that suddenly don’t work, and a campus Title IX scandal that makes everyone pick a side. We just watched Netflix’s Vladimir (starring Rachel Weisz, Leo Woodall and John Slattery) and we couldn’t ...
Cognitive Distortions
Your mind can be brilliant and still be wrong, especially when you’re hungry, tired, anxious, or feeling rejected. Let's "get serious" about the thought patterns that quietly run so many of our worst days: magnification and minimization, catast...
LOVE LANGUAGES
Love doesn’t fail loudly most of the time. It fails quietly, in the space between what we meant and what our partner actually felt. Where do you land on love languages and top sheets?- music by blanket forts -
FEAR OF THERAPY
Therapy is scary. If you're a therapist, if you're a client...SCARY. (Sorry we're releasing before Halloween.) We discuss some of the most common fears and delve deep into the rabbit hole of the vulnerabilities that therapy can unearth....
When is it Wise to PUSH Yourself?
So, in the name of PUSHING OURSELVES, we are pushing ourselves to run a re-run of an old episode and let go of our PERFECT PODCASTING STREAK ⚡️ is this wise? YOU TELL US. (New content coming next week!!!)💿 music by blanket forts 💿 ...
THE PLIGHT OF THE ELDEST DAUGHTER
Are you an ELDEST DAUGHTER? Have you ever felt like the world rests on your shoulders? Do you ever envy your middle and younger siblings (or...gasp...your BROTHERS?) Then this episode's for you. (And if you're a curious middle or inquisitive ba...
The DBT Consultation Agreement - Pt. 02
Jon rejoins us for our robust analysis of the last 3 tenets of the DBT Consultation Agreement: 1) observing limits, 2) the non-judgmental stance and 3) the fallibility agreement.💿 music by blanket forts 💿
ALICE & STEVE GO TO THERAPY
Y'all seen 2026 Hulu smash hit TV show "Alive and Steve" starring Jemaine Clement from "Flight of the Conchords?" Want HELLA SPOILERS? Conflicted about aging? Well then you've come to the right place.💿 music by blanket forts 💿
how wise is TALKING ABOUT YOUR FERTILITY JOURNEY?
Jon is literally on vacation (he is sorely missed) so we decided to take this opportunity to talk about our fertility journey. How wise is THAT?- music by blanket forts -
The DBT Consultation Agreement - Pt. 01
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) consultation team agreements are the backbone of effective DBT consultation groups. Today we delve into 3 of these key agreements: 1) "no absolute truth, look for what’s left out," 2) "don't fragilize your...
the wisdom of SELF COMPASSION + ironing clothes
For those of you who roll your eyes at the term "self compassion"...this ep is worth a listen. (Or at least a read through the transcript.) Many of us are so stuck in a trance of unworthiness, that it might seem like self compassion is overly i...
Why Would You Pay to Talk to a Man?
Today we explore a counterintuitive trend among women: intentionally seeking out straight, male therapists for their mental health care. Inspired by The Cut article "Why Would You Pay to Talk to a Man?" by Meaghan O'Connell, we dive deep into t...
Therapeutic Presence
Kelly Kilgallon (LCSW) and Jon Butz (LCPC) dive deep into “Therapeutic Presence: Therapists’ experience of presence in the psychotherapy encounter,” an article by Shari M. Gellar & Leslie S. Greenberg. What does it mean for a therapi...
OPPOSITE TO EMOTION ACTION
What if we told you that 96 % of your emotional impulses are counter to your values...would you be surprised? Better yet, what if we challenged you to act "in opposite" to your impulses? Maybe this sounds crazy, but studies show that it could c...
the wisdom of LANGUAGE (feat. Mikhl Yashinsky)
Yiddishist Mikhl Yashinsky joins us to dissect the psychology of language...what if we all spoke every language (or at least tried?) Would we have global peace? And what if we approaching learning new languages through the lens of curiosity rat...
(over)analyzing SHRINKING
2 therapists get together to discuss the hit Apple TV show "Shrinking" ❤️🔥 did somebody say "spinoff potential?"- music by blanket forts -
THE INNER CRITIC
Criticism can be hard to hear...but what about the criticism coming from inside our own brains? We all have our own unique form of "inner critic." And while a hateful internal monologue can be a tough beast to tame, perhaps the first step is un...
what's your FAVORITE form of THERAPY? (feat. Ethan Krasman MSW)
CBT, DBT, psychodynamic, ACT, EMDR...you might be familiar with some (or all) of these acronyms. Therapy can be taught in many forms, and we all have our preferences (both as therapists and clients.) BUT: is it possible that these various appro...
psychological FLEXIBILITY
How does it feel to literally STRETCH YOUR BRAIN? We all know what flexibility is...but what about "psychological flexibility?" OK, maybe it's not that confusing...but what if we make it EVEN LESS CONFUSING? Learn what can happen to your wise m...
MANIFESTATION w/ Megan Fojo
Can I get that "woo woo?" Special guest Megan Fojo joins us for a deep dive into the wise world of manifestation.
🥳 the psychology of THE BIRTHDAY 🥳 (feat. Dr. Alisa Bayer, PhD)
We all have mixed feelings about our birthday...right? Whether it's mortality, aging, or simply "celebrate me / don't celebrate me," birthdays can bring out the best and/or worst in us. Dr. Alisa Bayer, PhD joins us for a deep-dive into the unp...
💔 BAD MARRIAGE ADVICE 💔 (feat. Monica Tanner)
Don't go to bed angry. Don't marry someone who's "moody." "If they love us enough, they'll JUST KNOW." These little nuggets of marriage advice are so ingrained in our brains that many of us take them for the gospel...but what if we debunk these...